Thinking of sending a sexy BDSM text to your sub or dom?
If you’re a kink lover, it’s important to know how to send safe, sane, and consensual BDSM texts to your dominant or submissive partner.
Your vast options only depend on your imagination’s dirty depths. I’ve seen text messages to some submissives that would make Andrew Dice Clay blush in embarrassment. But she wanted it that way, so that’s how she got it!
Before I offer up some sexting ideas and examples, I’d like to share a few boundaries around BDSM texting and sexting before you scribe your naughty thoughts.
Before You Send a BDSM Text
First of all, never send a kinky text to someone without having a very explicit and open conversation about who is the dom and who is the sub, what you can and cannot say and do, and where the relationship starts and stops.
Is it fair game to text during the workday? Will you have a weekly session in person to do the things you’ve been teasingly texting all week? Is the limit one text a day? Do the texts allow nude pictures or not?
Following the rules you create together makes for better fantasies, fewer tragedies, and happier memories.
Read: Sexting Dos and Don’ts for Kinky Guys
Never send a kinky text to someone you don’t have consent to do such a thing with, period. But once you have the green light, here are some BDSM text ideas to get the juices flowing between freaky couples.
Make the most of your time apart before getting back together to make another scene come to life!
BDSM Text Ideas for Doms
Go into the bathroom in 15 minutes and lock yourself in the stall at the end. Masturbate yourself to orgasm. Moan quietly but passionately. Record an audio clip of your climax, and send it to me.
These days, it’s easy and fun to give orders to our partners and share little fantasies that they can bring to life in a safe way. You can engage in risky but safe play where you ask them to do something in a place they’re familiar with and aware of its boundaries and limits.
This is a great way to get your submissive to take pics, video, and/or audio that you can add to your collection!
Read:Â 13 Ways to Dominate Your Submissive
Daddy’s Girl has been bad, and he’s going to punish her. For every single minute she is late after 7pm, she will get ONE full-force smack. If she complains, she will get TWO smacks. It’s 6:48. Tick tock, tick tock…
Mission impossible texts are always sexy as fuck, with time-sensitive commands and instructions for what you plan to do, want to do, and demand to have done. It’s fun to push boundaries with time, but be safe about it—don’t cause accidents or chaos. If you create sexual tension and anticipation, everyone wins this race!
Read: How to Be a Good Dominant
BDSM Text Ideas for Submissives
I’m in the janitor’s closet at my workplace and wearing nothing under this trench coat. What are you eating for lunch?
Offering to hand over control is one of the most generous and arousing things a sub can do of their own volition, and adding new opportunities and coming up with fresh ways to be of sexual service is a spectacular attitude to have as a submissive. Being creative, clever, and comedic helps, and taking calculated risks is smart and seductive.
I don’t actually suggest hiding in the boss’ closet naked, unless you want to throw in some financial domination paypig business and gamble with your job, ha ha. (Don’t.) Submit in some other slick manner!
Read:Â How to Be a Good Slave to a Domme
Master, I wore the butt plug you told me to and the lingerie you bought me. How soon can you come to undress and unplug me?
A classic sub offering is the buttplug-in-private-but-public-trick, and it’s a classic for a reason. If you throw in a vibrator, you may get some extra orgasmic fun and possible squirty action added to the proceedings! Mixing toys with sexy clothing is always a win-win! Highly recommended.
Add your own spin to the BDSM texts I’ve suggested and play to your heart’s content! Just stay safe, sane, and consensual while you do.
Read: Domination and Submission Games to Play
What is the sexiest BDSM text message you have ever received or sent?
Sincerely,
Adhimu “Malcolm Lovejoy” Stewart
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