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I am a male, wanting to be feminized in a d/s relationship. Specifically, I want a goth or emo type to make me a goth/emo sissy. I am super submissive and keep finding women who want me to dominate them, but that’s just not me. I enjoy nearly all aspects of BDSM except for CBT. So yeah, I need someone to help me out here. – SS
Most D/s relationships in the BDSM community consist of a dominant man and a submissive woman, so it can be challenging. These types of relationships can vary in degree from once-a-month interactions to something very committed with the sub wearing a collar.
SS also wants a specific type of woman—goth or emo—which will likely make his search even more arduous. But he is open to almost all aspects of BDSM, so that will help him in his quest to find a kink-compatible partner.
When what you desire in a kinky relationship is so specific, it’s best to join a niche dating site because it would be like finding a needle in a haystack if you were looking on a mainstream site. I recommend niche sites for anyone who is not vanilla, and especially for those who have a very particular kink or fetish.
For SS, I recommend not only the all encompassing BDSMdate.com, but also FindaFemDom.com and GothDating.com.
Niche dating sites do have membership fees, but it’s worth it if you have a kinky itch that needs scratching. After joining, and creating a kick-ass dating profile that expresses who you are and what you’re looking for, you can chill out while browsing for that special someone you’ve only fantasized about.
Another alternative is paying a dominatrix to do what you want, but as many men will tell you, it lacks the intimacy of a natural d/s relationship.
Readers: If you have any tips or advice for SS, please leave a comment! And keep the confessions coming!
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