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When a partner asked me recently what appealed to me most about kinky sex, I only had to think for a moment before answering.

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I know that this particular fuck buddy was hoping my answer was going to be, “Stomping on your balls with my stilettos,” but my answer was, “The imagination and creativity.”

Kinky sex is about letting the imagination go wild, and then acting out the fantasies in real life. One arena where the imagination is unlimited is sensation play.

Sensation play simply means experimenting with different senses. It’s a natural part of sex, vanilla or kinky.

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Make a list, or assemble a toy box.

There are literally thousands of sensations you could try out if you put a little thought into it.

Pay attention during kinky movies like 50 Shades of Grey or 9 and 1/2 Weeks (where everyone got the ice cube idea). Candle wax drippings are also kinky fave, and you can always find lotions, potions, ticklers, and hardware at your local sex shop.

Think outside the bedroom when you’re not naked. I was cooking when it occurred to me that I could warm up some olive oil, and it would feel nice on my breasts. I was in the shower when I wondered how the shower curtain would feel between myself and my lover as a strange way to increase the tension without skin-on-skin contact. Another time, I happened to be holding a pancake whisk when I had to shoo my dog out of the laundry room, and I realized a whisk would feel awesome as a spanking tool.

Saran wrap over moisturizer. Brushing each other’s hair. Silk scarves of different textures over the body. An extension cord whip. Turning on the fan after rubbing her with oil or moisturizer. A watering can for slowly pouring warm water. You get the idea.

Combine sensation play with restraint.

I love to feel all kinds of interesting touches but the whole sensuality of sensation play makes a lot more sense to the kinky if you are restrained. This amps up the tension and gives a purpose to the teasing beyond “How does this denim feel against your butt cheek?”

Restraints can be elaborate if you have dungeon equipment or studied Japanese rope bondage, but even a few neckties to keep you secured to the bed posts can work wonders. I like to keep a role of bondage tape in my night table drawer… just in case.

Mix sensations with orgasm edge play.

If you enjoy orgasm denial or want to experiment with it, add sensation play to the mix for an unbelievable ride.

By working up the sexual energy almost to the point of orgasm, and then holding back, over and over, the tension and energy is increased to a fever pitch.

To distract you or her after getting to the edge, move to a different sensation to create a roller coaster of peaks and valleys for orgasm edge play.

Indulge a partner’s fetish using sensation play.

Maybe your girlfriend isn’t sure how to satisfy your foot fetish. Maybe you’re not sure what to do once you dress up as the paramedic she fantasizes about.

Here is where sensation play can provide a purpose and a context for a particular fetish or kink.

Tell her you want to give her the pedicure of her dreams, and lavish her feet to a world of touch. Then use all the toys, tools, and ideas. She’ll be amused by the variety of feelings, and you get to play with her feet.

Ask her about the specifics of her fantasy, and then work sensory play into it. That might include an erotic massage, bandaging, or the application of cold compresses within a scene.

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