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Spanking Dating: When Can You Spank Her?

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Want to incorporate a little spanking into your dating?

Spanking can be a wonderfully kinky activity. But how do you gauge a woman’s interest in spanking, or introduce spanking while dating?

Spanking Dating Tips

Here are some spanking tips for when you’re dating someone new, and want to introduce spanking slowly or determine their interest. There are definite boundaries that shouldn’t be crossed.

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Respect Her Desires

Sitting here and thinking about it (a pleasant thing to do), I can’t remember any woman I’ve ever been dating who didn’t enjoy having her bum spanked. I suppose there could be a lot of reasons for this. The first one is the social taboo. Smacking the bottom of a woman you don’t know is a no-no—there can be disastrous consequences.

However, once a woman invites you to smack her bum, she’s probably got other kinks up her sleeve! It’s okay to bring up spanking when dating if it’s something that turns you on, but if she’s not game, try one of her kinks.

Test the Waters

When you’re first making out with someone you’re dating—cuddling on the couch, hugging on a bed—and you decide to grab a handful of her ass, give it a small but confident pat with your hand. If you get some kind of moan of approval at that point, you know that you have a bum that might like to be spanked, to some degree.

You can probably leave it at those little pats until you get to doing it with her doggie style. Once you get there, you can try a few real spanks, and see how that goes.

Some women find the doggie spanking too porny, so another suggestion is incorporating spanking into a role play like teacher-student or boss-employee.

Read: 4 Spanking Roleplay Ideas

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Spanking and dating.

Spank to Flirt

You can always use spanking as a flirtation device.

Threaten, teasingly, to put her over your knee if she doesn’t comply with your request. This could go any which way, obviously, but that is the nature of flirting. It’s always a game of brinkmanship, and spanking can be a fun card to play.

Read: Spanking Fetish: How to Give a Kinky Spanking

Practice Safety

There are definite lines between pain and pleasure, varying from person to person. Some people just want a little patting, while others won’t be happy until there is bruising.

Where you aim in erotic spanking positions matters. Remember to always spank on the fleshiest part of the bum.

If you spank around the bum, on the lower back especially, you can cause real pain and damage to organs. Also, you shouldn’t strike the genitals unless you’ve researched cock-and-ball torture or play with an experienced practitioner. Spanking is a strictly on-the-cheek affair.

Whether you use your hand, or get into crops, rulers, whips, or whatever, there is a whole universe of possibility out there that starts with gently testing the waters to gauge her interest and limits.

Read: Best Spanking Tools to Use

Have fun exploring!

Do you and your lover enjoy spanking? What spanking dating tips can you share?

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