Sissification, or the sissy kink, is sometimes referred to as feminization or, more rarely, bimbofication.
What Is the Sissy Kink?
The word “sissy” is a kind of old-fashioned, pejorative word for an effeminate boy or man, as well as for someone who is timid or cowardly. It has been revived in the fetish context to refer to a kink for feminization of a submissive male.
To be a sissy in BDSM is when a submissive male derives pleasure from being ordered by their domme (or femdom) to take on feminine characteristics. This can include cross-dressing, feminization training, “forced” feminization, erotic humiliation, mockery of masculinity, pegging, chastity play, and more.
Read: BDSM Submissives: 16 Types of Subs
Lots of men enjoy dressing up as women, but sissification is different from cross-dressing because it usually involves submission and humiliation.
Someone with a sissy kink does not simply want to wear his girlfriend’s lingerie as an equal. The submission aspect is essential in the sissy kink, and erotic humiliation is a powerful part of the picture for most.
A sissy gets off on being emasculated, being told what to do, and being sexualized and objectified and degraded. A sissy may be naturally effeminate but typically is masculine in everyday life (unless he is a full-time sissy in service to his domme.)
The sissy kink mindset for some is about being “a hole” and there to use and abuse, a fairly standard theme of power exchange fantasy in BDSM, with a specific expression for degradation.
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The male with a sissy kink fantasizes about being transformed into a hypersexualized female and treated like a sex object or a sexual fetish. In this way, the transformation from masculine to feminized “little slut” is also a kind of transformation kink.
While the sissy kink is an overwhelmingly male fetish and fantasy, with dommes taking power and authority as part of their domination kinks, there are some women who have a sissy kink, too—who want to transform men into sissies.
Read: 17 Transformation Fetishes and Kinks
Sissification and Sissy Training
A sexually dominant woman who engages with her submissive in the process of sissification is sometimes called a femdom.
Sissification is a process of transformation and may involve cross-dressing, emasculation, gender role reversal, receptive anal sex, shaving body hair, house cleaning or other service tasks, and lessons in feminine comportment.
The sissification process is sometimes called sissy training, and involves training in feminine clothing and mannerisms as well as training in appropriate submission.
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Clothing and Crossdressing
Women’s lingerie, stockings, heels, dresses, jewelry, hair ribbons and other feminine garments may be used in the sissy kink. Wigs and makeup and feminine grooming such as shaving legs or armpits may be part of sissification.
Read: Crossdressing & Pegging Fantasies: 4 Kinky Confessions
“Forced” Sissification
Forced feminization or forcefem is a consensual nonconsensual or CNC kink that involves the fantasy of transformation into a sissy or feminized slave.
For some submissives, the fantasy of being used “against their will” is important to the intensity of humiliation. A BDSM contract is a good idea here to make sure everyone is on the same page and understands desires and boundaries.
Read: Forced Feminization and Sissification Kinks
Erotic Humiliation
The sissy kink is not just about dressing up as a woman but about being degraded and humiliated for one’s masculinity. Being shamed, embarrassed, mocked and objectified can be a huge turn-on to those who get off with erotic humiliation.
Humiliation is a form of psychological pain. Finding pain erotic is extremely common, but it doesn’t have to be physical. Some don’t get off on physical pain sensations, and some enjoy both.
Read: Humiliation Kink: 18 Examples of Erotic Embarrassment
Small Penis Humiliation (SPH)
Small dick humiliation is its own category when it comes to BDSM and fetishes, and there is a lot of crossover. But erotic humiliation is common in the sissy kink, and emasculation is part of the transformation fantasy and the desired kinds of humiliation.
The cock is a symbol of masculinity, so small penis humiliation is often part of the humiliation play in sissification kinks.
Read: SPH Kink: 6 Small Penis Humiliation Ideas
11 Types of Sissies
1. Hypno Sissy
The sissy kink has a whole hypno sissy culture where porn and erotica are designed to hypnotize someone into becoming feminized and serving their superior.
Hypno sissy or sissy hypnosis takes the form of pornography or recordings such as podcasts that encourage the submissive to become feminized. This may include forced bedwetting, small penis humiliation, sissy tasks like wearing little girl clothes or pigtails, and so on.
Read: Under the Spell: Hypnosis Fetish and Hypnokink
2. Sissy Slut
Slut training is a common form of BDSM submission training where women “learn” how to be total sluts at the service of their dom’s fulfillment. Sissy sluts are males who want to become slutty females.
Read: BDSM Training: A Guide for Beginners
3. Forced Sissy
The forced sissy is a CNC kink where the fantasy is about the feminization being forced.
4. Chastity Sissy
The sissification fetish is often played out in tandem with a chastity kink. Since the sissy “gives up” his manhood to his domme, having her control his chastity makes sense. The chastity kink can be by command or with chastity cock cages to make sure he doesn’t masturbate.
Read: 10 Femdom Chastity Ideas to Drive Him Wild
5. Cuckold Sissy
Cuckolding is a very popular fantasy and fetish. Since erotic humiliation is essential to cuckolding, it stands to reason that other erotic humiliation fetishes crossover with cuckolding, including sissy kinks.
If you want to imagine your wife fucking hot, virile men—or watch them and do their laundry afterwards—while being dressed up and treated like a little girl, you may be a cuckold sissy.
Read Cuckold Humiliation Ideas: How to Humiliate a Cuck
6. Sissy Maid
Service sluts or others who enjoy submission through service may enjoy the sissy kink by being transformed into a sissy maid. Basically, you cook and clean while dressed in frilly maid outfits, and do any errands your domme expects.
7. Sissy Baby
Regressive age play is not always about humiliation and it is not always sexual, but since adult baby diaper lover (ABDL) kinks are often about helplessness, humiliation, and diaper play, it often meshes with the sissy kink.
In addition to feminization, the sub is transformed into an adult baby. The sissy baby is sometimes called a diaper sissy, especially if diapers are the main point of their fetish or used by the femdom for humiliation.
Read: Diaper Fetish: 6 Kinks of Diaper Lovers
8. Sissy Slave
The slave or submissive is a classic aspect of BDSM power exchange relationships, and the sissy slave is a male slave who is feminized or sissified.
9. Little Sissy
Gender reversal age regression is a sissy kink manifestation of Little play. The degrading transformation is from adult male to little girl.
Read: Littles and Little Space: An Introduction
10. Goth/Emo Sissy
Lots of folks with sissy kinks play out their transformation desires not with pink little girl outfits but with “fetish” style women’s clothing such as latex and leather and rubber.
Read: Latex BDSM: 10 Ways BDSM Lovers Play with Latex
11. Lifestyle Sissy
A lifestyle sissy is someone who is in a power exchange relationship as a submissive sissy in everyday life, not just in a sexual setting. They are a 24-hour sissy.
Read: BDSM Roles: 33 Dominant and Submissive Roles
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