9 Taboo Kinks and Fetishes

In the last one hundred years or so, and especially in the new millennium, society and culture has come a long way in sexual liberation. Women have reclaimed their right to a sexuality outside of baby making or prostitution, while both of those are also acceptable choices on her terms. Gay people in the west have rights, too, to safety and happiness and now marriage. Polyamory and different kinks are no longer considered adultery or perversion.

While there is always room for improvement, our understanding of sexuality and a willingness to discuss it and embrace diversity is at an all time high. Even doctors, churches, psychologists, and various experts embrace sexuality for women and gay people and a massive campaign for transgender visibility is changing culture as we speak.

But still there are kinds of love that dare not speak their name. These fetishes and kinks may not be considered unnatural or against God, but are politically incorrect or taboo kinks because they are perceived to objectify a group of people or are deemed unhealthy or dangerous.

Taboo Kinks and Fetishes

1. Coprophilia: Scat Fetish

Folks with a scat aroused by feces will always face some scorn, even in the most liberal communities of kink. That’s because most of us feel revulsion towards shit, not just whatever-floats-your-boat neutrality. Even kink-loving sex coaches like Dan Savage have scat on their no-go zones.

Read: Scat Fetish: The Messy Business of Coprophilia

2. Extreme Feederism: Fat Fetish

Chubby love is common. But some are attracted to extreme fat, such as the 600-pound feederism models who get paid to eat in skimpy clothing.

People feel ashamed of this attraction because there are social taboos that demean fat people, but also because it is disabling and deadly to be so obese: these objects of desire need machinery to make them mobile, and they frequently die young of health complications.

Read: Feederism: Feeding and Gaining Fetish Explained

3. Incest Fantasy

From the amount of “family therapy” porn that comes up on my feed, or incest fetish vids about tiny blondes seducing their step-brothers, the family affair has never been hotter.

Still, few people will announce their taboo fetish in polite company, that they want to fuck their mother or admit to dating Uncle Joe.

Many people have felt attraction to a family member but took it in stride. Some have unique and strong arousal towards kin that they find tough to share out loud. Incest is a taboo kink in nearly all cultures, through history, probably a built in evolutionary defense to ward off weak genes.

Read: Incest Fetish and Fantasy Taboo

4. Stepdad or Stepmom Fantasy

Some people like to fantasize that they are an older stepfather dominating their step daughter, who is in her 20’s, or they might want to do it with the gender roles reversed. Like with the incest kink, these familial relations often give people the heebie jeebies, but as long as everything is clearly framed in a role play scenario that has a set beginning and ending, it can be fun to explore. There are fetishists who find a daddy or mommy role play comforting.

5. Transgender Admirers

Trans admirers were open to love and dating transgender women long before the rest of us. While many men date, or are open to dating, all women, trans admirers are especially or only attracted to transgender women.

Unfortunately, some of these guys are ashamed of their desire and only meet trans women for sex, without considering them friends, girlfriends, wives, or lovers. This has led T-girls to feel objectified and to call these men “tranny chasers.”

6. Race Play

Sexual attraction to a specific ethnicity can feel taboo but is quite widespread. Lots of people find a particular culture very attractive. Lots of men look for a partner from Japan or Russia, for example, and lots of women date Black men exclusively or go to Cuba or Mexico to hook up with Latin lovers.

But race play is a form of BDSM that uses domination and submission along with racialized role play to enact racism or sometimes to bend the roles. A black-white couple might role play a plantation slavery scene and use racist slurs. In many scenes, the Black woman will be in command, turning the tables. Kinksters of color often defend their dark desires by likening it to women’s rape fantasies—they want to explore this history and pain in a ritual setting they consent to. But the whole thing makes many of us very uncomfortable.

7. Golden Showers

Most people think that pee belongs in the toilet, but some people get off on having it sprayed all over their bodies, or even in their mouths. The technical term for this fetish is called Golden Showers. People might have health concerns which are valid, but the risk is not much greater than any other sex act involving fluid exchange, such as unprotected sexual intercourse, so keep the same considerations in mind.

8. Amputee Fetish

This fantasy is more common than you think. Some psychologists relate this fetish to bondage since those who have lost a limb are more helpless than most. If you crave an amputee lover, try using vet wrap to bind a lover’s arm or leg folded over for a sexy amputee role play. “This is definitely a weird one,” says Jim Truman, a dating specialist for Foot Fetish Dating. “People sometimes feel awkward about bringing it up, but communication, especially around sexuality, is what will make a relationship succeed.”

9. Diaper Lovers

Did you know that there are people who love to wear diapers? Some like the feeling of helplessness or having to rely on someone else for help change their nappy. For others, just wearing a diaper under their clothes in public for a few hours a day is comforting and arousing. Whichever one it is for you, you’re not alone. This seemingly strange fetish has a large following.

There are some fetishes that people don’t really like to talk about. They often bring even more shame or hesitance to mind than the normal kinks and odd pleasures. But as long as everything is done between consenting adults, in a safe and sane environment that includes a safeword, we say go for it!

Do you have a kink that is considered taboo? Dare to share in the comments!

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