Want to find a kinky hookup but not sure where to start?
If you’re looking to get your kink on tonight after work, you might be wishing you had thought ahead. I’s not always easy to find your fetish and hookup on short notice.
But desire doesn’t always operate by giving us advance notice, and sometimes spontaneous adventures are essential to the thrill.
If you want to find a kinky hookup tonight, here’s how.
Meet women on kinky hookup sites.
Makes sense, right? If you’re seeking kinky casual encounters and no-strings-attached hookups, you don’t want to go through long lists of women looking for a lifelong love slave.
Still, you’d be amazed how many people dating online ignore the obvious and waste a lot of time sending texts and messages out to women who have clearly stated they are looking for something else.
Instead, try a site for kinky hookups, like Alt.com. They are one of a few good options for finding local kinksters ready to hook up.
If you’re not sure where to start, check out our Guide to Kinky Dating Sites, to find one that fits your kink.
If you find a woman’s profile irresistibly attractive, even though she’s not into what you are, it might be worth sending her a note to see if there’s any kind of connection—a long shot, maybe, but it won’t hurt.
Be direct in your message, and respectful.
When you see a woman who is also looking for casual sex and short-term kinky experiences, send her a clear and polite request.
Even on a kinky hookup site, you won’t get anywhere making lewd and ridiculous proclamations like, “Come and get this hot horny cock!” Or this one, that I got last week: “I’ll tie you up and make you like it—this dick here’s the best you’ll have tonight or forever.” Hmm… I don’t think so.
You want your message to be business like with a note of added warmth or attention for best chance at a response.
“I have some spare private time tonight, and I’m looking for a role playing scene with a dominating partner. I have toys at my place or can bring them to yours or a hotel if you happen to be free and like my profile. I found your photos beautiful and was really attracted by them.”
Read: Write A Kink Dating Profile that Works
Call someone you already know.
This is far and away the best bet for casual kinky hookups at the spur of the moment.
It can be tricky to set something up, especially if your kinks are elaborate, with someone new in a spontaneous fashion. Many women need time to get to know you, even if it’s just by messaging, before being ready for sex. It makes sense for most of us to have a feel for the guy and what he’s about, purely for safety and security reasons.
Having casual relationships with kinky women is a win-win for all. When you have a good time with someone you’ve met online, ask if you can keep her number handy for possible future fun, or offer her yours.
So, if you decide this afternoon you want a hot night of latex love or a good paddling by a goddess, think about wonderful kinky hookups you’ve had and who might fit the bill. Send a couple of messages to see if they’re free and up for a repeat of last month’s hookup.
Read: Kinky Hookup Dos and Don’ts
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