If you’re new to BDSM, flogging is a great way to stimulate both you and a partner. I’ll describe flogging, types of floggers and where you can buy them, the sub/Dom personalities in relation to flogging, and tips for new floggers. And if you’re already a flogging pro, please read through and leave a comment, especially of the experiential kind.
What is Flogging?
Flogging or flagellation is the repetitive beating or whipping of another human.
In BDSM play it can be used as a form of punishment as well as pleasure and everything in between.
Flogging can be done as a group activity with all participating, or some BDSM enthusiasts remaining in the voyeur position. As with all BDSM engagements, safety, safe words, and limitations should be discussed before a scene occurs. Flogging isn’t usually a first date kind of thing.
Flogging is considered a type of impact play, which you can read more about here: Impact Play Tips for Kinky Couples.
Types of Floggers
The term flogger can refer to the person administering the beating, punishment, or love (depending on your kink), but it’s also what the instrument used to flog is called.
A flogger is two parts – handle and tail(s). The handle is strong and sturdy while the tails (or falls) refer to the strands that are attached. These can be made from silicone, leather, rope, and even chain. Thicker tails provide less of a stingy sensation than those of the thin silicone variety
It may take beginners a little bit of experimentation to find what suits them and excites them the most. Some subs prefer (although it’s not always their choice) the softer feel of leather to the sting that rubber tails can incite. Edge players may go for chains.
Flogging Partners
Flogging is a great way for both Doms and their subs to become erotically charged.
Of course, the dominant will enjoy their powerful position as the flogger, especially if restraints are part of the play.
The sensations a sub will feel can range anywhere from mild to red hot, literally. Sex doesn’t even come into the flogging picture for many who practice, the combined endorphin rush that both a Dom and sub experience during a flogging session can more than satisfy one’s sexual needs.
With a trusted partner you’ll discover what flogger is right for you and what kind of rhythm you’re after. Sadomasochist and Masochistic partners are also well-suited to the world of flogging.
Flogging for Beginners
Most experienced floggers and BDSM practitioners will recommend attending a flogging workshop, watching demos, and practicing on inanimate objects such as pillows before engaging in the real thing.
A flogger should feel comfortable with their instrument and understand it’s effect. This is where a little role reversal never hurts. Knowing where not to hit is also important for flogging newbies to know.
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Kinksters: please share any flogging tips, experiences, or preferences in the comments below!
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