Avoid Scams on BDSM Dating Sites

There are a lot of scammers and BDSM scams out there. And although BDSM dating sites generally do their best to keep these people off the site it’s likely you may encounter some of them if you spend much time at all looking for new kinky partners.

I hope you have yet to experience the disappointment of finding out the sexy member you’re messaging with does not have good intentions. Legit BDSM sites don’t use fake profiles or fake messages, and you can find my recommendations here: Best BDSM Dating Sites.

No matter which site you choose, the following are some simple ways to avoid BDSM scams and stick to the real deal.

How to Avoid BDSM Scams on Dating Sites

• On your BDSM profile, keep your personal details private until you meet in person. Scammers are looking for things like your address and phone number in particular. Wait until you develop some in-person trust before revealing these types of things.
• Try doing a google search. If you do a search of a potential date’s username, or even the text of their message, it can be very revealing. You might even find them on a site dedicated to exposing dating scams.
• Forget about long distance relationships with strangers. Scammers want to avoid victims in their own area so that they are less likely to get caught. And keeping things local is also your best chance of actually meeting for a real relationship or hookup.
• Is that a real photo or not? Try this cool trick.. upload the photo of your potential partners at tineye.com. They’ll show you other pages on the net where the particular photo appears. Scammers usually grab a photo they find online somewhere.
• Immediate communication could be a red flag for BDSM scams. When the kinky babe you’re messaging always responds right away or within 15 minutes every time it could be a sign that you’re chatting up a bot!
• Don’t open attachments from strangers. And yes, they are still a stranger if you haven’t met in person. Follow this tip to avoid downloading a virus to your computer.
• Watch out for the sob story. Be wary when they start telling you about sick relatives or something similar such as an emergency situation in which only you can help them.  Or there’s the story about how they are on their way to visit you but their credit card isn’t working..
• Which brings us to the last tip: never, ever, wire money to a stranger!

If you’d like to know more about safe BDSM dating and finding success with dating sites and apps, see my article Best Kink Sites and Dating Apps.

I wish you all the best. If you have any further advice on avoiding BDSM scams to add, or a story that might help others ward off some trouble, please share below!