Sometimes subs just make too much noise. When you need to silence your slave, what type of gag should you use?
How to Use a Ball Gag
There are many things that look a lot easier than they are when you see people doing them on film. Using ball gags during sex play is one of those things. There’s a lot more to it than just strapping a ball into your mouth and getting down to business.
First, you need to make sure that the ball gag is reasonably comfortable, especially if you plan to keep it in place for an extended period of time, or during rigorous sex.
Make sure the size is right, and that you can adjust the strap easily if gets too loose or tight during use.
Always check in with your sub when they are gagged to make sure they are okay. Come up with a non-verbal safe word or motion that they can still perform without talking.
Ball Gag Bondage
Ball gags can be used by themselves or in combination with other equipment and techniques.
If your lover isn’t into bondage, they might still get off on wearing the gag during sex, a lighter exploration of kinky sex that stops short of being bound.
Having said that, the classic combination is bound and gagged for a reason. Restraining your limbs and your mouth are forms of sexual surrender, communicating a trust and intimacy with your partner that goes beyond mere sex.
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Like anything different that you introduce into your sex life, if it’s entirely new to your partner, showing patience is advised. A touch of anxiety is part of kinky sex, but you don’t want to add to that nervousness by moving too fast.
6 Types of BDSM Gags
When choosing your ball gag, try out different shapes to see which you like best. Some people prefer bit-style gags over ball gags, so try both to see which works better for you. Both styles often come with attachments that allow your lover to tug back on the gag, so check for these extensions when you’re making your selection.
Here are a few different options and the different purposes each mouth gag is best suited for in roleplay scenes.
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Ball Gags
The red ball gag is sometimes considered an icon in BDSM. It is usually a ball attached to a strap that can be buckled around the head to silence and incapacitate. It’s a very simple and sexy type of gag that is good for beginners and people experienced with BDSM.
The balls come in different sizes and colors other than the classic red. You will want to make sure that it’s not too big for your sub’s mouth because that might result in a sore jaw.
Ball gags are the standard gags most people think of when they think of gags for BDSM sex.
Bit Gags
A bit gag is modelled after the bits used for horses in equestrian sports. A sub will bite down on a bar which is attached by a chain or strap around the back of the head.
Many players use a BDSM bit gag in pony play, where the sub wears gear and behaves like the animal.
A bit can also be a great tool if you want to give your sub something to bite down on during a punishment.
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Open Mouth Gags
These BDSM gags hold the mouth open. Some of them might be dental mouth gags, modelled after tools used by dentists to gain access to the teeth. Others might be a simple ring held in by a strap around the head.
Open mouth gags are a great way to gain unfettered access to your sub’s mouth, when you want to slip something sexy in.
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Muzzles
A BDSM muzzle usually covers the lower part of the face and sometimes the chin to hold the mouth shut.
Just like with a dog, a muzzle can prevent a nasty sub from biting others, or just silence them until you’re ready to use their mouth again.
BDSM Inflatable Gags
Inflatable gags are a bit wilder than conventional gags. What makes them so great is that you can modulate them by inflating for complete silence or deflating to bring out the gargling noises that can add to the excitement.
An inflatable BDSM gag lets you turn your sub’s throat into your personal erotic symphony with you ensconced as the conductor!
Penis Gags
A penis gag is a two-pronged apparatus – one end is like a dildo and the other a gag.
You hold the gag end in their mouth and use the penis end to penetrate yourself with their whole face providing the locomotive momentum you desire. It’s a super sexy way to train your submissive.
Whichever one you choose, a gag can be a sexy way to enhance your power-exchange play!
And again, remember to have a non-verbal safe sign in place before you play with anything that prevents verbal communication.
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