There are many reasons to practice solo kinks or kinks alone.
You may be single because you haven’t found a partner yet, or you just don’t have interest in being in a long-term relationship. Maybe your partner doesn’t share your kink, so you have to fly solo. Or you may prefer to keep your kink private because you’re unsure of a partner’s reaction.
Whatever the reason, solo kinks need not be shameful or something to rush through. Solo kinks can be intricate, meaningful, and fun!
While many kinks and BDSM practices are intended for two people to enjoy, with a little creativity and imagination, most kinks can be adapted for solo play.
Read: What Are My Kinks? 13 Ways to Find Your Kink
12 Examples of Solo Kink
1. Self-Bondage
Practicing bondage alone may sound tricky, but there are ways to adapt this kink. Perhaps part of your self bondage experience is being restrained by someone else but then left alone.
Solo bondage may include tying your feet and legs or other body parts before posing in submissive positions. You can practicing rope arts like shibari, wear a bondage hood or blindfold while talking dirty to yourself and masturbating.
Read: 5 Ways to Make Masturbation Kinky
2. Self-Spanking
Spanking is arousing no matter where it comes from. Self-spanking may take a little practice to get the right angle for best results.
Reach your hand around to smack yourself on all fours or use your favorite spanking implement, something from your kinky toy box or a household item like a wooden spoon or hairbrush. Play in front of the mirror for added arousal.
Read: Best BDSM Spanking Tools and Implements
3. Self-Punishment
Your dominant partner need not be present to engage in discipline if you think your behavior warrants punishment right now.
You can force yourself into an uncomfortable submissive pose for an extended amount of time, texting your dom all the while. You can also discipline yourself using BDSM gear like nipple clamps or floggers.
Read: His and Hers Guide to Nipple and Breast Torture
4. Orgasm Control
Edging and denial games are fun with two but just as exciting solo. It feels good to take yourself to the brink of orgasm, only to take your hand off your dick or pussy, then ramp things up again and again. This kinky exercise in control can come in handy when you’re with a lover.
Take this a step further with solo chastity play. Watching too much porn? Becoming desensitized from your favorite BDSM practices. Put your cock in a cage for an enforced break. You have the key, but that’s where self-discipline comes in. Pretend a wicked dominatrix holds the key to keep yourself in line.
Read: Chastity Play: 4 Reasons It’s So Hot
5. Solo Roleplay
Solo kinks that are fun to experiment with include solo roleplaying. Acting out your fantasies are the perfect way to feel things out, especially if you are reticent to share a kink.
Solo role plays can include a crossdressing fetish, anal play, BDSM marking, CBT, medical kinks, age play kinks, and sensory play. Act out your dominant and submissive fantasies with a sex doll to take the other role.
Read: Sexual Roleplay: A Guide for Roleplay Beginners
6. Sex Toys
Thank heaven for sex toys for when we’re alone and feeling horny. Most people have a vibrator or two in their bedside table for late-night or early morning thrills.
Solo fun can be had with vibrators, dildos and other insertables, cock rings, butt plugs, nipple clamps, waxing kits, lubricants and massage oils.
Read: Tips for Shopping for Sex Toys
7. Sex Dolls
Solo kinks can involve a sex doll if you don’t want to feel alone or if having a stand-in will make it more exciting. Some kinks are just more fun with two and your lovely sex doll can be the perfect BDSM partner.
Dress your sex doll up and down in fetish wear or whatever else floats your boat. Tie her up, tie her down. Pinch her nipples, fuck her with a cucumber or your cock. Tell her your dirty fantasies. Squeeze her butt. Come on her face. Then fold her up and hide her away… until next time.
Read: Sex Doll 101: All About Sex Dolls
8. Fucking Vegetables
Solo kinks are as easy as one two three with a trip to the kitchen, a place where kinky insertables await. Or you can take a sexy trip to the grocery store to browse for a specific shape and size that suits your tastes.
Try carrots, cucumbers, and zucchinis. I recommend peeling shaft-like vegetables before inserting for maximum comfort. Interested in anal play? Anal toys are designed with a flared base or something hanging out to ensure retractability, so vegetables up the ass are not really a good idea.
Read: Food Fetish: 13 Kinks Involving Food and Eating
9. Fucking Machines
A lot of hardcore BDSM enthusiasts invest in fucking machines for solo kink play. This type of BDSM furniture is also a thrill for two, with one person getting off on watching their partner get fucked by heavy equipment.
For solo play, a fuck machine can be a wonderful substitute for a willing and able and unstoppable fucking partner. If you love getting fucked silly, start browsing and reading reviews.
Read: 10 BDSM Furniture Ideas for Your Home Dungeon
10. Autofellatio
Do you suck your own cock? Autofellatio is a pure solo kink that many men fantasize about, almost every man tries at some point, but one that isn’t actually possible for most.
If you do try, you’ll know very quickly if it’s within mouth’s reach or if keeping it a fantasy is best. Many impossible kinks can still be enjoyed through fantasy alone, by watching porn where it is happening, or reading erotic stories about said kink.
Read: Autofellatio Kink: Tips & Ideas
11. Autoerotic Asphyxiation
Breath play can be pleasurable and induce altered states of consciousness, experiences that range in feeling from sexually stimulating to downright visionary. But auto asphyxiation is an impossible kink to perform safely.
The risk factors of choking, strangulation, suffocation, or anything else that restricts oxygen intake, means that you are playing with fire. There are plenty of other solo kinks to explore that will get you off but not threaten your life.
Read: Autoerotic Asphyxiation: Can Solo Breath Play Be Safe?
12. Exploring Fetish
For BDSM beginners, the wide world of kink exploration is endless. Whatever fetish you want to explore, you can begin solo with online research. You can read up on fetish specifics, related toys, safety practices, and find fetish communities, all the while trying out the kinks that interests you.
Read: The BIG List of Kinks: 120+ Fetishes Explained
Don’t let your single status or being with a vanilla lover stop you from enjoying your kinks.
What solo kinks do you engage with? Do you share these kinks with others sometimes?
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