Where to Meet Kinky Women

Tired of vanilla sex and unadventurous lovers? Want to meet kinky women but not sure where to start?

We receive many comments from people who are in search of kinky women to fulfill their fantasies and fetishes ,and who share their BDSM preferences.

It’s one thing to be horny and want to get laid, and it’s quite another to crave a very special something that you may feel no one shares with you.

When you’re out there dating and you hook up with someone for the first time, often you don’t know what a person is into or what they would be willing to try, or not try.

All this can take time, whether it’s spending money in bars night after night, wining and dining, or messaging and setting up first dates, week after week.

So where can you meet kinky women without so much hassle? Taking some of the guesswork out of wondering whether a woman is into kink or casual hookups will help.

5 Places to Meet Kinky Women

This article comes with a disclaimer: There are tons of kinky women out there who you are never going to know are kinky unless you get into bed with them. Their clothes and demeanor don’t give it away and they don’t use BDSM dating sites,  so I have no idea how you’re going to  meet those women.

But as for the rest of them…

1. Attend a BDSM Munch

Get to the heart of the kinky lifestyle with a BDSM munch. A munch is simply an informal gathering of kinky people who are into BDSM.

Read: The BDSM Munch: Everything You Need to Know

If you can find out about meetings like this in your area it can be a great way to meet kinky women and connect with those who share you kinky mindset. But be aware that there is usually no fetish gear or kink allowed at the meeting itself. This is a place for talking and getting to know others in a safe environment.

Also watch for conventions for fetish-related industries like sex toys and erotica.

2. Kinky Dating Sites

Meet women on the wild side.. online!

This is actually where you’ll find them at their kinkiest. With the chance of anonymity and a hungry audience of thousands, online dating sites for the sexually adventurous are where you’ll find these women revealing their true kink.

Stay clear of vanilla dating sites like eHarmony and head straight to the mothership of BDSM dating: BDSMDate.com.

Whether you want to find a femdom, a submissive woman, or just someone who enjoys kinky sex in general, you’ll find it online.

Read: Best Kinky Dating Sites

Kinky folk unite and find their sexual matches online more than any other place. You can talk dirty all you want and share all you want beforehand.

You may want to avoid membership fees by using mainstream sites, but you’ll spend the same amount of money taking women out on dates before they even share their kinky interests.

3. Sex Clubs

If you’re living in a metropolis, you probably already know where they are. These hot spots are truly for the adventurous types who also have a thing for getting it on in public.

Sex clubs usually have theme nights that may incorporate various kinks and fetishes. If you live in a rural area, think road trip!

Read: BDSM Clubs: First Time Tips and Inspiration

4. Kink and Burlesque Events.

These are usually one-offs that happen annually or tour the country. Google til your heart’s content to find what’s going on in and around your area.

Kinky Men and women attend these types of venues and not always with the intent to meet someone, but hey, there’s always a chance.

How to Find BDSM Events and Have a Good Time

5. Casual Kinky Hookups

In general, I don’t advise getting into anything too kinky or edgy on a first meet, and a hookup implies you’ve just met and are going to have sex that night. Often alcohol is involved as well.

Since much of BDSM play involves a trust and careful discussion in advance, attempting the kinky hookup is iffy.

If however, you would like to meet kinky women for a hookup within safe bounds, you’ll have to take some special care.

Read: How to Find a Kinky Hookup Tonight

Where do you meet kinky women?