Curious about adult baby/diaper love? Do you wonder what age play, diaper kinks, or little space is all about?
Maybe you’ve seen “Looking for a Daddy Dom” on a kinky dating site and weren’t quite sure if your brand of BDSM worked in that context. Maybe you have a diaper fetish but aren’t sure how to connect with others who are looking for you.
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What Is ABDL?
Adult Baby Diaper Lovers (ABDL) is a varied and diverse community within a larger kink community or BDSM community.
Adult Baby Diaper Lovers or ABDL is a catchall for people who enjoy regressive age play, regressive age-play-related power-exchange relationships, little space, adult baby dressup and accessories, wearing diapers, and more.
The Adult Baby Diaper Lovers kink is sometimes called autonepiophilia. Adult babies and diaper lovers get emotional and sexual pleasure age regressing to infancy or childhood, or wearing diapers.
Read: 11 Age Play Fetishes and Kinks
5 ABDL Roles
There are many different roles in the Adult Babies Diaper Lovers spectrum. Here are the most common ABDL roles.
1. Adult Babies
Adult babies are adults who enjoy regressive age play to experience the feeling of being a baby. They will be helpless and rely on their Mommy Dom or Daddy Dom or other caregiver roles. They need to be told what to do, dressed and undressed, rocked or snuggled, bathed and changed.
They don’t talk, but cry and laugh. They may enjoy adult baby play pens, adult baby change stations, adult baby diapers, adult baby toys and clothes, adult baby pacifiers and bottle feeding.
Read: Resources for Your Adult Baby Fetish
2. Sissy Babies
Sissy babies are adult babies who are male who want to be treated, dressed as and referred to as female babies. This is a subset of adult babies but also of sissification or femdom. There is an aspect of erotic humiliation in this kink.
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3. Littles
Littles enjoy regression age play to childhood rather than infancy. Littles want to get to little space, or the world of childhood.
Littles love to experience aspects of childhood such as submission or obedience to Mommy or Daddy, being spoiled, acting out, being punished, receiving guidance and affection and snuggles, as well as pajamas, cartoons, cereals, toys, and other nostalgic, carefree accessories.
Read: Littles and Little Space: An Introduction
4. Caregivers
Adult babies and little space lovers are part of BDSM, but their dominants are often called caregivers. Mommy Dom and Daddy Dom are the most common.
The caregiver dominant is usually more affectionate, loving, and caring than domination in other kinds of role play, although every couple or individual is different and may negotiate the power exchange relationship that works best for them.
Daddy Doms and Mommy Doms must discipline their littles of course, but they also have a lot of latitude because their subs are babies or littles.
Read: All About Mommy Doms and MDLB Kinks
5. Diaper Lovers
Diaper lovers get off on wearing diapers. Some enjoy the age regression to baby aspect, but not all are “adult babies.” It may be the diaper itself and how it feels. It may be the erotic humiliation of being an adult dressed in baby clothing. It may be the taboo of incontinence. It may be the diaper fabric or the way it looks.
Read: Diaper Fetish: 6 Kinks of Diaper Lovers
Why Do People Enjoy Regressive Age Play?
Many adult babies or littles describe regressive age play as a space (often a subspace) where they can temporarily give up control and fully relax. It relieves stress, feels fun, and provides sexual and psychological pleasure.
This subspace may be nostalgic, a chance to indulge in things like cartoons or favorite childhood foods or games. It can be a time when you are the center of attention and receive affection from your Mommy Dom or Daddy Dom.
Read: DDLG Rules: Daddy’s List of Rules for Littles
How Do Adult Babies Play?
There are many ways that adult babies, littles, and diaper lovers play. Some enjoy many different ABDL ways to play. Others have very specific kinks and enjoy one or two play methods but not others.
ABDL Roleplay
Nearly all ways to play for ABDL include some kind of roleplay. Regressive age play is itself a kind of roleplay.
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Adult Baby Clothing and Pacifiers
A big part of being an adult baby is dressing up and staging. Examples of kinds of adult baby costumes or dressup include cute baby dresses or overalls, onesies, colorful and playful socks and shoes, whimsical patterns like rubber ducks or polka dots or nostalgic cartoon characters and related motifs.
Adult baby staging includes pacifiers, rattles, stuffed animals, and wearing hairstyles more suited to babies, including soft headbands and bows.
Read: Clothing Fetish: Fabric, Clothing, and Costume Kinks
Diaper Wearing
For many adult babies, especially diaper lovers, diaper wearing is an important fetish and sometimes the whole point. This is the ultimate submission or humiliation for some, and for others, it is an important part of the sensation and arousal.
Read: Diaper Fetish: 6 Kinks of Diaper Lovers
Diaper Changes
Most diaper lovers enjoy the interaction with their Mommy or Daddy Dom and the handling involved in diaper changing. It can be humiliating and the ultimate symbol and play of pure helplessness.
Not all adult babies or diaper lovers enjoy urinating or soiling their diapers. For some, diaper changing is play acting. Others receive erotic arousal and fulfillment from wetting their diaper or soiling it and being changed.
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Adult Nursing
There are quite a few mommy fetishes, including lactation and pregnancy kinks. Adult nursing as an adult baby is simply play acting at nursing or literally nursing if it is available.
An adult baby may enjoy nursing while in age regression or adult baby dressup. Lots of people enjoy lactation kinks, not just adult baby lovers.
Read: Lactation Fetish: 4 Types of Milking Kinks
Sissification
Sissification, sissy kinks, sissy baby fetishes, and forced feminization are a femdom fetish where a male submissive gets off on being dominated by a woman who subjects him to erotic humiliation and wants him to act more like a woman.
In the context of ABDL, a male little or male adult baby may enjoy being dressed up as a little girl or baby girl, and being “sissified,” that is, made more childlike and more of a girl. Pink dresses and lacy bows, bobby sox, and humiliation for male aspects of his body and personality are part of sissification fetishes.
Read: Kinky Crossroads: Adult Baby and Sissification
Little Space
Little space is role play or age regression play where one becomes a child. They may read kids’ books, color, play in a sandbox, wear kid’s clothing, eat fun cereals and candy, use a jump rope, play hopscotch or marbles.
Read: Age Regression & Little Space: How to Get There
Funishments
Funishments are a combination of fun and punishment. If a Little Boy sub enjoys a spanking, for example, he may act out playfully to get Mommy Dom to give him a spanking. These are not serious punishments meant to be corrective but more lighthearted and saucy.
Read: Funishment Ideas for BDSM Subs, Brats, and Littles
ABDL Spankings
Spankings are often part of adult baby or diaper play. They are common to many BDSM fetishists and many mostly vanilla people as well. Spanking an adult baby or little can be part of age regression role play.
Adult babies are sometimes done in “baby position” rather than “over Mommy’s knee” because a baby would be on their back with legs in the air. Sometimes these spankings are given while wearing diapers because this is the kink for the receiver. The impact would not be intense, but is part of the domination and humiliation play.
Read: BDSM Spanking: 10 Types of Spankings for Pain and Pleasure
Scat Play
Scat play or coprophilia is part of diaper fetishes for some, but not all diaper lovers. Feces fetishes are an ultimate taboo, even in kink friendly communities, but are very common.
Scat play in the adult baby or diaper lover context usually involves soiling a diaper or baby clothes, experiencing the sensation of the soiling, humiliation aspects, and being changed or cleaned.
Read: Scat Kink: All About Poop Fetish and Scat Play
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