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Avoid Scams on BDSM Dating Sites

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There are a lot of scammers out there. And although BDSM dating sites generally do their best to keep these people off the site it is likely you may encounter some of them if you spend much time at all looking for new kinky partners.

I hope you have yet to experience the disappointment of finding out the sexy member you’re messaging with does not have good intentions. Legit BDSM sites don’t use fake profiles or fake messages, and you can find my recommendations here: Best BDSM Dating Sites.

No matter which site you choose, the following are some simple ways to avoid the scammers and stick to the real deal.

  • Keep your personal details private until you meet in person. Scammers are looking for things like your address and phone number in particular. Wait until you develop some in-person trust before revealing these types of things.
  • Try doing a google search. If you do a search of a potential date’s username, or even the text of their message, it can be very revealing. You might even find them on a site dedicated to exposing dating scams.
  • Forget about long distance relationships with strangers. Scammers want to avoid victims in their own area so that they are less likely to get caught. And keeping things local is also your best chance of actually meeting for a real relationship or hookup.
  • Is that a real photo or not? Try this cool trick.. upload the photo of your potential partners at tineye.com. They’ll show you other pages on the net where the particular photo appears. Scammers usually grab a photo they find online somewhere.
  • Immediate communication could be a red flag. When the kinky babe you’re messaging always responds right away or within 15 minutes every time it could be a sign that you’re chatting up a bot!
  • Don’t open attachments from strangers. And yes, they are still a stranger if you haven’t met in person. Follow this tip to avoid downloading a virus to your computer.
  • Watch out for the sob story. Be wary when they start telling you about sick relatives or something similar such as an emergency situation in which only you can help them.  Or there’s the story about how they are on their way to visit you but their credit card isn’t working..
  • Which brings us to the last tip: never, ever, wire money to a stranger!

If you’d like to know more about finding success with kinky dating sites and apps, see my article Kinky Dating Sites: The Kink Lovers Guide.

I wish you all the best. If you have any further advice to add here, or a story that might help others ward off some trouble, please share below!

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Faz

Good points. I always make sure to meet in person before I share any personal information. In fact I only use kik for this purpose, never revealing my number. Fortunately, I never had a bad experience. I only tried twice (both open ended, mistress can do whatever she wants) – once a mistress made me drink her pee and other time another mistress smothered my face with her unwashed ass (I could smell her ass the whole day lol).

Chris
Chris

Thank you so much. This is exactly what happened to me, but the lady working at the Walmart express money looked me straight in the eye and said “don’t send it, they scamming you”. She was right, and I was grateful.

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@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@ BDSM Dating Site Scam Playbook: Guys, (directed this to men who are seeking women Dommes): Here is the definitive set of signs that you have been targeted for a scam: 1) Initial contact on website / app is from someone who is (not in your league), like a really young twenty something contacting a 55+yo with sometime of ‘come hither’ either as a ‘flirt’ or a ‘swipe’ or whatever. @@ Your BS detector should go on here, the too good to be true concept should kick in, But we all get taken in by the prospect (however remote) that… Read more »

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