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How to Turn Your Girlfriend into a Dominatrix

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Want a femdom girlfriend? Follow these tips to bring out your lover’s inner dominatrix.

Are you a submissive man at heart who is tired of taking the lead in the bedroom?

Most women want their men to dominate them during sex, but there are some ladies who have a secret desire to take control. They don’t necessarily want to operate a dungeon and work as a dominatrix for hire. They may just want to play the role part-time with their lover.

Switching roles in the bedroom is a playful way to explore your and your partner’s limits and boundaries.

Here are a few steps that will help your girlfriend take the lead.

8 Tips for a Dominatrix Girlfriend

1. Share your Fantasies

Even the most forward of women aren’t mind readers. If you want to be your lover’s slave or endure a little flogging, you’ll have to speak your mind.

Open dialogue when it comes it sex only makes it better.

2. Be Flexible

If she’s said she’s totally into whipping your ass or pushing those stilettos into your hood-covered face, agree in return to stay lighthearted if things run off course

And make sure you experiment. Her fetishes and fantasies are important too, and you should try them!

3. Watch Porn Together

There’s so much kinky porn out there to explore. Not only can it turn you both on, but it will also give you an idea of what your partner might be into. Let her choose what you watch.

4. Try Roleplay

Much of my early exploration in BDSM came about through role playing. All you need is your imagination and a lover who is willing to play along.

As long as you don’t take yourself too seriously, your lover will likely want to indulge you.

5. Get Her the Gear

Playing the role of a dominatrix is much easier in sexy leather and lingerie, rather than sweatpants and slippers. Shop together or surprise her with a hot little number to wear.

You’ll also want to check out our Stockroom.com for all the accessories a dominatrix would use such as whips, handcuffs, floggers, and ball gags.

6. Visit a Dominatrix Together

When you really like someone and want to be with them for more than just a hookup to explore the deeper parts of yourselves together, and when that someone is open to the idea and wants to give you that, then suggest this awesome experience.

By sharing the experience of visiting a professional domme together, your girlfriend will be able to get feedback from both the dominatrix and you. By experiencing sessions together, you can bond more deeply and she’ll develop the confidence she needs to dominate you.

7. Dont Get Too Extreme in the Beginning

Trying to throw all of our sexual needs, kinks, and fetishes into an early session is greedy, but it also means there’s no point in a sexual journey with someone.

Once I dated a hot professor. I knew he was into some seriously kinky stuff and I couldn’t wait to play. But ten minutes after we started, he told me that ropes and fucksaws were for baby BDSMers. He wanted to asphyxiate me and do dangerous vampire biting. I ended up leaving before anything happened.

Start slow with your BDSM exploration. There’s nowhere left to go if you’ve already gone there.

8. Be Patient

Practice makes perfect. Don’t be selfish and judgemental when things go more slowly than you would like. Think of it as a journey together, not a one-time event that needs to go seamlessly.

Turning your girlfriend into a dominatrix isn’t going to happen overnight. She may catch on like wildfire, but it will likely be a slower transition. A true dominatrix is not born in a day!

Still single and looking for a dominant girlfriend?

Read: How to Find a Dominatrix Near You

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