16 Blowjob Techniques and Ideas

The blowjob is a classic and staple of the boudoir repertoire for most lovers. And that’s no surprise: the warm, wet stimulation from a mouth feels amazing on the cock.

Blowjobs are an important element of foreplay, and they are a delicious main course as well. They offer all kinds of possibilities for pleasure, as well as having the potential for power exchange dynamics. They are an ice cream cone for vanilla lovers. They can also be part of BDSM and kinky fetishes.

Whether you’re looking forward to experimenting with your very first blowjob, or you’ve given your husband, or the football team, ten thousand, you may be looking for blowjob ideas or blowjob techniques for your next one!

Read: BDSM Foreplay: 20 Foreplay Ideas for Doms and Subs

What Is a Blowjob?

A blowjob is oral sex performed on a man. Basically, it’s when someone takes their partner’s penis in their mouth and licks, sucks, and kisses it.

The more formal name for a blowjob is “fellatio.” How we got to “blowjob” is not entirely clear. Surprisingly, it’s not a very old term, possibly from the 30s or even the 60s. “Blow” was once used as a synonym for “suck.” But “blow” also means “to explode” which is sometimes the objective of the blow job!

16 Blowjob Techniques and Ideas

1. Lick, Suck, Bite, Kiss, and Blow

There is not much in the way of “blowing” during a blowjob, but incorporating a bit can tickle and tease as foreplay during fellatio.

Most of the blowjob consists of sucking, and a rhythmic sucking to orgasm is why blowjobs are sometimes referred to as “to suck off.”

Try different variations of stimulation, and use your imagination along with your mouth. Lick with different strokes. Suck the sides of the shaft as well as the head. Kiss everything, top to bottom. Nibble gently. Use different pressures and strokes while monitoring your lover’s body language for clues to what feels best.

Read: Licking Fetish: 10 Kinky Ideas for Lick Lovers

2. Use Your Hands

Let your fingers do some of the walking and talking. Some people joke that a blowjob is really a wet handjob. If you’re in it for the long haul, vary things up or give your mouth a break by using your hands along the way, or use them for longer strokes while you work your mouth on the head of his cock.

Read: Handjob Ideas: How to Give a Good Handjob 

3. Be a Tease

You can let him simmer in the pleasure of arousal and anticipation by sexting him banana or eggplant emojis or spelling it out for him in advance. Touch and tease him over his jeans or shorts. Rub him lustily. Kiss his belly, thighs, buttocks. Diving right in is good. Teasing and torture is very good.

4. Spit or Swallow

The spit or swallow debate is a matter of personal preference. But if it’s all the same to you, aim for both options on different occasions.

It can be very fulfilling to a dude that you want every last drop of him, and can really intensify his arousal. But it’s very common to be averse to the taste and texture of ejaculate, or to enjoy it from very specific people only. For many women, whether they want to taste his cum depends on how close they are, and may not be something for casual lovers.

Whatever the situation, spitting can be very hot, too. Don’t just spit it out and grimace, though. Let it seep out back onto his spent cock, and rub it onto him with your hands. Let him see it sliding out of the corners of your mouth.

Too much? If you must, dispose of it quickly into a tissue and get back to the afterglow.

Read: 7 Ways to Enjoy Your Cum Fetish

5. Deep Throat Blowjobs

Contrary to popular hopes, it is not easy or always possible to take his whole cock to the hilt down your throat. Even the most eager of us have gag reflexes. Some people have more relaxed reflexes. It has nothing to do with desire.

You can practice taking more of him and taking him in for longer. This is best with a trusted partner, where you find relaxing positions and simply practice going deeper, relaxing, breathing, repeat.

Read: BDSM Blowjob Ideas for Submissives

6. Quickie Blowjob

The blowjob is really the perfect menu item for quickies. Switch things up and spoil him with a few extra quickies now and again. It’s very easy to unzip him, make him explode, and zip things back up.

Read: Kinky Quickies for Couples

7. Cock Worship

On the other hand, cock worship is slow and intentional. Gazing, admiring, kissing, begging, licking, and lavishing slow love for hours on that beautiful cock.

Read: Kinky Quickies for Couples

8. Different Blowjob Positions

Get creative with blowjob ideas and positions. He can be sitting in a chair while you service him from under the desk. He can kneel over your face. You can bend over in the car to suck his cock. He can be laying down. He can be in a swing, or suspended, or standing.

Read: 13 Types of Sex Positions, Endless Possibilities

9. 69 Blowjob

Make oral the complete focus by enjoying a 69 session with both of you pleasuring each other.

Read: 69ing Tips for Kinky Couples

10. Your Tongue and His Testicles

Don’t forget about his balls. Kiss, lick, and gently suck those sensitive things and intensify his pleasure.

Read: How to Suck Balls and Other Testicle Play Ideas

11. Surprise Blowjob

Switch things up now and again with a blowjob he’s not expecting. You might surprise him while he’s working on the car, getting out of the shower, or sound asleep in the middle of the night.

12. Blowjobs in Public Places

Blowjobs can be very convenient because you just need to take out his cock and so public sex can be very discreet. When no one’s around on the beach, or while driving down a remote rural road, possibilities abound.

Read: Why Sex in Public Is So Hot

13. Finger in Ass Blowjob

Tease him with a tender, tantalizing touch as an added bonus. Gently penetrating his ass with a finger will greatly intensify his pleasure and his orgasm while you suck him off. If you’re new to anal play or not into penetration, just circling the anal ring will also work wonders.

Read: BDSM Anal Play Ideas

14. Bondage Blowjob

Bondage and restraint heightens sensation. Kinky BDSM lovers know all about that, but it’s something you can experiment with playfully even if you’re not really hardcore. Those novelty fuzzy handcuffs can actually come in handy.

Read: BDSM Predicament Bondage Basics and Ideas

15. Orgasm Edging & Denial, Ruined & Forced Orgasms

The giving partner has a great deal of control over their partner’s orgasm when using oral sex.

You can experiment with orgasm edging by bringing him to the brink over and over. You can practice orgasm denial by taking him almost there and then stopping. You can pull away just as he starts to contract and ruin his orgasm. You can keep on sucking when he wants to draw away, or suck past his first orgasm.

Read: Forced Orgasm Ideas for BDSM Play

16. Blowjob Ideas for M2M

All of these blowjob ideas are for all genders. But it’s worth talking about blowjob ideas for men on men, for men who don’t usually prefer men.

Blowjobs might be part of an MMF threesome for a horny woman who gets turned on by watching you. They might be part of humiliation play, such as cuckolding or fulfilling femdom demands.

Read: How to Give a Femdom Blowjob

Humiliation blowjobs and cuckold blowjobs will feel different psychologically from threesome adventures or bicurious romps, but you’ll probably find either way it comes fairly naturally the way kissing did.

Use your mouth in different ways, following the specific directions of your domme or the telltale clues from the receiver. His pleasure will be familiar to. The main thing to remember is not to bite!

Read: Why More Men Are Trying MMF Threesomes

What blowjob techniques can you recommend? Dare to share!