Does the shame, humiliation, and embarrassment that you feel when you beg your lover for permission or a certain touch amp up your sexual arousal?
What Is a Begging Kink?
A begging kink is when we find physical and psychological pleasure in the act of begging, or in receiving begging from our submissive lover.
Dominant lovers may find tremendous excitement in making their subs beg.
Submissive partners often find the humiliation aspect and the uncertainty of the outcome incredibly arousing.
A begging kink is a common part of BDSM because begging is part of power and helplessness, a familiar aspect of sexual dynamics in a power exchange relationship.
Making someone beg and enjoying their desperation as they throw away their dignity for a scrap of your affection is a heady aphrodisiac that is an age old aspect of seduction and power.
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Forms of Sexual Begging
Vocal Begging and Pleading
The primary way to act out the begging kink is vocally.
It’s what we do naturally when we are desperate for more. Everyone has called out “Oh, please don’t stop” during lovemaking at some point or another.
We express our begging kink by asking for more, and also by other sounds, whether voluntary or not voluntary. Some sounds of begging just come out. The more we try to control ourselves and conceal our need, the more we cry and whimper. The humiliation is from our helplessness in the intensity of our need.
Pleading for more, crying out loud, and calling out repetitively are all ways we vocally enact the begging kink.
If you’re a dominant or sadist, hearing the pleas of your sub, and choosing whether or not to give in to their whimpers and cries is an amazing feeling of power.
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Physical Begging
A begging kink manifests vocally and also through physical begging. Kneeling as in prayer and full-body kneeling with torso face down are ancient positions of supplication and subordination, whether in religious prayer or of a subject to a king or queen.
Our facial expressions also give away our needy desires.
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7 Begging Kink Ideas
1. Begging at Master’s Feet
Kneeling at someone’s feet is pure symbolism of power and submission. A begging kink can play out for both dom and sub in BDSM simply by grovelling at the dom’s feet. Adding foot worship intensifies the begging kink.
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2. Begging for Sex
For the dom or domme with a begging kink, hearing a sub beg for sex is thrilling. Controlling the experience, pleasure, and fulfillment of sex is exciting.
You don’t always give in right away and you don’t always give in, and that tease and denial play is what makes the begging kink so intoxicating. You control the outcome while the sub is begging and hoping.
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3. Begging to Orgasm
The begging kink is perhaps at its most raw and hot in BDSM exchanges or fetish play when orgasm edging, ruined orgasms, and other forms of orgasm control take place.
Begging to come during orgasm edging and orgasm denial play is as real as it gets!
For a domme who knows that every orgasm is entirely a matter of her mercy, a sub begging to come is pure music.
For the submissive who is begging for the release of that orgasm, the desperation and humiliation are at their absolute peak.
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4. Beg for It to Stop
Forced orgasms are another kind of BDSM play where the begging kink naturally springs to life. You can’t stop begging for it to stop when you are exhausted from too many waves of pleasure and coming has become a form of torture!
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5. Begging as Humiliation Play
An erotic humiliation kink is very common and many submissive people are wildly turned on by shame, embarrassment, and degradation in an erotic and consensual context.
Begging is a form of BDSM because something that is painful in another context is exquisite in an erotic context. Not all masochists enjoy physical pain. Many prefer various kinds of psychological pain. Many enjoy both.
What can be more humiliating than begging? When you have been reduced to a quivering bundle of needs and one person holds all of your power, the begging kink is in full swing!
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6. Begging Roleplay Scenarios
If one of you has a begging kink and the other doesn’t, it can feel awkward, even if you are both keen to incorporate the begging kink into your BDSM play. Using begging in role play scenarios can help you get into character and express yourself.
Many common BDSM roleplay scenarios can easily use the begging kink. Doctor and patient, teacher and student, cop and arrested party, and mother and step-son are all power exchange roleplays where begging can play a big part.
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7. Beg Like a Dog
For those who enjoy puppy play, use puppy dynamics to incorporate the begging kink into your fetish experiences.
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Tips for Kinky Beggars
Use Lots of Eye Contact
The eyes are the windows of the soul, so let your dom see the pain and need in your expression!
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Fully Express Your Desperation
Don’t keep your desires inside. Explore your begging kink fully by using your words, your posture, your eyes, your sounds, everything you have.
Make It Filthy
Incorporate dirty talk by making your desires very specific. Give the nitty gritty while you’re begging.
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Ask for Feedback Afterwards
Ask your mistress for feedback after the scene, so that your begging style will be more persuasive and effective next time you play.
Beg for Real
The most important aspect of the begging kink is when begging is fueled by real humiliation and desperation. Even if you’re role playing, let yourself dive into the roles. It’s much much hotter when the begging is authentic!
While the submissive does the begging, it is actually the responsibility of the dominant to bring them to the place where they can’t help but beg for real. That’s what the begging kink is all about.
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