One realm of the imagination is our age or the age of our lovers. This sets the stage for age play and a variety of age-related fetishes.
Role play ideas in costume, state of mind, power dynamics, and settings make kink a vast, unlimited terrain of options for creative sex. Role play can take us outside of ourselves, to where we want to be. This includes many age play kinks where role play takes one or more partners to a different part of our life spans.
Other age fetishes are about contrasts—dating someone of a different age. They can also center on powerful memories or fantasies: reenactment of losing our virginity, for example. For some, the thrill comes from experiencing taboo power dynamics: “Daddy, spank me,” comes to mind.
Some of us may not think we have any obvious age fetishes, but kinks and sexual behavior are really just a spectrum of activities or psychology we all employ to various levels. Most of us, for example, naturally call our lovers “baby” or alternately, “my old man.” We might say Mommy or Papi in some cultures just as easily.
Types of Age Play & Age Kinks
There are many different kinks and fetishes inspired by age-related fantasies.
1. Chronophilia: Age Fetish
Some people have a strong attraction to people of a particular age, and some find the life span spectrum exciting, so they may be interested in the idea of their lover as a younger woman one night and an older woman the next.
2. Mesophilia: Middle Age Fetish
If someone’s thing is a strong attraction to people of middle age, there’s a word for that. We don’t see it used very often.
3. Gerontophilia: Elderly Fetish
Few folks use this medical sounding word that means “love of the elderly.” But sexual attraction to much older men or women is quite common. You see a lot of this dynamic in porn.
If gerontophilia sounds like your kink and you’d like to date much older women, be sure to check read:
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4. Seductive Stepmother
The step-parent fantasy is extremely common. It’s all about exploring passionate dynamics like jealousy, attraction, betrayal, power, revenge, and helpless desire. All the taboos make it super hot.
5. Mommy Fetish
It’s not always the stepmother who is the vixen in our fantasies. Sexual attraction to one’s own mother is common, especially among young men. For most it’s a passing phase, but for some, it is a persistent fixation.
It is almost always an unrealized love—most men don’t sleep with their mother.
Some psychologists believe this is an essential and normal passage of learning to distinguish erotic roles and handle loss, rejection and boundaries. Freud wrote about the fact that for many people, our first intimate encounters with the opposite sex are with a parent, and we sort these out as we deal with our new hormones and learn about relationships.
Incest is illegal and most people consider incest taboo, even if they have normal, occasional incestuous fantasies.
The mommy fetish uses role play to playfully explore family roles, gender roles, parenting roles, power dynamics, and mom-related props in a safe and sexy way.
Read: 5 Kinds of Mommy Fetishes and Kinks
6. MILF Fetish
The MILF fantasy is not about your mother, but about someone else’s mother. This is extremely common because of the taboo over thinking of women with children as sexual beings, and the obvious fact that they are. It’s quite common, and many of us have lengthy, juicy crushes on our friends’ mothers.
Read: How to Fulfill your MILF Fetish
7. Cougar Connection
The cougar is an older woman who is established and independent and wants to enjoy young men—or women— purely out of her own sexual appetite. It’s a very appealing age play scenario. The slight taboo of turning the tables on the more widespread older guy and innocent young woman situation kicks this naturally into high gear, as does the idea that an older woman is still sexual and aggressive.
Read: How to Attract Kinky Cougars
8. Age-Gap Relationships
The Anna Nicole scenario—a ninety-year-old man claims the heart of a sweet and wild young stripper—is as old as time. Powerful men, whether kings or oil magnates, could buy affection and sex from a charming young lady. It wasn’t always fake, even if it wasn’t traditional (hubby knew Anna had boyfriends, and they spent hours on the phone every day even when she was away modelling.)
This age gap relationship has a negative reputation because it is assumed the young woman is a gold digger and the older man is a victim. Alternately, it is assumed that the young woman is naïve and the older man is wielding his power when he really just wants sex or eye candy.
I say adults of all ages can do what they want, and think everyone should try dating lovers of different ages.
9. Daddy’s Girl
When Marilyn Monroe calls her man “Daddy” we all melt. It’s kind of old fashioned now but even a modern woman may find it intensely arousing to try on the part of Daddy’s girl for a torrid afternoon.
10. Little Space & Age Regression Play
Age regression is common—we all use nostalgia triggers or youthful entertainments to “act like a kid again” for psychological health. For example, we might play ball in the park, or collect Hello Kitty paraphernalia, or post memes about “not adulting today.” We all know KD and Cap’N Crunch are the ultimate comfort foods!
The little space fetish is not much different from this, although more intentional. People who see how fun it is to age play—and also dress the part, using clothes, hairstyles, toys, or foods, to act little—enjoy that space. This is a whole “thing” separate from sex entirely, but there is also a crossover for those who find the experience sexually arousing.
Read: Age Regression and How to Get There
11. Adult Baby Fetish
The adult baby thing is very specific to the props and activities of babies. Adult babies is exactly as it sounds. Some folks find comfort and usually, sexual arousal, in the idea of being babied. They use playpens and rattles and diapers. For some, it’s all about wearing—or soiling—diapers. Some adult babies are in it for the titty. Lactating and nursing fetishes don’t always mean a person is into adult baby play, but it’s a very obvious and common overlap.
Read: Resources for Your Adult Baby Fetish
Do you enjoy age play or any part of these age-specific fetishes? Do tell!
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