There are craft cubbies, man caves, and reading—but what about a sex room? Given enough room, why wouldn’t we devote a space to one of the most important parts of our lives?
A sex room consecrates a dedicated area to pleasure, gives you and your toys or sex furniture privacy, adds ceremony and ambiance to erotica.
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A sex room can be a whole room that is dedicated to erotic pleasure, from making out to hardcore bondage, depending where your proclivities lie. You can lock it as needed, and enjoy it when you are in the mood.
Apartment life or crowded living conditions can make a separate sex room seem like a dream. But you can use your own bedroom too. Adding a few sex room elements, and keeping props and toys handy in a special toy box, will turn any room into a sex room.
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19 Ideas for Your Sex Room
1. Mood Lighting
Lighting is really important to the ambience in a sex room. You can go all out with state-of-the-art designer lighting tracks, dimmers, and couture fixtures that reflect sophistication and artistry with a versatile array of intensities.
For those of us on a budget, choose a few small, simple corner or table lamps that allow you to vary the brightness of the room.
Candles are gorgeous and sexy always.
Consider exotic, colorful lanterns from Turkey or Tunisia. Decorative lanterns add a touch of sexy flare to any sex room.
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2. Sexy Colors
Think about the colors you find exciting or classic.
Black is a standard BDSM color that is dramatic and distinct because most rooms are not dark. Red accents or surroundings are intense, and most people find red one of the sexiest colors. Baby blue and pink are super soft and sweet depending on your erotic taste. Industrial colors like bronze or platinum can be sizzling too.
3. Sexy Bedding
Don’t use ratty old sheets in your sex room! Some kinky lovers enjoy brazen animal prints like leopard or zebra for their sheets and blankets. Others like the fine sensuality of silk and satin.
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4. Beauty Matters
Whatever elements you choose for bedding, wallpaper, paint, and lamps, keep beauty in mind. Make your sex room a place to dream, touch, simmer—a place that feels beautiful and sensual.
5. Erotic Art and Photography
Amp up the aesthetic and sophistication of your sex room with erotic art and photography. You can invest in original art. There are many artists and photographers working with erotic themes. It can be hardcore or just suggestive. You can cater to your fetishes with beautiful foot photography or bondage art.
Investing to build a collection is absolutely sexy, but you can showcase gorgeous prints and magazine images on a shoestring budget too. You can choose saucy Marilyn Monroe posters simply framed, retro Playboy bunny shoots, or prints of BDSM art—whatever your taste.
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6. Sex Pillows
Sex pillows are versatile sex gear that make different sex positions or bondage positions more comfortable and accessible. A sex room can be devoted to play by stocking a variety of props and options for different ways to play.
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7. Bondage Bed
You can get a gorgeous bondage bed designed for BDSM use, or you can use the bed you have and stock restraints, hardware, straps, etc to have them ready on hand for bondage scenes.
8. Sex Swing
In a sex room, a sex swing doesn’t need to be put away, but can be there ready to use when you need it.
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9. Waterproof Sheets
Using a mattress protector or waterproof sheets in your sex room makes lovers more comfortable about a variety of kinky play options, whether G-spot squirting, the wet and messy fetish, golden showers, or just plain sweat and ejaculate.
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10. Bear Rug
Your sex room can benefit from a gorgeous bear rug if you’re into 70s decor, primal sex, or you have a fur fetish. Of course, your rug doesn’t have to be animal skin—you can use anything that feels sexy, beautiful, and jives with your fetish. There are lots of leather rug options, or just something red and luxurious.
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11. The Toy Box
Sex rooms are the perfect place to keep your sex toys, and you can show off a beautiful collection of colorful silicone dildos or artistic glass sex toys on a shelf. You can also have an old chest or ship travel trunk and use that to store all the sex toys you need.
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12. BDSM Gear
A sex room can display BDSM gear so that you can spontaneously choose the flogger, whip, muzzle, or cuffs you wish anytime. You can also keep BDSM gear in a stylish trunk or closet.
13. Spanking Bench
A sex room can benefit from a spanking bench, which is sex furniture designed for impact play like spanking or flogging. These benches are also great for bondage and for making love in different positions.
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14. Extend the Sex Room into the Bathroom
If you happen to use a master bedroom as your sex room, keep the erotic vibe going in the bathroom and enjoy romance and erotic pleasures in the bathroom. Keep sexy towels and robes at the ready, and make your lubes, oils, body washes, and perfumes part of the decor. A hot tub for an erotic soak is always a luxury.
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15. Kinky Closet
A sex room with a closet is the perfect place to store costumes, corsets, harnesses, stilettos, boots, latex catsuits, dresses, lingerie, and more.
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16. Surround Sound
Whether you just position a tiny speaker connected to your phone, or go all out with a state-of-the-art stereo system, have the option for music. From jazz to R&B to metal, music is the soundtrack for many BDSM or other erotic sessions.
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17. Bar
Show off your collection of mossy bourbons or killer wines with a sex room bar. It can be a full-on bar with martini glasses and antique silver ice buckets, or it can be a simple small bar fridge with fresh fruit juices and soda waters chilling.
18. Library
A sex room can benefit from an erotic library. Foreplay often includes conversation and anticipation, and leafing through a gorgeous sexy art book can be stimulating. You can also read out loud from erotic classics, or keep a stack of retro Playboys—whatever your personality prefers.
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19. Mirrored Ceilings, Walls, Doors
One epic mirror is all you need. Hang an antique treasure from a thrift store on the wall and amplify the visual aspects of romance. Or go full out sex room katoptronophilia with ceiling mirrors and ceiling-to-floor wall mirrors.
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However you choose to decorate and stock your sex room is entirely up to you. Start with the basics and build it over time, adding elements that contribute to your pleasure along the way.
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