Looking for ways to enjoy BDSM play at home or away, without all the sex toys or BDSM equipment?
Maybe you’re just experimenting with the world of bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism. Or maybe you simply can’t afford all the leather, rubber, toys, BDSM tools, and devices you’re curious about.
Then there’s always that occasion when we’re taken by surprise, finding ourselves naked with a hottie and none of our whips and chains on hand!
Ideas for BDSM without Gear
BDSM play is exciting, sexy, intense, theatrical, and fun—but its greatest quality is creativity, which comes in handy when nothing else is! You can find all kinds of props wherever you are with a little bit of imagination.
Bondage
Tie me up, tie me down. Your lady has a whole drawer full of scarves, believe me. Some will be wispy, silky, sensual thin—perfect for blindfolds.
A bedsheet is a classic impromptu restraining device. She can weave it around your feet and tie up, or restrain your arms behind your back. Sheets also work wonders for binding. Roll her snugly in one, and she won’t be able to move until you say so!
For fantasies that are more raw and industrial, think bungee cords, rope, and twine. There are unlimited possibilities for restraints, just look around.
Read: Bondage Restraints: 15 Types of Bondage Gear
Spanking
If you’ve forgotten your whip at home, maybe it’s a good time to rediscover the intimacy of spanking with the bare hand. Bare hand on bare bottom, yes sir! There’s nothing quite like the smack of skin on skin. You can control intensity nicely this way, too.
There are all kinds of spanking tools at the ready. A leather belt, a wooden spoon, a rubber spatula. I’ve never found a whip or paddle that quite mimics the searing, acute sting of the wooden spoon. You can smack my bottom with that thing until I almost pass out, then turn me around and fuck me to remind me that you love me.
How about rolling up a newspaper and taking a good swat? One time, my date and I rummaged about in a closet and found an unused flyswatter. This was terrific—it had a very satisfying swoosh, and its sting was sharp but on the gentle side, perfect for playful occasions.
Another time, I was with a friend in her rec room. We started playing darts, and then ping pong—before long, I found myself bent over the ping pong table with my pants down, being paddled into oblivion.
Read: Household BDSM Props and Pervertables
Sensation Play
You’ll find a plethora of possiblities around the house for sensation play. Not just hot and cold temperature play, but dry and wet, soft and sharp, silky and rough, as well as sweet and salty.
In your freezer, you might find frozen veggies, ice packs and cubes. In the fridge, frosty wine, fizzy soda water, and strawberries.
Take a look through every room for items with a unique texture—ropes, sandpaper, hairbrushes, paint brushes, and feathers.
Read: Sensation Play Ideas and Tips
Role Playing
Maybe you’re on vacation and your favorite rubber, latex and leather clothing are all at home. Great! This signals a break in routine, and a chance to try something new.
Pick out some slinky dresses you want to see her in and ask her to model them while you’re tied to the refrigerator. Maybe there’s something you would like to try on—beg her permission to do so.
Going back to basics and innovating props with a familiar partner is a wonderful way to rediscover each other, and improvising with a new partner means new experiences. By taking a break from the tried and true, you’ll find yourself thinking outside the BDSM dungeon.
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