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Impact Play Tools: 5 Ways to Explore

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Were you a fan of the Honeymooners? Yeah, there were problematic issues with some of the characters and domestic situations they found themselves in, but there was one thing that Ralph said that was an accurate metaphor for what us BDSM lovers are constantly interested in and attracted to.

He’d say these words, and as much as he was implying inappropriate actions to his wife, I want to remix them and apply them to our topic for today, which is IMPACT PLAY! When it feels right, it gives us the feeling of the words Ralph very loudly and aggressively would say:

“Bang! Zoom! Straight to the moon!”

The “straight to the moon” part being, of course, the subspace we go to when we are in a state of unearthly euphoria, from having our senses battered and beaten beautifully out of us by our BDSM partner.

Impact play is a wonderful way to find your boundaries of action and intensity intention, and see how much sweet pain and sour pleasure you are able to absorb.

There are an infinite variety of toys and tools that you can use to participate in impact play with someone, and the main boundary is THEIR consent to what you are going to use on them.

Have a clear conversation with your betrothed beaten partner about what things you are allowed to impact them with, and what you are not allowed to do. The typical red-yellow-green system of communication should be in effect as well, so they know that you know where they are as far as being able to accept more painful pleasure, or when they have to slow down, or stop for now, to transition to aftercare and cuddles.

And if you still haven’t met your impact play partner, take a look at our favorite spanking dating sites.

For now, let’s get into the first half of what Ralph would hilariously shout, “Bang! Zoom!” and discuss what it feels like to get hit with some good sexy stuff!

5 Impact Play Tools to Explore

1. Flogger

My favorite impact play toy, by far. They come in a variety of flavors, from velvet to leather to stranger materials like rabbit fur, silicone, cowhide, cotton, deer or elk skin. Even chain! They are what used to be called “scourges” in the Middle Ages, and they are like the cat o’ nine tails multi-whip instruments used in medieval torture.

It feels SO good to experience a loving administration of a velvet flogger on the back! The different materials you can experiment with provide different sensations to the skin, and they push boundaries in various ways. It’s a great place to explore the propensity for pain and pleasure on the surface of the skin.

Read: Flogging for Beginners

2. Crop

A more hardcore pleasure-filled pain administration, the crop is the same instrument used by jockeys that smack their horses on the hips to make them run. Of course, these can be used in a sexy context, to make your partner also run to the hills, metaphorically and chemically, from the rush they feel when you smack them ever so intently on their hind parts.

The crop is usually a wooden or metal stick with a leather fold on the end, from where the impact is given. The short inches of the fold cause an intense bite to the flesh, and sometimes the pole can be used in various ways to deliver more impact. A crop is a simple impact play tool, and with a bit of research, you can make your own!

3. Cane

This is essentially a crop WITHOUT a leather nub on the end. It’s like a switch, as some might refer to this instrument of pain. It may be a natural fiber—bamboo, rattan, reed—or made from a synthetic material like lucite or fiberglass.

A cane is a very hardcore impact play tool, and it’s something I don’t mess around with often. The lack of minimizing material for the hard wooden edge is too rough for my tastes. But some people are totally into it, and have no problem taking a session of hard caning on their buttocks and thighs that can leave welts. If you like a little extra, go for it! The cane is all yours.

Read: BDSM Caning for Beginners

4. Rope

The rope is another way you can explore a loving beating and a pleasant torturing. Rope comes in all kinds of textures and materials, from twine to plastic to cotton, and it can be easily fashioned into various handheld distributors of impact.

Making a flogger out of rope is quite simple with the intention of making a handle, then doing a couple small loops with the other end of the rope, and attaching the end of the rope back to the handle. Voila! A little homemade rope flogger, and away you go, spanking on your loved one with reckless abandon. You can also drag the rope across their skin and impact them in various other unique ways. Use your imagination!

5. Paddle

The paddle is an extension of the very first impact play tool: the hand. A good, firm flat hand is always a great option and usually where people start in BDSM. The paddle is not the most popular toy, but it’s a smart and fun option to have available to deliver solid impact play. This tool is great for over-the-knee role plays, and can be administered with a variety of power so the fun can continue for a while.

So yes, there’s a five-tool starter kit for your impact play happiness. One of these days, do yourself like Ralph and Alice Kramden, and BANG! ZOOM! Straight to the moon… with a flogger! Hitting the happy spots will be a honeymoon you will never forget, I promise!

For more BDSM ideas and inspiration, see our Big List of BDSM Ideas!

Love,
Addi “Malcolm Lovejoy” Stewart

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