If you enjoy ass play, you may experience an anal orgasm.
What Is an Anal Orgasm?
An anal orgasm is when you climax from anal stimulation, rather than from stimulation of your penis or vagina, or other sensitive erotic zones.
Touching, stroking, licking, and penetration of the anus can all lead to an anal orgasm.
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What Does an Anal Orgasm Feel Like?
An anal orgasm feels similar to the orgasms you have any other way: waves of pleasure that build and gain momentum, then a peak and an exploding feeling where muscles contract and a feeling of release or relief follows. Cocks will usually ejaculate.
An anal orgasm may feel different in some ways from other orgasms. It can be more intense, and it will involve sensations around your ass. The anal sphincter will contract too. It usually does anyways when you come, but it will be more intense with anal stimulation.
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Can Anyone Have an Anal Orgasm?
Men, women, transgender and nonbinary people may all experience anal pleasure and anal orgasm. But everyone is different. Some people only orgasm with very specific kinds of touch. Some have never experienced orgasm. Some may be uncomfortable with anal stimulation and won’t relax enough to let it happen. For others, the stimulation may not be enjoyable.
Sexuality and orgasm are very personal. In theory, everyone has the potential for anal orgasms.
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6 Anal Orgasm Techniques
1. Lube Galore
The ass needs lube. Lots of it. Don’t skimp on lube. Use loads.
2. Achieve Maximum Arousal
Before you give any attention to the ass, an anal orgasm starts in general arousal. It’s not for the kind of days where you’re “sort of horny” or just going through the motions.
Work on getting really excited. Take as long as your lover needs to get thoroughly, desperately horny, before any anal touching happens. Use sexts, anticipation, porn, BDSM, and lots of cock or clit and pussy stimulation before you start in on that ass.
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3. Take Your Time
It’s highly unlikely your lover will have an anal orgasm in a hurry. Assure them that you will take your time and that it is enjoyable for you to give them pleasure and serve them this way.
Read: Arousal through Slow Seduction
4. Relax, Relax, Relax
Don’t be anxious about having an anal orgasm the first time you experience ass play. If you’re a regular, and eager to get off this way, you still want to avoid anxiety because it will hold you back.
Focus in on the pleasure and stay in the moment, rather than thinking about when you will come! Whenever you start to get tense, take a few deep breaths and ease back to receiving the pleasurable sensations.
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5. Play the Tease
Start slow and try a lot of kinds of touch and pressure, circles, soft strokes. Don’t just dive in! Pull the ass open gently. Spank the buttocks to bring more sensation to the region and prime it. Use anticipation and suspense. Build a rhythm if you’re using dildo or cock penetration. Take it away, and return to it when your lover begs you.
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6. Don’t Neglect Pussy and Cock
Touch yourself while your lover is doing dirty things to your ass. A lot of women find that inserting a dildo and leaving it in the pussy can make anal orgasms easier—you feel full and can rock against it in a way that helps you relax and build tension simultaneously.
Does this make an anal orgasm a regular orgasm? Depends. If an orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm, adding complementary genital stimulation can help keep you aroused or get you to an anal orgasm. You can stop and start as needed. You can experiment and try it without, or in tandem. You can leave it out altogether.
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4 Anal Orgasm Toys
1. Butt Plug
Butt plugs are flared dildos with a shaft that starts slim and gets fatter. They are essential and classic sex toys for ass play and anal orgasms. They come tiny for curious newbies (some people only choose small ones to enjoy relaxed, pain-free anal penetration!)
Butt plugs come in enormous sizes for anal training, BDSM play, or hungry asses. They come in regular, penis-like sizes. Lots of options. They are flared for safe anal orgasm play—butt plugs won’t get stuck inside of you.
Read: 8 Reasons to Use a Butt Plug during Kinky Sex
2. Anal Beads
Anal beads are another classic and popular butt play toy. They are ropes of beads that you insert and gently pull out again. The beads mean the butt hole muscle will close and open, mimicking its natural muscle contractions—very pleasurable.
Read: Anal Beads 101 for Beginners
3. Anal Vibrators
Some people find that vibration can overwhelm the sensitive vaginal, nipple, or anal nerves. That would make an anal orgasm less likely. Others find vibration a powerful way to get off. Vibration can be experienced differently at different times. Play and explore with what feels best for you.
Read: How to Use a Vibrator during Sex
4. Anal E-Stim Toys
Some people really enjoy erotic electric stimulation and find it can enhance anal orgasm or really help you get there. Others find the sensation irritating or unpleasant. Anal e-stim toys aren’t necessarily for BDSM, but they can really work in a bondage and punishment context for kinky lovers.
4. Anal Orgasm Positions
1. Anal Orgasm Solo
Lie on your back with a cushion or pillow under your ass and knees up and bent, legs spread. Reach down and explore and experiment with strokes, pressure, and penetration of your ass. Take your time and build a rhythm when tension starts to mount.
You can also experiment with solo doggy, or sitting on a dildo or sex saddle, or even standing. If one position gets tiring, switch it up and try another.
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2. Reverse Cowgirl
His, hers, and theirs—the lover hoping for an anal orgasm can squat or kneel over their partner. This position is amazing for penetration, but it’s also perfect for easy ass access with hands, including toy penetration.
Read: 13 Types of Sex Positions, Endless Possibilities
3. All Fours Doggy
Anal sex doggy style is the go-to position for anal play and sex and that’s because it lines up two bodies naturally when one lover’s ass is in the air. It also lets the receiving lover push their ass against their partner for deeper penetration, or move their hips to accommodate them in the ways that are most comfortable.
The only drawback is that doggy style can get tiring for the receptive partner. This is easily solved by propping the torso, head, arms, and chest with pillows. Draping the receiving partner face down over a stability ball works wonders!
Read: Why Doggy Style Position is Perfect for Kinky Sex
4. Spread Eagled in Prone Position
A favorite way to enjoy anal play because it offers the receiving partner complete relaxation, and easy access for their lover. This one also works well with bondage restraints if BDSM is part of the anal orgasm for you.
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Anal Orgasm Tips and Safety
The best way to an anal orgasm is to relax completely and communicate with your lover openly. Take a warm shower or bath for relaxation and to wash around your butt. You’ll feel a lot more relaxed being squeaky clean and fresh.
You most likely want to be with someone you trust and feel comfortable with, if anal orgasms are new territory for you. Take it slow and sensual and explore to find out what feels good.
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Anal orgasm safety is especially important. STIs and other kinds of infections are very easy to spread from anal contact. Feces, butts, and anuses house all kinds of bacteria. Even if you don’t see any waste, you’re there and bacteria are microscopic.
Don’t put your hands in your mouths after touching anyone’s ass. Don’t put your hands on the condom before it goes into another hole. Don’t rub the pussy after rubbing the asshole. Don’t put toys in pussy or mouth after ass penetration.
While latex gloves may feel less personal, they can be extremely handy during anal play because you may want to touch different parts of the body. Swapping gloves is handy. Handwashing also works. Always use condoms for anal sex.
Read: How to Have Safe Sex Like a Porn Star
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