Are you a Mommy Domme or Daddy Dom with an adult baby who needs training?
Adult Baby Diaper Lovers (ABDL) have a fetish for regressive age play, or for wearing diapers, or both. In the ABDL fetish, adults want to regress to being babies, whether infants or toddlers. They use age regression role play to enter into a helpless state where they find relaxation and relief from responsibilities.
Adult babies are the responsibility of a nurturing dominant who provides loving guidance and care. ABDL find sexual and psychological pleasure and comfort in playing a baby. Their needs are simple in this state of mind—they want food and water, Mommy or Daddy, physical touch, toilet and hygiene needs met.
Read: ABDL 101: Types of Adult Babies and How They Play
ABDL may have a specific fetish for diapers, including the tactile sensation of diapers, the helplessness or humiliation aspects of wearing a wet diaper or soiled diaper, for the feeling of vulnerability getting diapers changed, for the attention and affection they get from Mommy Domme or Daddy Dom attending to their diaper needs.
Some diaper lovers enjoy wearing a diaper without the age regression aspect. They may wear their diapers under regular clothes and prefer them to underwear.
Read: Diaper Fetish: 6 Kinks of Diaper Lovers
Adult Baby Diaper Lover fetish is a kind of BDSM. The adult baby is in the submissive or needy role. The Mommy or Daddy figures are a loving or nurturing caregiver role. ABDL training is an important part of this unique power exchange relationship. There are many different ABDL training ideas and ways to play.
10 Ideas for ABDL Training
1. ABDL Hypnosis
ABDL hypnosis is hypnosis in an adult baby diaper lover fetish context. Hypnosis is a psychological technique that incorporates meditation, relaxation, and mind control. It is used in a larger context to help people with weight loss, grief, to quit smoking, or to relax. It is session based but has a longer context, being something that is repeated or explored at different intervals over time.
ABDL hypnosis is an ABDL training idea that helps adult babies enter an age-regressed state and accept their adult baby identity in general. It can be an audio or video recording, or reading material, or it can be a kind of murmuring lullaby sequence spoken by the Mommy or Daddy doms.
Typical ABDL hypnosis includes relaxing music or soft speaking with affirmations like “You are more and more comfortable and safe in your diapers.” “You are not alone in your enjoyment of adult baby play.” “You are safe in Mommy’s arms and your diapers.”
Read: 5 Kinds of Mommy Fetishes and Kinks
2. Forced ABDL Roleplay
Forced ABDL roleplay is an ABDL training idea based on consensual non-consent (CNC). In ABDL BDSM power exchange relationships, the idea of being forced to wear diapers or assume a baby role can be very arousing.
Mommy or Daddy taking the upper hand and forcing the adult baby into diapers, then soothing them with a bottle and snuggle until they stop crying is a typical scenario.
3. ABDL Clothing and Gear
A common ABDL training idea is simply showing Mommy Domme or Daddy Dom and baby how to use clothing and gear. Baby needs help getting into their onesies and may need a pacifier for soothing and calming. There are adult cribs, adult playpens, adult-sized baby bottles, and adult baby clothing.
Age regressive play and ABDL training ideas include getting familiar and accustomed to the props and gear of adult babyland.
Read: ABDL Clothing and Gear: Wear to Get It
4. ABDL Diaper Training
New adult babies may desire the full diaper experience but have been used to using the toilet! It’s not always easy to fully relax and let go. ABDL training is sometimes called diaper dependence training and is all about unlearning toilet use so that adult baby can use the diapers Mommy has given him.
Diaper training can be done solo with practice, with ABDL hypnosis, or with the help of the dominant caregiver.
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5. ABDL Potty Training
ABDL potty training is an ABDL training idea that incorporates use of the potty. While some diaper lovers prefer only diapers, as Mommy domme you may want to train your adult baby to use the potty and toilet. Reward for potty use and punishment or discipline for failing are part of the ABDL potty training process.
ABDL potty training can include fun charts with stickers and stars or other ways to keep track of success.
Read: Age Regression & Little Space: How to Get There
6. ABDL Breastfeeding
Everyone loves sucking on breasts—it is a built-in instinct and desire. Even when we grow up, we still mimic the joy and nurture of our mammalian mammary beginnings through our desire for breasts in our sexual relationships.
The idea of sucking on breasts appeals to most people on some level—not just straight men but gay men, gay women, and straight women too. It’s totally natural.
An adult baby Mommy Domme may want to comfort her baby by breastfeeding. Many adult babies have a specific breastfeeding fetish or simply enjoy ABDL breastfeeding as part of age regression play.
ABDL breastfeeding can be used as a ABDL training because it can be used as a reward or withheld as punishment.
Read: Adult Breastfeeding Fetish and Fantasy
7. ABDL Sissy Training
Sissy boy training or sissification is an ABDL training idea or an ABDL kink. Age regression play for a male may include being dressed up as a girl or mocked for being a big baby or not being a real adult male.
Sissification training involves being made to wear baby girl clothes, wet oneself, be penetrated anally, be dressed in ribbons and in pink. It is a form of erotic humiliation or erotic degradation.
Read: Forced Feminization and Sissification Kinks
8. ABDL Humiliation
Similarly, ABDL humiliation training is about other ways to humiliate an adult baby. Erotic humiliation is a powerful and common kink among submissives of every stripe, including adult babies.
ABDL humiliation can include being left in a wet or dirty diaper, having breastfeeding withheld, making fun of baby, neglecting baby in a play pen, punishment and discipline.
Read: All About Degradation Kink and How to Play
9. ABDL Rules and Tasks
Rules and tasks are essential ABDL training ideas. Most BDSM power exchange relationships employ rules and tasks. They give BDSM sessions structure and allow submissive active ways to please their dominant.
Rules and tasks also remind the sub about the relationship in a longer time context. The tasks may be performed daily even when Mommy or Daddy are not around.
In ABDL training ideas, the rules and tasks may include things like working at playing blocks, coloring, finishing their whole bottle, and not crying when their diaper is wet.
Read: 11 Age Play Fetishes and Kinks
10. ABDL Punishments
There are many ABDL punishment training ideas. Punishments are given to enforce the power exchange relationship, guide the adult baby, express care and concern, correct negative behavior, or pleasure adult baby through punishment and humiliation—giving them the discipline and humiliation they crave.
ABDL punishment training ideas include “diaper display” or showing their diaper, denying diaper change, spanking, denying breastfeeding or bottle, ignoring their cries if they are defiant, sissy punishments like wearing hair bows or little girl socks, denying masturbation, going to bed early, withholding cartoons on TV, taking away a pacifier, removing stickers from reward charts, and taking away a favorite toy or plush animal.
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