BDSM Dating Sites

For the readers at KinkLovers, BDSM Date is the most popular dating site for those interested in bdsm and fetish. However, there are many other sites in this niche that are also great for making new connections and meeting women and men in the lifestyle. All of the bdsm dating sites below offer a free basic membership which allows you to sign up and check out the profiles and available features before upgrading. I usually advise people to join a few sites at a time and then only pay for the one or two that have lots of local profiles.

Read my post on the Best BDSM Dating Sites for 2014 here

Lola Recommends…

BDSMdate.com

Not only the largest bdsm dating site (by far), but also the most fully featured. BDSM Date offers video chat, instant messaging, and member blogs, and the group chat rooms are totally free for basic members (those who haven’t upgraded yet). The searching function allows you to find people into your specific fetish or interest so hooking up with like-minded members is easy. If you haven’t joined yet be sure to check it out.

KinkDating.com

Read our full Kink Dating Review.
This is a lesser known site but has a good number of profiles. Some of the advanced features could be improved (such as allowing member to member video chat) but one unique key feature here is that you can use the message boards for free, even without upgrading. This gives you a chance to communicate with other members but I do recommend the full membership for when you want to contact someone to set up a date.

FindaFemdom.com

Read our FindaFemdom Review.
The name says it all! I like this site as well because you can sign up for free and take a look at all of their members. You’ll find thousands of people in the bdsm lifestyle here including local femdoms and dominant women. New members get 30 free “Flirts” (ice breakers), so you can start interacting right away and get a feel for the community before deciding to upgrade.

For dating sites related to individual fetishes, see my post:
Best Fetish Dating Sites For Every Kink

Good Luck and Enjoy!