Kinky Confessions

How to Embrace Your Submissive Side

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So many kinky confessions come through our inbox, it’s hard to choose. This week’s confession comes from a reader who is used to being in control. When he relinquishes, he is surprised by how much he enjoys the submissive side of things. Enjoy!

“I pulled on Sara’s nipples through her dress as we kissed deeply. She started stroking me through my jeans. Then she turned the tables. She said, ‘I let you tie me up, so how about you let me tie you up?’ My heart rate jumped. We were in the barn loft where we had a secret playroom with a padded bench. I tried to be casual, as I quickly agreed.

Soon I was tied bent over the bench with my jeans pulled down around my ankles. She broke out a small wooden paddle and started spanking my ass. Whack whack, one after the other. I jumped at every swat, asking her to stop. She reached down and stroked my now throbbing hard cock. ‘Your mouth says no, but your cock says yes,’ she said. So the swats kept coming.

I soon asked her to stop, as my ass was on fire. ‘You really want me to stop?’ ‘Yes. Yes. Please!’ She proceeded to lube my ass and started to finger me. I moaned loudly. She said, ‘Oh, like that, do you? You’ll love what is next.’ I felt a toy sliding up and down the crack of my ass. The tip was against my ass, and then she leaned forward to slide the object in deeply. A gasp and a moan escaped me. She began pounding me deeply. I couldn’t help but moan and back up.

By the time she turned me loose, I couldn’t jump her fast enough. I came almost as soon as I was in her. Spent, I slid out. She just laughed at me, telling me I’d get used to it. After that I never said no to her wanting to tie me up again.” – T

Thank you to our reader T for his kinky confession! Who doesn’t fantasize about a gorgeous woman taking charge and turning us into her love slave? Just the thought of getting an ass-fucking like that is practically making me come.

You can make your fantasy a reality by embracing your submissive side.

How to Embrace Your Submissive Side

Tell your partner what you want.

Whether you are both kinky or haven’t yet crossed over to the dark side, sharing your submissive fantasies will open the doors of communication. She may be hoping you want her to take the reins, or maybe she never thought of it, but the idea is a major turn on.

Be playful to get comfortable.

You might want her to break out the paddle and ram your virgin ass until your insides split. But experimenting and exploring playfully gives you both a better idea of what works in real life, and you learn as you go about boundaries and ecstasy alike.

If you’re experienced, and know submission is part of your sexuality, find the right partner.

BDSM can be fun for everyone and open up our minds to the joys of relinquishing and taking control. But if it’s an essential backbone to your sexuality, something non-negotiable, than take charge unapologetically in your search for a sex playmate or partner.

To find a dominant partner to submit to, try sites specifically for doms and subs looking to meet in person. See our recommendations for the best BDSM dating sites.

In your submissive dating profile and your conversations with potential lovers, tell them up front that you need occasional, frequent, or full-time domination. Don’t waste a woman’s time if she doesn’t swing that way and isn’t interested in exploring domination.

BDSM kink is everywhere.

Understand that BDSM is very common—in fetish communities and on kink sites, but also next door and in the office. It’s not a rare kink like some fetishes or fantasies.

Take workshops or join a few meetups with a partner or solo.

Broaden your horizons and learn safety and etiquette from like-minded people. You can take pegging or spanking workshops, or attend BDSM munches with the kinky people in your area. Meeting people who share your fetishes is the best way to embrace your submissive side.

Kinky Confessions is a regular post on Kink Lovers. We want readers to share their tantalizing tales of kink, fetish, and fantasy. SUBMIT YOUR STORY HERE! These stories don’t have to be real—they can be fiction that you’d like turned into reality.

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