The limitless imagination of kink and the sexual diversity within the fetish world doesn’t exist in a vacuum. It’s quite social in its nature, so many kinky people find that being open to a polyamorous sexual network is better for exploring than monogamy.
Reasons Kink and Polyamory Work Together
1. Kinky role playing games work better with a cast of characters.
If kinky roleplaying is your thing, and you really like to get into character, build a story or narrative, and enjoy an elaborate setting, it only makes sense to use more than two players.
2. Attending fetish parties is often a prelude to kinky threesomes or more!
Poly folks and poly curious people who want to be in more group scenes may find it difficult to connect with others for threesomes or orgies.
Not all polyamorous people hook up with more than one person at a time, but many enjoy their variety together with their main partners or flings, and finding a threesome can be as challenging for them as it is for anybody else.
On the other hand, kinky communities have fetish parties and dance clubs and kinky networking balls where people looking for creative sex are getting together. Many events have experience rooms, sex lounges, and dungeons on site to facilitate couples and group scenes.
Those who enjoy orgies or threesomes will find it easier to connect with like-minded seekers among kinky friends.
3. Kinky people often have unlimited sexual imaginations. Polyamory expands our horizons.
Kinky people are creative people. Anecdotally, I’ve noticed that we are creative in general, in many facets of our lives, and our sexuality is no different. We are curious and adventurous. We love meeting people and sharing ideas, and this extends to our sexual selves too.
4. Kinky people can entertain a variety of concepts and contradictions easily.
Traditionally minded folks often enjoy putting all of their focus into a certain area, or concentrating on one thing at a time. They see contradictions as limits or impossibilities.
Kinky people can often entertain many different mindsets at one time. For example, the idea of being committed to one person and having many lovers is a contradiction to conservative folks, but makes perfect sense to kinky people.
We might be more accepting of the contradictions in our nature or of politically incorrect truths, such as monogamy being biologically unrealistic. This means that being with more than one person enriches our souls and sex lives rather than crushing us.
5. Kink is so varied that we could use a little help from our friends!
The world of fetish and BDSM is unlimited when it comes to turn ons, games, experiments, one-offs, elaborate worlds of fantasy, tricks, thrills, journeys, etc.
Sexual connections and relationships are how we learn about other kinks, try on our own, figure out what thrills us and what doesn’t, and try new things.
Most of us are introduced to new fetishes through experimenting with a partner who is into it. We pursue our own kinks by dating people who are into kink. It’s not very often two inexperienced folks try an elaborate kink and get involved with it.
Of course many people experiment on a playful level and that’s amazing. But chances are, if you’re into Japanese rope bondage or edging, it will likely happen with people who are experienced.
That’s why polyamory works so well for the kink community. We have an elaborate network of guides and devotees who know other people and who know their way around various kinks. In this way, poly people share what they know and enrich each other with kinks.
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