Looking for something to get you in the kinky mood before meeting up with a lover? Check out these music videos and songs about BDSM for inspiration.
We are a generation inundated by popular culture. So many of our experiences are related to what media we have consumed. I know if you try hard enough you can all recall those seminal music videos of your youth, how they made you feel at that time, and the influence they had on your relationships.
I have a theory that subliminally or not, there are a few music videos that influenced and awakened me to my love of kink. This got me thinking. What are the kinkiest BDSM music videos of all time? I thought back, then referenced the now, and came up with this list.
Kinky Music Videos and Songs about BDSM
1. “Justify My Love” by Madonna
Are there any fetishes that Madonna forgot to mention?
The role player extraordinaire has done the dominatrix, the submissive, the cougar, the gold digger, the toe sucker, the masochist, the whip wielder, the rubber lover, the gender bender, the pony rider, the Parisian ‘20s lesbian, the sexy librarian, the exhibitionist, the voyeur, the religious fetishist, you name it.
Sometimes it’s hot as hell, and sometimes we cringe and think, Ma, no! But you’ve got to hand it to her rebel heart for adventurousness, inclusivity, and speaking up without flinching. The girl’s got balls.
2. “S&M” by Rihanna
Featuring the stunning starlet in a beige rubber dress walking her slave, we also get to see Rihanna in thigh-high latex and a splendid variety of bondage positions. Lest we take it too seriously, the pop singer also peels a big banana and throws pink popcorn all over the set.
This BDSM music video is a tongue in cheek performance, true, but who cares? Any chance to see RiRi half naked! That, and I don’t need much more to get off than hearing her croon, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but chains and whips excite me.”
3. “Fetish” by Joan Jett
Those who find the glossy, polished make believe of Madonna or Rihanna unconvincing might prefer the raw power of Joan Jett’s desire.
The ‘80s “I Love Rock ‘n’ Roll” babe never shied away from volatile emotions, belting out “I Hate Myself For Loving You” and strutting around in tight leather. But “Fetish” lays it all out for those who had any doubts. “Look good in latex…pain turns to pleasure fast,” she howls, “restrained, while I fuck your head…relax, while I pound your ass.”
4. “Warm Leatherette” by The Normal
Daniel Miller abandoned a film script he was working on, inspired by J.G. Ballard’s book Crash. The novel, about folks turned on by car accidents, was turned into a movie later by David Cronenberg, but Miller’s 1978 electronic-industrial ditty had long infused the underground and was covered by everyone from Grace Jones to DJ Peter Rauhofer.
“See the breaking glass in the underpass,” Miller repeats in that wicked, hypnotic voice. “Hear the crushing steel, feel the steering wheel,” he sings without even getting tongue tied.
5. “I Wanna Be Your Dog” by The Stooges
While other ’60s bands were dreaming of incense and peppermints and holding your hand, this BDSM song was three minutes of awesome begging to be made a slave.
I Wanna Be Your Dog has been a dungeon favorite since 1969, but is understood as a work of art in its own right, featuring a riff of only three guitar chords and an unusual musical instrument: sleigh bells.
“So messed up, I want you here…” As soon as I hear that iconic opening, I’m on my knees. Woof.
6. “Venus in Furs” by The Velvet Underground
Before the advent of traditional music videos there were auteur directors teaming up to make films with musicians – The Velvet Underground and director Jonas Mekas. This performance of the Velvet Underground’s nod to S&M “Venus In Furs” features onstage dancing and whipping amongst other kinky things.
7. “Like a Prayer” by Madonna
Ok, some of you may think this is an odd choice. Like A Prayer? Really? But if a black Jesus coming to life to seduce a young, willing and smoking hot Madonna isn’t kinky (albeit fucking weird) then i don’t know what is.
This kinky music video caused a bigger stink than any modern day video ever could.
8. “Pendulum” by FKA Twigs
FKA Twigs is an artist whose first album, simply named LP 1, could be described as oozing sexuality. Her kinky music video for the song “Pendulum” takes this point quite literally as it features FKA Twigs in beautifully done shibari rope bondage that seems to be representative of her long braided hair, from which she appears to be suspended.
By the end of the video, Ms. Twigs has broken free from her bonds, and seductively dances amid futuristic looking silver gel.
9. “Erotica” by Madonna
“My Name Is Dita, I’ll be your mistress tonight” Uhhh yes, please! Thanks Madonna. Don’t mind if I do. Best opening line to a song ever!
Seriously though, if I wasn’t already a kinky little man when this came out then this video is what sealed the deal for me. Madonna, my fixation at the time, in full dominatrix gear making out with women and men alike. Super hot!
10. “Foolin” by Devandra Banhart
Indie rocker Devendra Banhart used lots of BDSM themes in his music video for the song “Foolin.” In this BDSM music video he gets whipped while bound in cuffs and chains by a large black man with whom he falls in love!
In another vignette him and his master become the play toys of some beautiful women who lead them around on leashes.
So those are my picks for the kinkiest music videos and songs about BDSM of all time. Share your picks in the comments.
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