Looking for someone to share your kinky side with? Consider these online dating tips that will help you turn your fantasies into reality.
1. Narrow The Naughty Search
One of the most frustrating things about online dating when you’re seeking a kinky partner, is that in most cases it can be nearly impossible to tell what someone is like in the bedroom from their profile. This is where websites just for kinky daters come in. Now, instead of looking for the minutest of signs that she’d be into bondage, you can do a site search on a BDSM site for women who like bondage, or any other kink you can think of including specific fetishes, S&M, spanking, domination, etc. If you want to try online dating on the wild side consider these sites: BDSMdate.com, KinkDating.com, FindaFemdom.com, or see my list of the Best Fetish Dating Sites for Every Kink.
2. Expand Your Already Open Mind
Want to get even more out of your BDSM dating experience? Rather than simply going in with a mental list of what you’re looking for, try to also be open minded towards what you might discover. You may find yourself connecting with kinky singles who share fantasies that are different yet related to yours, or realize that bondage turns you on more than you thought. The chat rooms are an especially good place to start meeting lots of people with different turn-ons and perspectives. This kind of approach is a great way of expanding not only your experiences and interests, but also your potential partners as well.
3. Freshen Up Your Dirty Profile
Here’s a tip for anyone who’s already part of the online dating circuit, and it’s good advice to keep in mind if you’re new. Online dating profiles become stale, even when there’s nudity and BDSM involved. Keeping your profile fresh has two major benefits. It helps you be noticed more by existing members when you rotate your profile pics and upload new photos regularly. Secondly, it allows you to be constantly improving your profile. Add new details every so often, share a recent fantasy, and give those potential partners something that will intrigue them or trigger a conversation.
Role Play Safe
No BDSM dating advice is complete without the old warning to play safe. All online daters need to be aware of potential dangers and pitfalls, but this is especially true when using BDSM dating sites. Not because kinky people are more dangerous (they aren’t), but because sometimes BDSM play involves situations where trust and knowledge of your partner is a must. This is why I advise to always meet for a non-sexual, non-play date first where you have a coffee and get to know each other and discuss limits. For more safety suggestions read: Tips for Safe BDSM Dating
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