Does mirror sex amp things up for you? Catching a glimpse of flesh or undulating action from another perspective has the power to rev those motors to the max!
Katoptronophilia can add sensuality, spice, and layers of visual impact.
What Is Katoptronophilia?
The word katoptronophilia means sexual love of mirrors. In other words, sex with mirrors, or mirror sex.
Although it is a kink word, mirror sex isn’t really a kink or fetish. Some people do have a mirror sex fetish. But almost everyone finds mirrors sexy or can experience the amplification of arousal and pleasure by adding a mirror. This is because “looking” is an essential aspect of sex for most people. Yes, some people may identify with katoptronophilia as a kink, but mirrors are steamy additions for almost everyone.
The word katoptronophilia is sometimes used to describe a specific kink or fetish for seeing oneself in the mirror, rather than for mirror sex in general.
Some people do have a specific autoerotic fetish. In films such as American Psycho this is associated with people who are also narcissists, but not everyone who finds themselves sexually arousing is a narcissist. Generally speaking, katoptronophilia simply refers to mirror sex.
Mirror sex is called katoptronophilia because katoptron is the word for mirror in Greek.
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Some Like to Watch
Voyeurism is related to katoptronophilia, because it involves pleasure from looking. Voyeurism is different, because it is often done in secret or from a person not involved in the sexual act. In other words, someone may watch a couple make love while fully clothed and not involved in the sex act. Voyeurism is also about watching other people, where in a mirror you are also in the picture.
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We don’t use the word scoptophilia very often, but it is similar to voyeurism in that someone loves to watch, to see nudity or sex or sexual organs. Looking at porn or looking at our lover or getting excited when we see a nude is very common.
Katoptronophoilia is really a form of scoptophilia, or pleasure from looking. You see more of your lover, more angles, and you see yourself. Katopronophilia amplifies the visual sense and shows various perspectives and angles.
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Why You Should Try Mirror Sex (even if you don’t have a fetish)
You don’t have to have a mirror kink to experience arousal and pleasure from katoptronophilia. Seeing the full monty can be really exciting and add variety and novelty to sex.
Since it is almost universally enjoyable for people to look at their lovers, at bodies, and at sex, mirror sex simply adds that dimension. While many lovers enjoy looking at porn, looking at exotic dancers, and so on, watching what you are participating in has its own charms.
Making a sex “tape” can be super hot, but with mirror sex, you can enjoy the thrill without risking permanence or embarrassment in the wrong hands. It is also very “in the moment” where watching on a video is usually after the fact and can feel different.
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Mirror Sex for the Self-Conscious
At various points in our lives, we may feel self-conscious about our visual appearance or our bodies. A common complaint is that our lovers only like to “do it in the dark,” and we have all had a girlfriend—or been that girlfriend—who wants the lights out during sex.
Understanding that great sex and great lovers are not made out of physical perfection, but out of bawdy and body confidence goes a long way. We have all had the “best lover” who is older, balder, quirkier, fatter, shorter, or different from the current standards of physical perfection. And we have all had the “perfect” lover who exuded nothing but mechanics.
Real sex is what happens between people in real bodies. What could possibly be hotter than someone who has a voracious appetite for sex and sensuality no matter what their appearance or age?
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Mirror sex can actually have therapeutic effects for people who are shy, have low self-esteem, or who are dealing with illness or injury. Seeing yourself as sexual and seeing your lover or lovers in action with you is often quite a different experience for how you see yourself in your mind!
A BBW friend of mine told me that mirror sex changed everything for her many years ago, because she saw herself as soft and abundant and beautiful, and suddenly understood what her lovers saw.
Mirror sex is very sensual and a wonderful experience and those who are the least drawn to it may find the most benefits! Consider being open to mirror sex and aim to leave your inner critic at the door and just experience the moment!
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8 Mirror Sex Ideas
1. Mirrored Masturbation
Turn up the volume on the tried and true, which for many of us is the least varied kind of sex we have. We know what gets us off fastest and tend to go that route most of the time. Add a handheld mirror and watch the action, or stand or spread in front of a big mirror. Solo mirror sex is hot.
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2. Mirror by the Bed
Just adding a beautiful floor standing mirror to the bed or hanging a striking mirror at the head of the bed amplifies everything that happens on top of the covers.
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3. Multiple Mirrors
If you enjoy katoptronophilia, multiply the thrill with various mirrors. Not only can you capture different angles of the steamy action, but you can capture the reflection of the reflection and have smashing scenes of lust into infinity.
4. Bathroom Mirror Sex
Shower sex is a classic variant and one reason it’s so steamy is because it is frequently an occasion of mirror sex. You can see those delicious blurry steamed mirrors flashing naked embraces and wet bodies.
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5. Mirrored Ceilings
In those legendary orgies of the disco era, every sex room had mirror ceilings. That way you could take in all the action no matter who you were under. Mirrored ceilings are a staple of katoptronophilia, whether it takes two to tango or the more the merrier.
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6. Dirty Dancing
Slow dancing, dirty dancing—for many of us, foreplay and afterplay involve swaying in each other’s arms, or grinding away. Enjoy the sensual buzz or the bump and grind with visuals via mirror. There’s a reason many nightclubs have oodles of mirrors strategically placed.
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7. House of Mirrors Make-Out Session
Make full use of the props when the carnival comes to town, or when you’re doing touristy things. Use a house of mirrors to make out like teenagers and give yourself something to remember.
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8. BDSM and Katoptronophilia
Katoptronophilia isn’t necessarily kinky. Mirror sex is for everyone. But some of us are kinky. If you’re a BDSM practitioner, you can seriously intensify every scene by using a mirror.
Let her see her flame red bottom during and after a spanking. Watch the penetration action when she pegs you hard. Turn up the terror when you’re bound and gagged and left with your own imagination, with a ceiling mirror. Enjoy those thigh-high boots whether you’re looking at her or looking away.
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Do you use mirrors to kink up your sex? Please share!
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