Are you looking for a quick and easy way to ramp up your scenes with your kinky lovers?
Blindfolds are used by all kinds of couples, from vanilla-sex couples to BDSM practitioners in scenes with bondage, impact play, domination and submission, role playing, and more.
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Why Use a Blindfold During Sex?
Blindfolds cause sensory deprivation by taking away one’s ability to see. Not seeing what your lover is about to do next provides a heightened sense of anticipation and can be extremely arousing for both partners. You can get wet or hard just imagining what’s about to happen.
Blindfold during sex also help to build trust between couples. Some kinky folks will say that some modicum of trust must be present to begin with for blindfolds to be used, and this is true for many. But blindfolds can also deepen existing trust between willing participants, especially if bondage is also in play.
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Another reason to use blindfolds is that their fun to experiment with. Toys and props can add layers to a sexual scene or act, and a blindfold isn’t an elaborate accessory—you can buy a fancy blindfold, but you can also find something at home that will suffice.
Blindfolds are also very portable and can be tossed in a purse for date night fun or packed for a sexy vacay.
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Blindfolds and BDSM
While lots of vanilla-sex couples play around with blindfolds, they are often associated with the BDSM community, as well as dominant and submissive relationships.
Dominants may blindfold their submissives as a way to exert control—only they will know what they are going to do next. By taking away their submissive’s sense of sight, they gain power in the exchange unfolding. A submissive has to trust their dom/me in these scenes.
Blindfolds in BDSM play are accompanied by kink and fetish practices, such as bondage, sensory play, spanking, and penetration, wherein the blindfold acts to amplify the experience of both the submissive and the dominant.
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Types of Blindfolds
Tie
There’s nothing quite like a dominant taking off his tie at the end of a workday and tying it around the face of his submissive. This scene from work to play sees his dutiful submissive on her knees, blindfolded, and ready to serve.
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Sleep Mask
Why not have a sleep mask perform double duty by not only assisting with sleep, but also keeping you in the dark for what your partner may try to pull while sleeping, implied consent in place of course.
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Leather Blindfold
Some BDSM practitioners will want a specific type of blindfold that is only used for kinky adventures. They may have a leather fetish or just love the aesthetic of a leather blindfold, the hardcore visual and what it stands for—strength and power.
Bondage Hoods
When a simple blindfold won’t do and complete darkness is demanded, a dominant may prefer a full hood that eclipses all light. There is often a mouth opening that will allow a sub to speak or take in a cock or two.
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Bandana or Scarf
For blindfold fun on the fly, a bandana or scarf will do. Spontaneous impromptu sex happens all the time, and you don’t always have your sex toy box at arm’s length. For kinky couples, creativity is a friend with benefits.
Nylons or Tights
When a Domme is wearing a pair of pantyhose or tights, she can easily roll them down and off to use as a blindfold. Or she can ask her sub to roll them down with his mouth. Wrapping the hose around his face, he will get a heady whiff of her pussy juices that will turn things up to eleven instantly.
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10 Blindfold Sex Ideas and Activities
1. Blindfold and Bondage
Blindfolds and bondage rarely fly solo in a BDSM scene. Heightened anticipation is so hot, but not being able to move on top of it, well, that’s orgasmic in itself. Blindfold and bound your sub into a comfortable position for a naughty night ahead.
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2. Tickle and Tease
Blindfolds are all about foreplay, the slow seduction. There is no need to rush when exploring with blindfolds. You can talk while tickling and teasing or you can stay silent, wherein your blindfolded lover will listen intently for clues as to what you are doing, or about to do.
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3. Sensation Play
Without the ability to see, all other senses will be elevated. The sub will be hyper alert to what they are hearing, and feeling. Tactile sensations will feel extra, so find a variety of textures to touch them with. A few ideas are feathers, warming gels, ice cubes, fuzzy gloves, combs, and floggers.
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4. Blindfolded Oral Sex
If you want the next blowjob or oral you give a woman to feel that much better, have them wear a blindfold. It will allow the recipient to focus solely on how your lips and tongue feel on their cock or pussy. It’s a faster track to orgasm, without visual distractions.
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5. Blindfold and Impact Play
Not knowing what your dominant will do next is perfect for impact play of all kinds—spanking, caning, whips, and floggers. The submissive will be still feeling the sting when their Dom surprises them with another. Play with timing in between impacts, gently stroking with your implement to tease the next slap or thwack.
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6. Blindfolds in Roleplaying
Blindfolds can be used as a prop or accessory during sex, similar to scenes in a movie or play. Blindfolds are perfect for dom-sub scenes that involve acting out scenes of interrogation or abduction. You can use them in any kinky roleplay, from doctor-patient to teacher-student, to enhance the scene.
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7. Blindfold and Sex Toys
It’s rare in BDSM scenes that a blindfold is used alone, without other toys or props. Sometimes a dom/me will want to engage in fucking his or her sub while blindfolded, but often they want to stand back to a degree to watch their sub’s every move, from facial expression to body language, to enjoy their helplessness.
Think about pressing a vibrating magic against a pussy only you can see, where your sub is blindfolded. What about seeing your sub on his knees, blindfolded and restrained, while you kneel behind with your XL strap-on dildo sticking straight out, inches from his asshole.
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8. Sensual Food Tasting
Vanilla couples who don’t want to go too far with their BDSM exploration, just yet, may enjoy bringing food into the blindfold experience. You can take turns feeding culinary delights to your blindfolded lover, watching them smell, lick, then devour the amuse-bouches you’ve prepared.
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9. Earplugs and Blindfold
To enhance the sensory deprivation already caused by the use of a blindfold, you can reduce a partner’s hearing by having them wear earplugs. Similar to closing your eyes underwater, this cloudy feeling is an altogether different sensation, and will once again elevate the blindfolded person’s tactile sense.
10. Both of You Blindfolded
A fun game for couples to try is to blindfold one another before sex. You’ll literally be fumbling in the dark like you did when you first started sexual exploration, but without the anxiety or embarrassment.
Prepare the scene beforehand, with any extras—toys, lube, condoms, sensory play objects—you may want, so you don’t have to constantly take your blindfolds off. You will feel your lover in a whole new light!
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