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What to Know before You Go to a Sex Club

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Not all sex clubs are the same! If you’ve never been to one, you really need to do a little investigative work with your partner so you know what to expect. Not to worry, this kind of work is fun!

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I went to my first sex club last month with a friend, and it was all kinds of weird and wonderful. Luckily she had been there before and acted as my tour guide, able to answer most of my questions.

First Sex Club Tips

Know what you’re looking for. You can just leap before looking, but you may end up disappointed. Do you want to meet swingers? Find a third for a threesome? Maybe you just want to watch others have sex.

Check club event schedules. Most clubs host a variety of events that cater to individual kinks and types of relationships. For example, you might want to go when BDSM activities are on the menu, or avoid lesbian night if you’re a straight couple (or not!)

Read reviews. There are always going to be mediocre and bad reviews at most places because you can’t please everyone. But do read through these online to find out what some of the issues people had such as not enough linen provided or problems with security.

Understand and adhere to rules. A sex club can’t operate without strict rules in place. It’s for your protection as well as theirs. Know them beforehand, so you and your lover don’t make fools of yourselves, or worse—get kicked out.

Set your limits and boundaries before going. Maybe you just want to look and see what a sex club is all about the first time you visit. Do you want to give your partner carte blanche to do whatever she wants? If not, talk about your comfort zone parameters beforehand.

Dress up and have fun. What you will notice is that most attendees do it up, meaning they wear their fetish gear (if that’s what they’re into) or sexy wear and bring a lot of positive energy to the place. If you’re going through a rough patch with your lover, wait until you’re in a good place to go explore a sex club.

Debrief after the experience. Whether you engaged in sex with others or just wandered around taking in the sexy sights, have a conversation over breakfast the next day to share your feelings and thoughts. What turned you on? What didn’t? Do you want to go back? If so, what do you want to do again, try for the first time?

Share your sex club experience in the comments! Do you have a special haunt that you recommend?

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