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How to Find Spanking Play Partners

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Tired of watching twerking hip-hop babes shake that thing while going solo at home with your hand?

So, you love spanking women. Who in their right mind wouldn’t love the chance to grope, stroke, squeeze and slap?Or maybe you’re the one who wants to be spanked. The idea of your naughty butt in the hands of a playful vixen drives you wild.

To spank or be spanked—you can find a spanking partner. Here’s what you need to know to find real spanking hookups.

How to Find Spanking Partners

Spanking is a common kink for men and women.

You appreciate it when a woman indulges one of your kinks. But it’s so much better when she shares that same fetish, isn’t it? Playing at a partner’s desire is generous and sexy, but having the same desire takes it to the next level.

Unfortunately, men and women are sometimes mismatched when it comes to kinks. Lots of guys have a foot fetish or want to cum all over her, for example, and most women aren’t longing for that themselves.

Spanking fetish is different. It’s something most women are curious about, have fantasized about, enjoy regularly, or want. In kink communities, erotic spanking the third most common thing women enjoy—after the basics like kissing and touching.

Be clear about what you want.

What kind of spanking partner are you looking for? Do you prize versatility, so you can swap sides? Are you looking to dominate a love slave? Do you enjoy a bit of frisky friction, or want someone to help you explore your shadow side and get more intense with hardcore S&M?

Maybe you’re not sure, and want someone to show you the ropes. Maybe you want to try out all kinds of spanking positions and exciting implements like whips and paddles.

Having some idea of where on the spanking spectrum you fit will help you meet Ms. Right.

Meet people at spanking dating sites.

Dating sites for spanking and other are great ways to find kinky sex partners and relationships, too. You can share essential details of your sexual personality that people at work might not be aware of, or you can browse profiles of women seeking spanking dates, or other shared kinks.

To find spanking hookups online, take a look at our list of the best spanking dating sites.

Unpack your emotional and sexual bags.

One of the biggest barriers to meeting a like-minded partner is our own emotional baggage. You might not know it and assume women aren’t interested in you or in your kink when it’s actually your lack of confidence that keeping potential matches at bay. You might come across as creepy or uncertain at a party or in your dating profile if you haven’t come to terms with your desires or owned them yet.

If you have issues—and we all do—get a grip on them. We don’t want to get spanked by someone with uncontrolled rage or an undercurrent of guilt.

Spankers and spankees are everywhere.

Spanking is part of the sex and BDSM-play spectrum for so many women that it is more likely she’s into some variation of spanking than not. While some specialty fetishes are best sought out online with fetish dating sites, any woman you meet at a party, at the dog park, or the office is quite likely to desire some kind of spanking.

Don’t limit yourself. If you meet someone interesting or someone who is attracted to you, you can bring up the subject candidly when it’s appropriate. “I have a mild/wild submissive side,” might be all that’s needed to get the conversation started.

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