I was out shopping for fetish clothing, helping my friend Rick find the right corset. I couldn’t help treating myself to a cute set of red rubber hotpants, but that’s another story! Afterwards, Rick and I sat down for a cappuccino. That’s when Rick said, “Kinky women are hard to find. You’re the only one who’s versatile and hardcore. Some women try out a kink now and again for fun, but they don’t take it seriously.”
Say what? Lots of women have fetishes! But I had to admit he wasn’t totally wrong—there are many kinks where men outnumber us by huge margins.
Some of the most common kinks simply don’t work both ways. You won’t find too many gals who collect dude’s used underwear, or who want to sniff your sneakers.
I think there are some women who get off on every fetish you can imagine, but that most women gravitate to a few fetishes in particular.
What Kinks do Women Like?
BDSM
Bondage and discipline, and S&M, are catchalls for a vast variety of kinky practices. There’s a reason most people think of BDSM, and not adult babies or watching chicks in bikinis vomit when someone mentions kink—because almost everyone fits somewhere in BDSM, some of the time.
Sex itself is a dynamic play about power roles, and both men and women love experiencing various thrills of dominance and submission.
Many elements of BDSM appeal to women. Selling mostly to women, Fifty Shades of Grey is one of the bestselling books ever. Here’s the evidence in millions that women flock to themes of BDSM.
Role play, rape fantasies, rope arts—all of these kinky practices are BDSM fetishes that women experiment with.
Some women love to sub, and others dominate. Some, like me, play it both ways. From spanking to orgasm delay to ball crushing (CBT), there are endless kinks under the BDSM umbrella.
Exhibitionism
Here’s another win-win for all you guys who like to watch. Many women love to show off. While few of us want to dress like a vixen every day, there’s a good reason why we like to go all out with the little black dress on for special occasions, and why we all dress in fishnets as a stripper or dirty nun for costume parties.
There are at least two reasons why it’s so exciting to be watched. One, it’s exciting in and of itself to get dressed up, to express the inner wildcat. Two, this is amped up by your arousal. Seeing how aroused we make you is a huge thrill for many of us.
Dress Up
This one ties into both BDSM roleplay and exhibitionism, even crossdressing! It might be Rick’s new leather corset that thrills, or a vampire or nurse. It’s cathartic and fun to play different roles like the seductive teacher, the rich bored housewife with the pool boy, or Santa and his elf.
Dress up can be lighthearted, or it can be some serious method acting that takes us deep into another frame of mind entirely.
So surprise her with some outfits you’d like to see her in! And ask how she’s always wanted you to show up at the door…
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