Vanilla Sex in BDSM Relationships

We all know those epic sex sessions and amazing kink scenes, and it’s exciting to think about them. But we also know that everyday life is important too, even if it’s more mundane than our elaborate fetish fantasies. Dishes need doing, dogs need walking, and there’s everyday sex as well.

Ever wonder what other kinky people do in bed on regular days, when they’re not at a dungeon in Berlin after a kink festival, or have to manage a quickie before the baby wakes?

I do, so I asked kinksters a simple question: “Tell me about the last time you had sex?”

“Monday morning. My wife and I have an ongoing commitment to some kind of sex on Monday morning. The idea is to start the week off right and associate the return to routine and responsibility with pleasure as part of life. It’s often routine sex and rushed, but it’s bonding and reminds us that being together and being sexual isn’t always about whips and chains.

The more ordinary side is also intimate. This week she woke first and started jacking me off before I woke up. As I opened my eyes, she put a hand over my mouth and her mouth over my dick and sucked it right out of me. I’m getting hard now thinking about it, and it’s been on my mind during work meetings all week.” – Earl, 28

“I haven’t had any sex at all for the last three or four months, but when I did, it was two dom girls I met at a fetish party who tied me up in my garage, pissed all over me, then left me there for three hours. I came twice when they came back to get me, just from the relief. It was surreal, but nothing has happened since. I tend to have fantastic, extreme kinky sex a few times a year.” – Charlie, 46

“My new girlfriend and I have been experimenting with different bondage scenes. It takes some time to play out, so in between sessions we have fun quick sex if there’s no time for intense kink. Last night we did it in the shower. I soaped her up, she did my back, and one thing led to another. It was warm and sweet and affectionate and a nice way to end a long day laying cement. A treat for sore muscles!” – Mikhail, 25

“Umm, not since my divorce last year, except for a few working ladies. But I rubbed one out a few days ago thinking about getting a foot job from a hot blonde crossdresser in fishnets and sparkly fuschia pumps. Does that count?” -Malcolm, 33

“Wow, okay, so… on the weekend my kinky date handcuffed me to the refrigerator and spent the whole day fucking my ass with different kinds of dildos. I wasn’t allowed to come. You could say it was training day!” – Jeremiah, 29

“I met a wonderful woman at a party a couple weeks ago and we hooked up. It was pretty vanilla, at her place in bed, regular sex. That’s okay, she was beautiful and horny, and we’re getting together for a movie and more sex next week!” – Evan, 20

“Last week. With the girlfriend. I ate her pussy and fucked her with a dildo, then she climbed on top of me and we both came together. It was hot.” – Vince, 31

What was your last sexual experience like, vanilla or kinky or a bit of both?

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