Looking for non-penetrative sex ideas?
The world of kink offers an endless buffet of sexual activities for anyone who needs or wants alternatives to classic intercourse sex.
The kinky imagination is a playground of inventions for sexual pleasure, offering fun ways to play for anyone in any situation, including those looking for non-penetrative sex.
Why You Might Choose Non-Penetrative Sex
There are many reasons why someone might be looking for sex without penetration, sometimes called “outercourse.”
- You want protection from pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections
- You are polyamorous and only have penetrative sex with one or select partners as part of your arrangements, boundaries, or commitments
- You are currently celibate or symbolically celibate for personal commitments or other reasons but still want to express your sexuality
- You are menstruating and are not comfortable with penetrative sex at this time
- You have a political conviction that views penetration as an act that violates feminism, or as an act of violence or inequality
- You want more variety out of sex
- You don’t enjoy penetration, or don’t enjoy it as much as other ways to play
- You have erection issues but still want to experience sexual pleasure
- You have vulvodynia or other painful genital issues
- You have herpes, HIV, or other STIs that you don’t want to pass on
- You are practicing non-penetrative sex as a sexual punishment, BDSM restraint, or ownership play such as orgasm denial
- You are pregnant and don’t want to expose the pregnancy to external bacteria
Read: Why She Doesn’t Want Sexual Penetration
If you’re looking for non-penetrative ideas for these or any other reasons, there are many. Almost everyone who enjoys sex already practices numerous variations for pleasure that don’t involve penetration.
You don’t have to be kinky, of course, either. Masturbation and oral sex can be non-penetrative. Touching, grinding, dirty dancing, sensual massage, showering together, phone sex, and so much more can be part of the banquet.
Read: Pussy Eating Fetish & 5 Cunnilingus Kinks
17 Non-Penetrative Fetishes
1. Role Play
Role play isn’t one kink and can mix with many. It is flexible to any kind of fantasy. Role play gives long-term lovers a chance at variety, and it can be modified to work for two, three, or more lovers. It’s a chance to act out fantasies and step into another character, to switch up power roles, or dress up in racy outfits.
Read: BDSM Roleplay Ideas and Scenarios
2. Leather
Leather can be a non-penetrative kink. The ritual of dressing up, the sensual texture of leather on skin, the smell of leather, and the appearance of leather are some of the ways leather is important to people with a leather fetish. Lots who don’t have a kink still enjoy leather as a sensual element.
Read: Sensation Play for Beginners
3. Water Sports
Urophilia, also called golden showers, is pleasure derived from urinating or being urinated on. It is a non-penetrative kink. Some people prefer the sensation of peeing their pants, others want to drink their partner’s urine or be pissed on.
4. Fat Fetish and Feeder Fetish
You can enjoy the bounty of bodacious women without vaginal or anal penetration. Frottage—rubbing up against her—is especially delicious with BBW lovers because there are so many curves and folds to explore.
The related feeder fetish loves fat bodies too, but especially the idea of her eating and growing.
5. Little Play
Littles are a form of age play. It’s all about dressing up, playing with toys, and snuggling.
Read: An Introduction to Littles and Little Space
6. Bondage
Most bondage rituals and practices are non-penetrative and many don’t even require anyone to take off their clothes.
Enjoy a realm of activities and paraphernalia. Rope bondage, suspension bondage, predicament bondage are all gorgeous, sensual arts that focus on restraint and restriction rather than penetration.
7. Sadomasochism
The whole body is involved in sadist and masochistic rituals. Inflicting and receiving pain, sexual punishments, and other sensations are all non-penetrative.
Read: BDSM Ideas: The BIG List of BDSM Play
8. Impact Play
Impact play—spanking, paddling, caning—is one of the most common and popular BDSM practices.
From playful whacking with a swatting hand to carefully chosen instruments like whips, canes, and leather paddles, getting or giving a good spanking is sensational.
9. Foot Fetish
Foot fetishes rarely focus on penetration in sex. A foot job feels fantastic, and foot fetishists prefer to touch, lick, kiss and worship feet over sticking their dick into a pussy.
Read: Footjob Techniques that Will Blow Your Mind
10. Voyeurism and Exhibitionism
Show off your goods for the thrill, or watch your lover dance or masturbate.
Read: How to Be an Exhibitionist
11. Degradation and Humiliation
If you’re a glutton for punishment, enjoy the psychological and physical plays that are part of humiliation or degradation kinks from a Dom or Domme.
12. Adult Baby
Diaper play, age regression and other aspects of the adult baby kink are non-penetration fetishes.
13. Pony Play
If you want to wear a horse tail, it can mean anal penetration. Otherwise, pony play is all about straddling and jumping, costume, tack, whips, exhibitionism, and more.
Read: What is Pony Play?
14. Pregnancy and Lactation Kinks
If you have a thing for lactating ladies, you can nurse and nuzzle to your heart’s content without penetration. Adult nursing relationships are an intense way to bond with your kinky lover.
15. Cock & Ball Torture
CBT is a non-penetrative dominance and submission kink, or a masochism kink, that is all about sweet pain for your nuts and bolts.
Read: Cock and Ball Torture Techniques
16. Nipple and Breast Torture
On the other hand, guys, gals, and nonbinary folks sometimes have a thing for extreme nipple stimulation, play, and torture. It’s non-penetrative sex that keeps all the pleasure and pain above the waist!
Read: Guide to Nipple and Breast Torture
17. Pantyhose Kink
The pantyhose fetish is a very popular, very intense non-penetrative kink.
Although those who love nylons may enjoy penis in vagina—especially when that vagina is wearing pantyhose—they more often than not prefer feet, legs, buttocks, covered in pantyhose of course, or masturbating with pantyhose, or wearing pantyhose.
For more non-penetrative sex ideas, read Outercourse Ideas for Kinky Couples.
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