There are different types of kinky women, with different personality types. Depending on what you’re into, there is a woman out there who is going to be the right fit to help fulfill your fantasies.
The main thing is to figure out how to match the right lady to the right situation, and where to find them. Being kinky in itself isn’t enough, there are shades to kink, and knowing what they are helps a lot.
3 Types of Kinky Women and Where to Find Them
1. The Dominatrix
Do you need to be told what to do? Do you need to get bossed around? Do you need to be reminded that you’re a little bitch, and that you don’t deserve to have any satisfaction until your mistress says it’s okay?
If you need these things, then you need a dominant woman. Whether you crave being whipped for bad behavior or having your cock locked up in a little chastity cage or being the recipient of forced orgasm, the dominant woman is for you.
You will know these women when you meet them because they will have no problem telling you what you’re doing wrong or why, testing to see if you obey, or sharing their desire for a female-led relationship. They will take naturally to your gestures of submission and take control of the situation. They will see what is needed and understand.
Want to find a dominant woman to serve? Read Jamie’s article Where to Find a Dominatrix for ideas on where and how to meet a local dominatrix.
2. The Submissive Woman
The opposite side of the coin is the submissive woman. If you demand something of her, she will give it. She won’t mind being ordered around, corrected, or commanded. Depending on where she lies on the submissive spectrum, she may even revel in being debased. She will submit to all this and love it.
Do you want her to open the door naked for the pizza delivery boy? Do you want her to wear a dog leash and crawl around on all fours? Do you want her to fuck other men while you watch? These ladies are out there.
Just remember that domination and submission are not always a lifestyle but games, and that people participate to the limit that they are able and willing. Like all BDSM games, though, it should be possible to call it off when someone doesn’t feel right anymore. Just thought I’d mention that.
A good place to start a search for submissive women looking for a dominant partner, are dating sites specifically for people into BDSM. See our list of the best BDSM dating sites.
3. The Partner in Crime
As opposed to someone who dominates you, or someone you dominate, the partner in crime is someone who actively participates in a kink with you as an equal member of a democratic nation of kinkiness.
Public sex? You both decide where and when. Role playing? The roles can change every time. Threesomes, whatever. You both get a vote and have a kind of fun that is based on equal satisfaction without the necessity of humiliation.
Humiliation is neither wrong nor bad, it’s just that some kinks are based more on a mutual decision to get into it without any kind of debasement. Doing it in a church or graveyard is a great example. Yes it is sacrilege, yes it is kind of fucked up, but you’re both in it together. You get what I mean, I’m sure!
Whatever your kink, there is very likely an online community suited just for you and the sort of kinky woman you’d like to meet. Take a look at the Kink Lovers Guide to Kinky Dating Sites for ideas and inspiration.
What kind of kinky woman do you typically go for? Let us know in the comments!
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