Sex toys add novelty, adventure, and a sense of play to sexuality, and may be fun and pleasurable for anyone—kinky or vanilla—whatever gender or orientation they are.
BDSM gear or BDSM equipment can add variety, theater, discipline, pain, comfort, intensity, aesthetics, sensation and more to your domination and submission sessions.
Creative lovers can rig BDSM toys from everyday objects or build their own. They can also choose intriguing BDSM gear options from artisans or from anywhere they sell sex toys and products.
Read: Kinky Sex Ideas: 40 Ways to Have Kinkier Sex
24 BDSM Toys and Gear for Kinkier Sex
1. BDSM Cages
Cages are serious BDSM equipment for the ultimate bondage experience. Many describe being caged as blissful liberation. There are a variety of BDSM gear, styled for full-body enclosure, or to subdue or make accessible particular body parts.
Read: BDSM Cage Play and Bondage Cage Types
2. BDSM Gags
A BDSM gag can be a strip of leather or a ball gag. A BDSM gag can greatly add to a submissive’s feeling of vulnerability and humiliation, and can add in a layer of discipline for a dominant to enforce.
Read: Ball Gags for Beginners: 6 Types of BDSM Gags
3. BDSM Hoods
A BDSM hood can be as simple as a dark towel thrown over your submissive (loosely, making sure lots of air is flowing in, of course) or a ski mask. But part of the thrill is aesthetic, and there are gorgeous leather and latex hoods in BDSM.
A hood can have holes for eyes, nose, and mouth, or just for mouth—it must always be designed so that the submissive party can breathe.
4. BDSM X Cross
This BDSM gear is usually a stand-up piece of BDSM furniture that allows arms and legs to be spread and then bound. It’s great for spanking, punishment, discipline, humiliation, and as a BDSM task.
Read: BDSM Cross 101: All About the BDSM X-Cross
5. Blindfolds
Blindfolds are BDSM gear that add mystery and beauty to the bondage aesthetic, and are used to discipline, punish, and reward, too, because they enhance other sensations like taste and touch.
A blindfold is very common and most people experiment with them on occasion. You can tie a nice scarf over his eyes in a pinch, or use a sleeping mask. Or you can have a nice red or black leather blindfold. Some blindfolds come in the form of elaborate face masks with harnesses and ties.
Read: Blindfolds, Hoods and Masks, Oh My!
6. Bondage Cuffs
Bondage cuffs are also essential BDSM gear designed to anchor wrists and ankles and keep them restrained. They can be Velcro, lock and key, or buckle, and come in nylon, leather, latex, and more.
7. Bondage Rope
BDSM equipment by its very nature must include something to perform the literal bondage.
Rope is classic. For the ancient rope arts that include skillful knotting and yoga-like positioning of the rope bunny, you can find special rope designed for the task. You can get this BDSM gear in a whole library of colors for a playful effect, or in plain black for versatility.
Read: What Is a Rope Bunny and How Can You Meet One?
8. Butt Plugs
Butt plugs can be inserted and left in place during kinky play, and they can be part of dress up and power exchange relationships in pony play or kitten play.
Read: 8 Reasons to Use a Butt Plug during Kinky Sex
9. CBT Tools
Cock and ball torture (CBT) can involve floggers, clamps, weights and more.
Read: CBT Toys and Ball Busting Gear Ideas
10. Chastity Belts and Cages
Chastity play can be part of BDSM training, cuckolding, submission, humiliation, or bondage. Chastity belts and chastity cages are BDSM toys that enforce chastity by preventing masturbation or sexual contact.
Read: 10 Femdom Chastity Ideas to Drive Him Wild
11. Cock Rings
This simple sex toy can be a BDSM toy that enhances male pleasure, lets him last longer, or holds his cock or full genitalia in bondage.
Read: Q&A: Exploring Cock Rings
12. Collar and Leash
The collar and leash are classic BDSM toys. They are powerful symbols of domination or submission.
The collar and leash are are important and sometimes even sacred to relationship and ritual, as many BDSM couples use collaring for symbol and ceremony of ownership that some equate or parallel to marriage.
Read: 9 Types of BDSM Collars
13. Dildos
The dildo has been used for thousands of years for penetration pleasure. Most dildos today are made of lifelike silicone or in an array of fun colors and shapes, not tusk or bone, but the aim is the same.
Dildos are not just for kinky lovers, but they can be a BDSM toy. They can be withheld for punishment and discipline, or enforced for the same.
Dildos can be used for pegging, cuckold humiliation, and more. They can be put in place and left as part of restraint and bondage.
Read: 5 Sexy Dildos to Try with Your Kinky Lovers
14. Electrosex Gear
While using energy-powered BDSM sex toys that vibrate is very common, some folks have a fetish for electrosex equipment that delivers electricity by way of a shock.
There are multiple kinds of toys, designed for female e-stimulation, male e-stimulation, nipple e-stimulation, and more.
Read: Extreme BDSM: 24 Examples of Hardcore BDSM
15. Fetish Wear
Of course, the realm of fetish wear is vast and varied with every conceivable kink available in costume or fashions. Exploring different BDSM gear through fashion role play is a great way to try on different fetishes and see where they take you.
Read: Dominatrix Outfit and Femdom Clothing Ideas
16. Floggers, Whips, and Paddles
BDSM toys for spanking are widely popular, and range from floggers, whips, paddles, canes, and beyond. Explore the range of BDSM spanking gear. You may already enjoy spanking with a paddle, but explore the subtle, and not so subtle, variations in sensation that come from using different spanking devices.
Read: Flogging for Beginners
17. Fucking Machines
A fucking machine is BDSM equipment designed to mechanically give penetrative sex with a dildo on an automatic device.
This BDSM gear usually offers various speeds of fucking and fits various sized dildos. It can be used to perform fucking while someone is tied up and helpless. It can be used for punishment, BDSM training, or simply to get off.
Read: BDSM Training: A Guide for Beginners
18. Medical Fetish Toys
The medical fetish world is its own kinky kingdom, with a lot of overlap when it comes to BDSM. The various props, furniture, and surgical instruments can be BDSM equipment used in bondage, restraint, discipline, sadism and masochism games, and power exchange relationships.
Just a few of the medical fetish toys that could be used as bondage gear for medical kinks in BDSM are nurse outfits, enemas, operating tables, straps and straight jackets, and needles.
Read: Medical Fetish and the Allure of Medical Kinks
19. Nipple Clamps
Kinky couples who love nipple torture enjoy these classic BDSM toys. Nipple clamps come in a variety of levels of pressure to suit individual tastes in pleasure.
Read: His and Hers Guide to Nipple and Breast Torture
20. Penis/Pussy Pumps
Penis pumps and pussy pumps are used to engorge the genital area and make it hurt so good. This BDSM toy can add novelty, variety and new sensations to folks who are experimenting with different ways to play. They can be used for humiliation and punishment as well as reward.
Penis pumps can be used in small cock humiliation or cuckolding play. For some people pussy pumping is a bona fide fetish, and they are excited by the look and feel of the engorged vulva that results from pumping.
21. Spanking Bench
The spanking bench is BDSM furniture designed for someone to bend over and enjoy a nice long spanking.
Read: Find the Right Spanking Bench for You
22. Spreader Bar
This BDSM gear essential is a bondage toy designed to keep legs or ankles spread. It basically looks like a bar with cuff restraints on either side, and holds your lover’s legs in the position you want them in.
23. Strap-On Dildo
The strap-on dildo and strap-on harness are the best BDSM sex toys for pegging.
Read: Strap-On Dildo Guide: 9 Types of Pegging Dildos
24. Vibrators
Powerful vibrators can be used as BDSM gear, too, and are especially prized for forced orgasms.
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