How to Ask Your Wife to Peg You

Have you asked your wife to peg you?

Pegging—it seems like it’s everywhere! Even though it’s nothing new, kinks for anal pleasure and female domination have merged into the thrilling pleasure of her in a strap-on dildo, taking you up the ass.

A lot of men find themselves begging their girlfriends or wives for anal sex. You might be here again, even if the tables have turned in another direction! You want to try pegging with your wife, but you’re not sure how to ask her.

If you’ve been hoping that she’ll bring it up, beg you to peg you, or command you to drop your drawers, so she can overtake you with her cock in a harness, you’re not alone.

How to Ask Her to Peg You

Here are tips to start the pegging conversation and get your wife to peg you.

Don’t assume your wife isn’t into pegging.

Taking charge in the bedroom and overturning long-time taboos is very arousing to many women. But even women who are dominant, adventurous, or love anal may not express their curiosity.

She might be waiting for you to suggest you both try pegging.

She may assume it’s something you don’t want, or something other people play at but not you.

She may be curious or just open minded, but it just hasn’t come up yet.

She may be generally submissive and not want to be the one to ask.

She may not have thought of it at all but that doesn’t mean she isn’t willing to explore new things in bed.

She may not know you’re interested, and doesn’t want to bring it up if you aren’t.

She may not know she’s interested, but once you ask her to try pegging, it could turn her on. Unless she has already made clear that this is off limits, there’s no reason to assume that pegging is off limits!

Read: 5 Signs She Might Want to Peg You

Your wife does not have to be dominant or into femdom to enjoy pegging.

Pegging is often associated with femdom, BDSM, domination and submission, sissification, and other female-led kinks and fetishes.

Pegging is also something for everyone else.

Pegging a guy has dominant qualities and BDSM contexts, but it is not limited to femdom kinks. All it means is that a female performs anal sex on her male partner. You don’t have to be into femdom or even kinky to enjoy pegging.

Some couples see her pegging him as a very sensual, intimate kind of sex. You don’t have to be submissive or into any particular kink or fetish. Anyone can enjoy anal penetration, whether they are dominant, submissive, switches, or not particularly kinky.

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Start the conversation about pegging.

There’s no beating around the bush. If you want to ask your wife or girlfriend to try pegging, you’ll have to bring up the subject.

Be candid and frank.

Here are a few possibilities for opening the pegging conversation.

“I’ve been thinking about exploring more anal play. I’d love to try pegging. How do you feel about pegging? Is it something you’ve ever thought about?”

“I love our bondage play dates, especially when you tell me what to do and spank me. I sometimes fantasize about you taking me completely. If you think about pegging me, I’d love to try it.”

“I really love how much you enjoy anal sex. I’d love to experience what you do. Do you ever think about pegging me?”

“It turns me on when you play with my ass and I would like to try full penetration if you are open to it.”

Read: How to Tell Your Wife that You’re Kinky

Don’t miss the chance to ask when she brings it up.

If she brings it up, don’t let the moment go by. Maybe she is telling you the dirty things she wants to do to you, and you just groan or explode. If she says she wants to fuck your ass, use that as the perfect way in: “I’ve been dying for you to take me. Let’s make it happen.”

If it’s something she brought up in the past, but you didn’t act, just say so.

“Last year you mentioned your pegging fantasy, and I wasn’t sure if it was just dirty talk. Do you still think about it? I do. Would you like to try pegging?”

Read: 5 Reasons to Try Her Kinks

Ask your wife to try pegging during fantasy talks.

A lot of kinky couples (mixed couples and vanilla couples) have occasional fantasy talks or check-ins, or fantasy just comes up openly in conversation. If this is the kind of relationship you have, wonderful—don’t leave out the pegging conversation.

Next time you and your wife are talking about your fantasies, let her know the idea turns you on.

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Make sure she knows you’ve changed your mind about pegging.

If there was a time that she brought up pegging and you weren’t into it then, or if you brought it up at some point and expressed the idea that this didn’t appeal for whatever reason, make sure she knows you’ve changed your mind.

She won’t bring it up again if she assumes you’ve already shared your views on the pegging subject!

Just say, “When you mentioned the story about anal sex last year, I couldn’t really see myself being pegged. But now we’re much closer and have had such wonderful sex that I feel curious. I’m open to pegging if you’re still curious.”

“When Bill and Irene were joking about pegging last year, and you asked me about it, I wasn’t really into the idea. Honestly, that’s changed, and I’ve been fantasizing about you wearing a strap-on. Do you still want to explore that side of us?”

Read: Pegging Positions that Feel Amazing for Both

Use porn to start the conversation.

When pegging comes up in porn or an erotic story, gauge her response to see if it’s the right time to ask your wife to peg you.

If she expresses disgust, or laughs about it, don’t assume that’s the final word. “Is that really how you feel? I think about it sometimes,” can open the conversation nicely.

Of course, if it is her boundary don’t push. But sometimes we don’t say what’s really on our mind, or look past our initial, socially ingrained responses.

If she shows interest in pegging in porn, tell her straight up that you’d love to try and have her peg you!

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