What Is Considered Freaky Sex?
Are you a freak in bed? Does the idea of freaky sex immediately amp up your desire? Are you always horny and willing to try anything?
If freaky sex fantasies are your go-to but you’ve always wanted to turn those fantasies into reality, you may be wondering how to be freaky in bed.
But what is freaky sex? What does it mean when people say someone is a freak in the sheets?
Freaky sex is sex outside of the routine or tradition. Freaky sex is wild sex. Freaky sex is high-libido sex. Freaky sex is imaginative sex. It doesn’t have to be BDSM, but BDSM is one way to have freaky sex. It doesn’t have to be a particular fetish, but fetishes are expressions of those of us who are freaky in bed. You don’t have to be into swinging, but playing with other couples is definitely freaky.
Read: The BIG List of Kinks: 120+ Fetishes Explained
Freaky sex is no-holds-barred sex. It’s being open, adventurous, unapologetic, lusty, playful, experimental, uninhibited, and prioritizing your desire and the desires of your partners.
Perhaps the most important element of freaky sex is confidence. Going after what you want and being fully present in the moment.
Read: How to Stay in the Moment during Sex
Ready to get your freak on?
5 Freaky Sex Ideas
1. Explore Your Fantasies
The best place to start getting freaky in bed is to follow your own fantasies. Dreams literally come true when you make your fantasies a reality.
Have you always wanted to make love to another woman? Are you naturally submissive but haven’t shared your kinky fantasies with your partner? Do you find the idea of your girlfriend wielding a strap-on dildo and pegging the fuck out of you wildly exciting, but have never tried it?
Read: How to Own Your Fantasies
2. Indulge Your Partner’s Desires
The next place to explore freaky sex is to follow your lover’s desires and dreams. Be open to experimentation. Even if a fantasy or fetish doesn’t do much for you, if it does a lot for your lover, the thrill of giving them pleasure and sharing the experience with them will mean loads of hot sex!
Read: 5 Reasons to Indulge Your Partner’s Fetish
3. Use a Wish Jar
I once read an erotic story that had a really terrific premise. A couple kept a wish jar, which was literally just a jar with scraps of paper inside. On each scrap was a random fantasy or kink. Whenever they learned about something new, they added that idea to the jar.
Pull a random freaky sex fantasy out of the jar, and then go for it! The surprise and novelty and fun of this is an amazing idea.
Read: 5 Domination and Submission Games to Play
4. Explore BDSM
If you aren’t already experimenting with BDSM, there’s an incredible underground of amazing freaky sex to try under the umbrella of bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism. From playful spanking to hardcore bondage and everything in between, it’s a beautiful, wild playground.
Read: First Time BDSM Stories: Readers Share Their Experiences
5. Have More Anal Sex
Decide once and for all to have your virgin ass deflowered, or incorporate more anal sex if you are neglecting this erogenous zone!
Who says you can’t be that woman who is always begging for an ass fucking? And if you’re a dude, you may neglect your pleasure hole because of outdated misconceptions about butt sex. Ass play is for all genders.
We are loaded with nerve endings in our butts, and when you’re so horny that everyday sex doesn’t cut it, the insane pleasure and the taboo of it can take you to heights you never thought possible.
Read: Introducing Your Lover to Anal Sex
6. Enjoy Threesomes
The threeway is possibly the most common of all fantasies, for people of all genders. Yet how many of us have had a recent threeway? Forget about the rules you didn’t write. Enjoy the kind of freaky sex you want.
Remember what Madonna said: “Poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of another.”
Read: 15 Threesome Ideas for Kinky People
5 Freaky Sex Positions
1. Up Against the Wall
Do it with her hoisted up and pinned to the wall while he’s standing.
Outside of the bed is a hallmark of lovers who are freaky in bed!
Read: Have Sex Standing Up: 5 Standing Sex Positions
2. The Bendover
How often do you read a fantasy where someone says “I just wanted to bend her over…” Well, then, what are you waiting for? Bend her over the kitchen counter, the office chair, the side of the car…
3. Reverse Cowgirl
Her on top, facing away, is an incredibly freaky sex position because it’s so hot for both lovers. He gets an eyeful of ass. She gets to grind at an unusual angle, and control all the motion.
Read: 5 Cowgirl Sex Positions to Try
4. Private Dancer
A lap dance can make great foreplay for this easy freaky sex position. He sits on a chair, she straddles and swivels, using her feet planted squarely for leverage and her hands on the sturdy back of the chair. Amp this one up even further by her propping her legs on the chair, to spread and squat.
Read: 5 Kinky Woman On Top Sex Positions
5. Doggy-Style Outdoors
Doggy style freaky sex positions are even wilder outside in their natural habitat. It’s easy to just slip under her skirt when no one’s at the dog park. If there’s a bench, she can kneel on all fours on it while he stands behind her.
Read: 11 Outdoor Bondage and BDSM Ideas
5 Freaky Sex Toys
1. Clitoral Stimulator
There’s nothing hotter than a woman who demands the full range of pleasures available to her. A whole new style of sex toys in recent years has focused on clitoral suction, simulated clitoral licking or twirling or other ways to push that button to heaven.
Read: How to Eat Pussy and Drive Her Wild: 14 Tips and Ideas
2. Massive Dildo
Again, a woman who is freaky in bed is not shy about her desires and needs. Be confident and assertive about asking to be spread and filled.
Read: 5 Kinky Ways to Use a Dildo with Your Lover
3. Strap-On Dildo and Harness
Switch up gender roles, power dynamics, and expected pleasure exchanges with her in a strap-on harness with dildo. Let her take charge. Also amazing for freaky sex that’s woman on woman.
Read: Femdom Pegging: 15 Ways to Supercharge Strap-on Sex
4. The Sex Swing
The sex swing makes the impossible possible. You don’t need to be a trapeze artist—quite the opposite. A sex swing helps you explore all kinds of positions. It’s great for freaky sex for people with different abilities or other barriers.
Read: Sex Swing Guide: How to Use a Sex Swing
5. Electro-Stim Toys
Explore high-tech freaky sex sensations with the new wave of electric stimulation sex toys. The voltage can be delivered so mildly that you feel nothing except your nerves responding, or you can feel a delicious, biting sting, depending on your preference. It’s a whole new sensation.
Read: 12 Electrosex Toys for Kinky E-Stim Sex
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