Have you heard of ASMR? Do you find some kinds of ASMR erotic?
ASMR stands for “autonomous sensory meridian response.” It refers to a tingling sensation that can start in the scalp and move down through the body. ASMR is often described as a mild euphoria, a static feeling against the skin, a pleasurable sense of relaxation and stimulation combined.
ASMR happens in response to certain soothing stimuli, usually ambient but could be visual or tactile.
Common triggers of the pleasurable tingle are things like the sound of tea pouring, certain voices and whispers, the ocean surf, blowing into or tapping a microphone, bubbles in carbonated beverages, someone brushing or cutting your hair, a cat purring, the rhythm and sound of cutting vegetables, the gurgle of garden fountains.
One way to express what autonomous sensory meridian response means would be to say “it gets on your nerves” but in a positive way. It’s the opposite of the fingernail-on-a-chalkboard response.
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What Is Erotic ASMR?
Some people describe ASMR as being something like an orgasm, although not as intense and more spread out or widely distributed. “Tingle” is the word that comes up over and over. The nervous system responds with psychological and physical pleasure to the stimuli.
ASMR is not sexual in and of itself. The ASMR experience is relaxing, and may be enjoyed as a sleeping aid, for meditation, or relaxation.
Erotic ASMR is when someone does find the ASMR experience to be pleasurable sexually as well.
Some people find their preferred stimuli erotic. Some are turned on by the stimuli, whether the sound of crinkling paper or a whisper into a microphone. Others incorporate the pleasurable stimuli into their lovemaking to add romance and sensuality.
You don’t have to have a specific fetish to enjoy the benefits of erotic ASMR, but some people do find their stimuli naturally erotic.
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Why Does ASMR Turn Some People On?
Is it ASMR or erotic ASMR? Why do some people find ASMR sexually exciting?
Things that are physically pleasurable, emotionally pleasurable, relaxing, sensual, or sensory have a lot of overlap with sexual excitement.
We constantly use nonsexual pleasures in combination with sex and turn them into sexual pleasures. Think about it: food, candles, fabric, bathing, massage, and many kinks and fetishes.
Many pleasures that can be nonsexual can also feel sexually pleasurable in another context or at the same time. Emotional associations can give complexity and an erotic context to triggers or stimuli.
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There are also other interpretations of erotic ASMR. Besides the idea that we are capable of merging or associating different kinds of pleasure, the nervous system may experience and respond to certain triggers with crossover connections.
One example is a sneeze, a pleasurable release that we describe frequently as being “like an orgasm” in a different way. But for some people, sneezing triggers actual orgasm.
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12 Classic ASMR Sex Ideas
1. Blowing on the Skin
The feather light sensation of breath on skin is supremely sensual, and a classic part of erotic foreplay. Blowing is also a common trigger in ASMR, both the soft whooshing sound and the light sensation of air on skin.
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2. Whispering
One of the most common ASMR triggers is whispering. Countless videos featuring someone whispering have millions of YouTube views, often used for soothing and relaxation. But many people find it even more enjoyable when an attractive person does the whispering, adding in a sensual fodder or innuendo.
While ASMR commonly uses a microphone to enhance the ambient sensation, it is not dissimilar to the acoustics when someone whispers very close to your ear. Try incorporating whispering sweet nothings and a bit of dirty talk into your foreplay and sex.
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3. Stroking, Tickling, and Light Scratching
Add more sensual touch to sex, including finger tracing and stroking, using a feather tickler on the full body, and light scratching. To really trigger those chills and tingles, keep it super light.
4. Massage with Lotion
A sensual massage with a heavenly scented lotion can be erotic ASMR.
5. Gently Kissing the Ears
Combine sound and touch with the exquisite sensitivity of the ears by lightly kissing, biting, and licking the ears.
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6. Heavy Breathing
When you hear others having sex, it is often muffled groans and breathing noises, but the combined acoustics and urgency are a turn-on even if you can’t really make out any words or specifics.
Amp up the sound next time you make love, especially if you’re the silent type, and let go with grunts, groans, and heavy breathing to add more sound to the mix. Watch porn for inspiration!
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7. Oral Sex Sounds
Sucking and licking sounds are extremely intimate and sensual, perfect for ASMR sex.
8. Sex in the Shower or Bath
Faucet and dripping sounds are very sensual when you know a naked beauty is in the bath. Share a sensual steam with your lover and play up the sounds of water being stirred and dripped, as well as using warm and cool streams of water to add sensation to one another’s skin and hair.
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9. Make Love on the Beach
Enjoy the rhythmic sounds of the waves up close while holding each other under a palm tree.
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10. Hair Play
Grooming and hair combing or hair play feels fantastic and is a common ASMR trigger.
Erotic ASMR can mean brushing and combing each other for the tingly scalp sensations, blowing onto the scalp or into the hair, lightly stroking the nape under the hair, or running one lover’s hair up and down the other’s arms, legs, torso, back, neck—anywhere.
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11. Sensation Play
ASMR is a kind of nonsexual sensation play, so exploring sensual sensation play is a perfect way to incorporate erotic ASMR into your love life.
Experiment with classic ASMR sensations like blowing, whispering, popping bubble wrap, light stroking, or trickling water. Think about every sense, and use your imagination to explore different tastes, sounds, temperatures, and more.
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12. ASMR Video Masturbation
Erotic ASMR is often solo play. The videos can be straight up ASMR intended for sleep or meditation, or they can feature scantily clad beauties whispering naughtily—both varieties are used for solo ASMR sex.
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Experiment with New Triggers
Most people who experience ASMR tingles have triggers that work, ones that don’t and feel neutral, and others that they find rub them the wrong way.
Explore a full range of erotic ASMR triggers to find out what works for you, for your partner, and to find unexpected and interesting sensations to add to your intimacy.
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If you have a specific ASMR trigger, find creative ways to incorporate it into sex. Ever made love on a bed of bubble wrap? Sounds like heaven to one of my friends. Snap, crackle, and pop!
Do you experience erotic ASMR? What makes you tingle?
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