While there are many ways to practice solo BDSM, it’s often more fun to have a play partner. Because it’s not always possible or safe to meet up with new kinky lovers, more and more people are turning to digital dating until the world opens up again.
Your online hookups might be with long-distance lovers or friends with benefits, or they may be with strangers who are adventurous and not afraid to bare their fetishes and fantasies with new partners.
Online connections can help tie us over until things evolve into a safer new normal.
How to Kink Up Your Digital Dates
Cast a Wider Net
Most of us who use online dating sites to meet other kinky folks keep our search radius to a reasonable distance—our neighborhood, town or city, state or province. But… if you’re not planning to meet in person anyway, why not go BIG!
Maybe you’ve always dreamt of hooking up with a petite Parisian, or fantasized of flirting with a sexy Chilean while practicing your Spanish. Don’t be afraid to engage in worldwide dating—it’s fun and freeing with no strings attached. And who knows? You might meet up on a trip next year.
Share Your Toy Boxes
You don’t need to have a dungeon or every sex toy under the sun to add a little sizzle to your online dates. It’s always fun to try new toys, but I’ve always found less is more and that quality trumps quantity.
Take turns showing each other what’s in your arsenal, then bring out your favorites and share a few juicy memories—or make new ones. If you’re lucky, she’ll give you a demonstration or fulfill one of your voyeuristic fantasies.
Play Strip Poker
If you love card or board games, why not make it a little more interesting by having the loser each round take off an article of clothing. A mini striptease to the winner’s choice of music will have you both showing off your dance moves in between games.
This is a not only a great idea for those of you who like to gamble, but also a long slow burn of foreplay that substitutes for kissing and caressing.
Mutually Masturbate
I’ve never met a man who didn’t fantasize or have a fetish when it came to watching women masturbate. And it’s an intense fantasy for many guys because from what I hear, most women don’t enjoy doing it in front of men, so the rare event has even more allure.
With online dating, you’ll have a better chance of meeting a confident woman who gets off on getting off in front of a man. Explore BDSM dating sites for kinky men and women, where listing this desire isn’t likely to turn women off, like it might be on more mainstream dating sites.
Try Truth Dare, Double Dare
Didn’t we all play this provocative game when we were young? The nostalgia of resurrecting this childhood game is a turn on in itself for many, and it easily adapts to more adult content. It’s a great game that can be slightly provocative or down right devilish… appealing to everyone on the kink spectrum.
What may have once been a dare to run around the house in the snow without your winter jacket on, might now be to go out and record yourself making snow angels in the nude. Or sharing what your first kiss was might now be sharing what your first anal experience was.
How do you make your digital dates kinky? Dare to share in the comments!
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