Can your kink get you into trouble? Do you have an illegal fetish that even the most open-minded kink community wants no part of?
If you get off on something of a nonconsensual nature, this conflicts with the ethical consent mandate of fetish cultures. Kink is constantly under scrutiny by moralizing governments, religious institutions, and societal expectations, and to be granted the freedom to be ourselves, we place high priority on consent.
In other circumstances, there are illegal kinks, and even if everyone is all in, the laws in a particular state or country don’t allow for it.
If you have an illegal fetish or are excited by something where consent is lacking, you’re not the only one. Since everything imaginable is a turn on for someone, from bobby socks to motorcycle gear to nostrils, it stands to reason that someone is turned on by it, whatever it is, and it might be me or you.
Read: What Are My Kinks? 13 Ways to Find Your Kink
Some illegal fetishes may be more socially acceptable than others. Most of us sneak a peak when we can, for example, but prowling driveways at night to watch people changing is nonconsensual and illegal. Others such as necrophilia are universally reviled, and yet many people experience arousal at the idea of death or the dead.
Whatever your illegal fetish might be, you may find another consenting adult who shares it, and you can enjoy role play or fantasy around it. People with illegal kinks frequently use fantasy or make believe play, solo or with someone willing to indulge them or who shares their desires.
Some who are turned on by illegal fetishes prefer not to live out their fantasy. For example, incest is an extremely common turn-on, but many who enjoy racy incest fantasies would not want to actually have sex with their sibling or father, even if it was not an illegal kink.
Read: 27 Sexual Taboos That Are No One Else’s Business
16 Illegal Kinks and Fetishes
1. Frotteurism
Have you ever been pressed like a sardine on the subway, and found yourself excited from people rubbing up against you in the crush? Maybe you saw a beautiful body oh so close and imagined pushing up against her and your dick practically exploded.
Frotteurism is when someone derives sexual pleasure from rubbing up against someone else’s body, without their consent.
If the part that turns you on is the rubbing, it’s easy to indulge this form of pleasure and it’s certainly not an illegal fetish. But when the thrill is in contact with an unsuspecting person, that’s frotteurism.
Read: CNC Kink: 10 Examples of Consensual Non-Consent Play
2. Toucherism
Some people like to grope sexual body parts of others, such as breasts, butt, or cop a feel of genitalia. They wait for their prey to go through a doorway and bump into them, feigning the touch as accidental.
While touching is an important part of sex, the excitement in toucherism is about getting away with something or touching someone who isn’t expecting it. They can’t consent to that.
Read: Should Sexual Consent be Implied or Expressed?
3. Exhibitionism
A lot of people have an exhibitionist streak. They may be quite reserved in daily life and get a huge rush from showing off their bodies. They may enjoy the shock of unsuspecting onlookers most, or they might get the rush from the big reveal itself.
Exhibitionists can work in adult films, burlesque, or stripping in person or online, and enjoy the thrill with people who choose to watch them in action.
Read: Tips for Practicing Consensual Exhibitionism
4. Voyeurism
A lot of people like to watch. And it can usually be arranged.
But some people prefer to watch incognito, such as taking skirt upshots to jerk off to later, or peeking in bathroom windows on people in the show. This kind of voyeurism in an illegal kink.
Read: Voyeurism Fetish? 6 Ideas for Your Voyeur Kink
5. Sleep Fetish (Somnophilia)
If you get aroused by playing around with someone who is asleep or unconscious, this is called somnophilia. It’s an illegal kink is you don’t have consent to touch.
You can explore this kink safely with a partner who is into it and gives specific consent to touch them after they fall asleep.
Read: Sleep Fetish: Somnophilia Tips & FAQ
6. Sleepy Foot Worship
You can have somnophilia, and also have a foot fetish or some other kind of body partialism fetish. People with a sleepy foot worship kink are aroused by both the sleeping aspect and the foot.
Read: Sleepy Foot Fetish? 8 Sleepy Foot Worship Ideas
7. Incest
There’s a whole movement about consanguinamory, where people attracted to or in love with siblings, parents, or children want incest laws removed for consenting adults. But as it stands, incest is illegal in most countries.
Incest is an incredibly common fantasy. While many people do explore their illegal fetish for brother or daughter, many do not wish to explore their fantasies in real life but enjoy them in role play or in imagination.
Read: Exploring Incest Kink & Consanguinamory
8. Pedophilia, Hebephilia, and Ephebophilia
Attraction to young children is called pedophilia. Attraction to young adolescents is called hebephilia. Attraction to adolescent or late adolescent boys is ephebophilia. Since children cannot consent to sex with an adult, acting out this attraction is always a crime.
9. Murder Fetish (Erotophonophilia)
Some people experience arousal from the idea of killing someone or from someone’s death. Obviously this is an illegal fetish and crime. On those occasions that someone desires to be killed and consents to this, that doesn’t fly.
Read: 6 Reasons NOT to Share Your Kinks
10. Cannibal Fetish
A surprising number of people find the idea of eating someone or being eaten the ultimate in eroticism, but this is an illegal fetish.
Read: What Is Vore? The Consuming Fetish of Vorarephilia
11. Zoophilia and Bestiality
Attraction to or sex with animals is an illegal kink in most places.
12. Amputation Fetish
A lot of people are attracted to amputees, a kink called acrotomophilia. Others fantasize about becoming an amputee, which is called apotemnophilia.
This is an illegal fetish when attempting to amputate or encourage amputation of healthy limbs. Even if you or someone else desires to have their arm or leg amputated, this is not a green light to do so.
Read: Amputee Fetish Facts
13. Castration Fetishes
Extreme body modification lovers sometimes desire castration of balls or cock or both. You may have seen this in the news, when fetish clinics have been busted for performing “nullifications” and making “nullos” or “smoothies” out of guys with this illegal fetish.
Sometimes the idea of the castration itself is exciting, or the idea of being genderless. For some, this is the ultimate submission and surrender to domination, a form of chastity play.
Read: Male Chastity Play and Cock Locking Devices
14. Symphorophilia
Many have a kink for accidents or catastrophes, feeling excited in the intensity of heightened situations. When that kink is for causing the accident rather than just responding to the news, it is illegal.
15. Pyrophilia
Lots of people find fire exciting. Arson is a whole crime category. Some find fire sexually exciting. It’s not an illegal kink if you’re roasting chestnuts by the open fire and enjoying a nice romp with a ski bunny or your hand. But if the thrill is starting the fire and the subsequent destruction, you’re out of luck.
Read: Fire Fetish: 4 Ways to Play with Fire
16. Necrophilia
The ultimate taboo is sexual attraction to corpses, but it exists. While most of us find this repugnant, and the dead can obviously not consent to getting naughty, necrophilia is generally an attraction to the dead body itself, and not to killing.
Most necrophiliacs wouldn’t hurt someone, they are nonviolent, but wait to find people who are already dead. Not always however—this kink can exist alongside sadistic and violent nonconsensual desires too. Serial killers and sex killers may have both. Spoiler alert: it’s illegal.
Read: 4 Reasons to Share Kinks Early in a New Relationship
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