What Is a Sissygasm?
A sissygasm, or sissy orgasm, is an orgasm experienced without using your cock.
You aren’t jerking off or fucking someone when you come. Some call the sissygasm a hands-free orgasm, meaning your hand or your femdom’s is not on your cock. But hands may be involved, to penetrate your ass with a dildo for example.
Your cock might be in a chastity cage. It might be flaccid, hard, or semi-erect when you orgasm. However it happens, your cock is not the focus of the experience. A sissygasm can happen with anal or nipple stimulation, through partner play or masturbation, or through fantasy or erotic sissy hypnosis.
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Why Have a Sissygasm?
It’s very important psychologically and powerfully erotic for someone with a sissy fetish, or undergoing sissification, to have an orgasm without stimulating their penis. This feels like a milestone and feels authentic, and shows their progress of feminization or ability to adapt to new erotic experiences.
Most people seeking the elusive sissygasm are into the sissy fetish, or sometimes their partner is a femdom into dominating a sissy. (A sissy can also have a male lover and dom.) Some men or transgender women want to have a sissygasm or enjoy having sissygams because they like the imaginative, sensual, full-body approach and enjoy exploring a range of experiences and erotic alternatives.
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What Does a Sissygasm Feel Like?
Readers who have had sissygasms say they are difficult to describe. They are at the same time more intense and less acute. There is a whole body feeling, with emanating ripples or waves during the buildup and after the release.
The pinnacle is not the ejaculation itself as in a cock-directed orgasm. The ejaculation may be more of a trickle than a fountain, releasing the natural fluids formed but not so acutely connected to the pleasure. The pleasure is longer and more holistic, a kind of mind-body experience.
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How to Have a Sissygasm
Be patient.
Having a sissygasm is a long-term sensual experience, not something that happens instantly. You need to understand that the torture, tension, and longing are part of the sissygasm experience.
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Quit masturbating with your cock.
Stop jerking off like a dude. The longer you go without jerking off, the easier the transition to sissygasm will be. The sexual tension in your body will need an outlet, but you will also leave behind the habit and response of your classic ways of jerking it.
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Change your mind.
A penis-oriented orgasm can be very direct, very goal oriented. It takes charge, humps and thrusts, is cock-centered, and then explodes. Great! But if you want to have a different orgasmic experience, a more full-bodied approach, or a sissygasm, you want to think differently about how to cum.
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Relax.
Let go of tension and expectation, and relax. Don’t be unrealistic. It can take weeks or months or more to have the sissygasm experience.
Don’t compare your sissygasm to someone else’s, or to porn.
Don’t think that your body will experience sissygasm the same way as it is outlined in your sissy hypnosis porn, or from other sissies. Don’t compare yourself with people who had a sissygasm without even trying, or with those who have never been able to experience a sissygasm.
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Fantasize and visualize.
Think often about your sissification transformation, about your sissy clothes, about your femdom’s dildo pegging your ass, about your pedicures and panties. Think about your flaccid girldick covered in cum. Visualize your sissygasm, when you’re trying to get there and often throughout your day.
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Try the sissygasm experience solo at first.
The whole point of a sissygasm may be to please your femdom or put your cock away in the process of sissification. In this case, a solo sissygasm may be defeating the purpose. But if your dom or femdom lets you masturbate, you may practice solo to get used to the mindset, sensations, and feelings.
We all learned about our bodies from masturbation, discovered what felt good and what didn’t, and maybe now you will learn more.
You may be wearing a chastity cage or have been directed not to masturbate. Check with your dom/me if you can pursue other forms of masturbation such as anal penetration without her before you play.
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Follow your femdom’s lead and direction.
If you’re aiming for a sissygasm to impress or please your femdom, or at her suggestion or command, trust her to know what is best for you mentally and physically, and enjoy the ride.
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Engage in nipple stimulation.
Some people can orgasm from direct nipple stimulation, as if there is a nerve lined up between the nipple and the clitoris or penis. Most of us simply enjoy the stimulation as sensual, but it does not build to orgasm. Many others have learned to have a sissygasm from nipple stimulation.
Don’t expect a volcanic release the first time you try to have a sissygasm by titty play. Dress in a lacy bra or sweet little teddy, whatever your dom/me wants, and relax while you relish and enjoy the idea of having breasts and having them touched. Let this build tension and sensation that will eventually lead to release.
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Anal play and penetration can make you come.
Prostate stimulation can make you sissygasm, and a nice pegging from your femdom in her harness and strap-on dildo is the best possible way to experience a sissygasm.
The anal sissygasm can also come from her fingers exploring your ass (or your fingers) or from a dildo or fuck toy.
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Mental stimulation or hypnosis are pathways to a sissygasm.
Listening to your dom/me, to hypnosis porn, or just fantasizing can get some people off all by itself.
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Use bondage to keep your hands off your junk.
If your hands automatically find their way to your aching cock, your dom or femdom may want to use bondage to restrain your hands and wrists where she wants them.
She may also choose to use bondage by command only, and you’ll have invisible restraints on your hands.
It is actually easier for some people to experience a sissygasm when their hands are bound. This is because they don’t have to concentrate on keeping their hands away and their psychological energy goes into focus and fantasy.
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