How can a guy get laid now? How do you ensure getting sex when you need it most?
When the urge strikes, many of us jerk off solo and take care of business on our own. Who can predict when we will be horny, after all?
Waiting for Friday night’s date, and not knowing whether it will end in sex or not, can seem pointless when we are struck right here, right now, by blinding desire.
All that chatting, texting, sexting, all those martinis and dates—they’re fun, and it’s great to meet other kinky people, sure. It can be extremely exciting to throw in the elements of the unknown and anticipation into the mix, and explore fetish sexuality with new or potential lovers.
But what about when the mood strikes now? Does spontaneous sex always have to be all by oneself?
Here are the best ways to make sure you can get laid now.
How to Get Kinky Sex on Short Notice
Some of these ideas will help you get laid now and some will set you up so that you’re able to find sex on short notice moving forward. A little planning for spontaneous sex goes a long way.
1. Find a Fuck Buddy
While you can’t plan ahead for your current erection, you can plan ahead for future hard-ons.
If you want to get laid on demand, find a fuck buddy or three who are just as interested as you are in the speed-dial function!
Generally speaking, casual lovers don’t expect to be at anyone’s beck and call—we respect the fact that work and family and scheduling are complicated and time consuming, and slot our schedules together accordingly.
But you can create mutual arrangements with women where you’ll both drop anything you can to be there if she calls or vice versa.
This might work best if you have a lusty neighbor on the third floor who works at home, that kind of thing, but lots of kinky gals love a swift and sudden tryst.
Having a few names on your go-to list can make this even more workable. What are the chances that Debbie can drop by for a late lunch? Maybe slim, but what about Kendra, Allison, and Moira? Someone will be up for it.
Read: Why Women Want Casual Sex
2. Use Niche Hookup Sites and Apps
There are all kinds of casual encounter sites and apps where you can meet all kinds of people and find out in an instant what they want, when they want it.
Casual dating apps for kinky hookups are exciting, and you can get specific about the kind of partner and the kind of fetishes you are interested in playing with.
Read: Best Kinky Dating Sites
3. Have or Be a Sex Servant
If you’re a dominant in demand, the sudden sex service thing can be part of the contract. You need satisfaction when you need it, and if you have a sex slave, you could have a consensual partner who has agreed to meet those demands, on demand!
Conversely, if you are submissive, imagine the excitement of being called on to service your domme’s needs whenever they arise. There’s nothing quite like being jolted out of your morning drudgery and finding yourself tied up and naked, performing achingly tasty cunnilingus until she can’t take any more.
Read: How to Find a BDSM Partner
4. Enter a Committed Relationship with a Kinky Woman
Not everyone is ready to give up casual dating for a serious relationship, but there are wonderful perks to having a like-minded lover or a long-term lover. If you’re polyamorous, you can have both. Maybe you haven’t met Mrs. Right, but maybe you haven’t been looking for her. Consider where you’re at in life.
Whether monogamous or polyamorous, dominant or submissive, having a serious relationship can mean total spontaneity. For some, a long-term relationship has special benefits—more trust in hardcore kink, fluid bonding, and the ability to get laid or have sex on demand are some of the perks.
Read: Where to Meet Kinky Women
5. Stay in Touch with Lovers You Have Great Chemistry With
You don’t need to commit to a long-term relationship, but meeting someone new every time you want to get laid is a lot of work. We tend to date and hook up with a new “friend” a few times, and then move on, even when it’s fantastic, perhaps out of contemporary etiquette—keeping it casual.
But smart lovers “rotate” their lists. Meet new people, don’t get too involved so that you don’t develop feelings (if that’s off the table), but circle back later.
One way to handle the open-ended future hookup question with a lover is to open that door while you’re connecting. “Mind if we stay in touch?” is an easy question. You can be straight up with her: “I like to stay in touch when I feel a strong chemistry and connection. I understand that you want space now, but would you like to hook up again in the future?”
Expanding your network of available lovers makes it all the more likely you will be able to find sex when the need arises, or at least have something on the horizon if not in that instant.
Read: 5 Reasons to Have Sex with Your Ex
6. Engage in Phone or Video Sex
Phone sex is not quite the same as getting together but has its own kind of excitement, so why not have a few on-call lovers who are into zooming? Not everyone can drop their drawers and their boss’s demands to drive to a cheap motel and whip you into a frenzy when the urge strikes. But you can take a kinky little break over the phone or by video and share the moment.
Phone sex is big business, so you can always pay to play if you don’t have a go-to partner to call.
Read: How to Get Kinky through Video Chat
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