Gay men might not know about the intricacies of eating pussy, fingering her until she squirts, or how to fuck her tits. But there are still a lot of things straight dudes can learn about great sex from gay guys. Here are a few.
Sex Tips for Straight Men (from Gay Men)
Your whole body is a sex organ.
Some straight guys localize all of their sexual energy in their cock, or maybe your cock and your muscles. The focus is on fitness and your dick. That’s great, but those are only two aspects of a man’s sexuality.
Like gay men, women see your whole body as sexual. We appreciate your butt cheeks, your stomach, your nipples and chest, your arms, your hands, your thighs, your neck, your face.
Not only does the whole picture appeal to us, but YOU can experience greater sexual pleasure by discovering nerves and sensations in and around every part of your body, not just your dick. Men who love men appreciate men, but all men can increase their pleasure by bringing their whole body into sex.
Don’t forget your testicles.
Gay men have all kinds of kinky ball things. Some straight guys are into cock and ball torture (CBT), or testicle tickling, or ball crushing, or teabagging, but lots of you neglect your testicles during sex.
Your balls are very sensitive, and bringing them into bed with you can mean more variety for the pleasures of oral sex. Testicle play can also increase sensation in your cock. Kinky women might love to tie up your testicles, or restrain you from orgasm by focusing on your balls and the ultra sensitive area from the inner thighs to the taint instead of your cock.
Kinky sex is unlimited, imaginative, and enriching.
Gay men don’t have a monopoly on kink, of course, but because their very sexual expression was once considered deviant, being gay was in and of itself “kinky” for a while. So many gay guys just said fuck you to the arbiters of busybody morality and made their own underground. Gay men helped advance a broader acceptance of sexual variety for all of us.
Not sure where to meet people to have kinky sex with? Check out our guide to kinky dating sites to find local partners who share your kinks.
Aesthetics matter.
Perhaps the most important thing straight guys can learn from gay men is that aesthetics matter.
You hear over and over that men are “visual.” It might be expressed differently in female sexuality, but we are also visual. Women like to see male beauty, and we appreciate simple aesthetic gestures like a decent shave, a nice shirt open and showing your chest hair, tight jeans, and good hygiene. And let’s not forget manscaping!
You don’t have to be a 10 or wear designer clothing, but putting a bit of attention into your appearance and being mindful of aesthetics during sex can go a long way. For example, don’t wear sweat socks during sex!
Sex is for all kinds of bodies.
While aesthetics are important, it’s also true that there isn’t one kind of hot male. Gay men appreciate a diverse range of men, and so do we. Gay men know that whether they are young or old, fat or thin, black or white, they are sexual beings and out in the sexual marketplace enjoying a variety of pleasures.
Your ass is your pleasure.
When you hear “anal sex” your dick gets hard and you think of my butthole, but you also have an anus that can bring you a lot of pleasure in all kinds of kinky sex play.
Thankfully lots of straight guys have discovered this already and gotten over their ass hangups. It can be very exciting for a woman to play with your ass, from simply massaging it to rimming it to fucking you with a strap-on. Your ass doesn’t have to be off limits, and using it can increase the intensity of your sexual experiences.
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