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Edgeplay: Taking Kink too Far?

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My knowledge of bdsm culture just keeps expanding. I was reading up on scenes, when I came across the word edgeplay. I had recently heard the term edging for the first time – a form of orgasm control (another post to be sure). In the bdsm community “edgeplay is a subjective term for types of sexual play that are considered to be pushing on the edge of the traditional S.S.C. (safe, sane, and consensual) creed.”

The definition for edgeplay changes from person to person, community to community. It wasn’t until just over a decade ago when conventions and bdsm shows were discussing it. Of course it probably existed but was still kept under wraps because of its controversial nature and risk.

While some groups consider rape fantasy roleplaying as a form of edgeplay, others don’t think this takes it far enough.

“Edgeplay may involve the risk of serious, even permanent, harm, or death, exemplified by activities such as breathplay (erotic, asphysxiation, fire play, knife play, and gunplay, as well as the increased risk of spreading disease, as with cutting, bloodplay, or barebacking.”

Many in the bdsm community do not support or condone edgeplay because they think it goes too far. To me it sounds like an kinky adrenaline junkie willing to do anything to get his fix.

 Edgers might call most bdsm play “vanilla kink”.

If you want to hear stories and escapades of those involved in edging, you’ll find them in online forums, on websites such as FetLife, and on Twitter.

Here’s an excerpt from an article on edging in Vice:

“Edgeplay is so many things and often it just ends up being whatever your circle deems edgy, says Madeline, who is nude. As she talks, a fully clothed Z jabs a needle in her back and a little cup at the end is filling up with her blood. He twists off the cup and takes a tiny sip before throwing it back like a shot. ‘We’ve been kicked out of clubs for this,’ Z says. His teeth are covered in blood. “I really love it.” He licks the stained rim of the glass like it’s tequila salt.”

In this article, Madeline calls her edgeplay “consensual non-consent” and compares knowing how to indulge in this off-the-charts kink is like knowing what to get your partner for his birthday. I’m thinking this extreme bdsm play is not something you would engage in with a new partner. Also mentioned are the problems of crossing the consensual line with two opposing views of where that line is.

It seems there’s an exhibitionist element to edging, like going to extremes with someone isn’t enough, but shocking others is part of the high. Some others scenes mentioned in the article seem abusive to me, but the participants say they may not like what is happening in the moment, but that the result of hot and steamy sex is worth it.

Read Vice article: Edgeplay Isn’t Your Grandmother’s  BDSM Scene

What do you think, KinkLovers. Is edgeplay taking it too far or just dangerous fun?

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