Are you wondering why men and women like bondage? What’s so exciting about being tied up sexually?
You may have imagined being tied up and thought there’s nothing much to it—seeing as you can’t move and all. Actually, though, lots of fun can happen for people who find themselves bound up in ropes, chains, straps, or other bondage restraints.
Why Do People Enjoy Bondage?
Let’s look at some of the primary reasons people like bondage and why they find it so exciting.
Masochism and Submission
If pain is your thing, then being tied up can add an incredible amount of suspense to the game.
The anticipation of a pinch, a smack, or a riding crop across the ass becomes that much more intense. There is nothing you can do to stop the blow from landing. There is no way you can jump out of the way of hot wax pouring down on your skin, on your nipples.
Your master has all the power, and all you can do is wait until they decide to punish you… or spring you out of your bonds.
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Humiliation
If being a voyeur, or a cuckold kink is your thing, then being tied up is sexy as fuck.
Just imagine that your lover has you completely restrained. You can’t move. Suddenly another person enters the room. Your partner is about to fuck someone else in front of your eyes, and you can’t leave even if you want to. You have to stay there and take in the show.
Humiliation bondage is a unique and sexy punishment. Will you get any satisfaction after? I guess it’s up to the other two to decide if they want to have mercy on you.
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Sensation and Suspense
Even for those who prefer things to be gentle, bondage can still be amazing. Just add sensation play!
A feather tickle can be agonizingly fun. An ice cube can take on epic powers. Just the decision of where and how you will be kissed, licked, or fucked becomes a grand mystery. You can always add a blindfold for extra excitement.
Helplessness
Helplessness can be incredibly hot. For one thing, you are giving total control of yourself over to another person. They can touch you any way they like. They can tease you, or please you, and there isn’t a thing you can do about it.
Being tied up can also be part of rape fantasies, too. Rape fantasies can be very hot when they happen between people who have trust. A lot of people find the idea of someone grabbing them, and then tying them up and having their way, really sexy.
No matter what, it is about giving up control, and letting someone else take charge. It’s about the thrill of helplessness.
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How Popular is Bondage?
Some people who are into bondage and kinky sex may feel isolated until they find the welcoming community of freaky people who are into similar BDSM activities. So, you may be surprised to find that certain fetishes are much more common than the average person thinks.
BDSM activities used to be considered sexually deviant by the DSM-5, a manual that psychiatrists use to diagnose different issues. Now we know that bondage and the majority of BDSM play is normal and more common than previously thought.
A study, which comes from institutions associated with the University of Montreal, sought to show what normal kinksters fantasize about, so it could be determined which fantasies are actually more rare, and which ones are shared by a lot of open-minded sex partners. What’s clear from the study is that certain fun BDSM techniques are on the top of a lot of lovers’ lists.
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Bondage is a Common Kink
As it turns out, 52 percent of women and 46 percent of men surveyed said they had fantasized about being tied up by a lover as part of a sexy game.
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That means nearly half of those around you right now might be closeted kinksters themselves. Thirty to sixty percent of women admitted to fantasizing about any submissive activity, including spanking or rough sex play, and fourty percent of women said they fantasized about being ejaculated on by their partners.
It’s clear from this study, that people are definitely kinkier than you might think.
If you decide to try bondage, feel free to experiment, and have fun! Just remember that safe words matter, and bondage play should always be between consenting adults.
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Are you a bondage lover? Why do you like bondage so much?
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