What Is a Group Sex Kink?
A group sex fetish or group sex kink is when someone is especially turned on sexually and psychologically by multiple partners at one time.
Group sex is an extremely common fantasy for most people, and one of the most popular styles of porn. It’s also very common for people to explore their group sex kink a few times in real life.
A lot of people try a threesome or other group sex scenes while experimenting with sex in general early in their lives. Others choose to continue exploring what might be, for them, a group sex fetish.
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There are lifestyles that are more open to experimenting with group sex kinks, such as hotwifing. Polyamorous people and other consensual non-monogamous people may have group sex as part of their relationship styles.
Experimenting with threesomes or having regular group sex sessions in polyamory doesn’t mean someone has a group sex fetish. They may enjoy many kinds of play or group sex circumstantially. But for some, relating to more than one partner at a time is more than just hot—it’s part of what drives them. Their sexual and psychological satisfaction depend heavily on this fantasy or practice.
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Some people with a group sex fetish have a very specific fetish, and for others it’s quite broad and varied. This is in line with how fetishes in general work. For example, a very common fetish is the foot fetish. It’s common for quite a few people to simply be aroused by feet, and anything to do with feet. Maybe it’s limited to a particular gender but other than that, anything goes. Maybe it’s high heels. For others, it’s very particular—they are aroused by wide feet, by long toenails, by the arch of the foot, by bowling shoes or red stilettos.
The idea of group sex may be the kink. You may get off on watching old movies about friends at the ski lodge having an orgy in the hot tub, fantasize about MMF threeways. or jerk off to gang bang porn.
Some people have a very particular group sex kink. Some are only excited by the idea of multiple ejaculations onto a female (bukkake fetish), and some are only interested in being dominated by their wife and her bull (cuckolding fetish).
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7 Group Sex Kinks and Fantasies
1. Threesomes
Threesomes are one of the most popular fantasies and sexual desires among anyone. It is extremely common for people of all genders to fantasize about and explore threesomes in real play.
Many people experiment with threesome experiences a few times or with a particular triad of lovers in their lifetime, but don’t pursue ongoing or regular threeways. Others have what could be considered a group sex kink for three in the bed.
The idea or the experience of a man making love to two women at once is enormously popular, but the FFM is also the most popular threesome fantasy for women—it’s an opportunity for her to explore sex with another woman. For women who are bisexual or just curious, this arrangement is literally the best of both worlds.
Of course, other threesomes also happen: MFM, MMM, FFF, and gender variations with cis and transgender or nonbinary people.
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2. Foursomes
As popular as the threesome is for the group sex fetish, it’s also a fact of life that three can be tough to pull off. Some experience or fear ending up the third wheel on the wagon. It can just be tricky to lust equitably from an odd number. Voila, the foursome. This arrangement lends itself to couple swapping during a session and to endless variations.
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3. Orgies
The original orgia were ecstatic secret ritual celebrations where priests and followers of goddesses like Cybele would sing and dance themselves into a trance state, sometimes involving group sex and sometimes castration! In modern parlance, we usually mean a wild, unconstrained party with open sex between anyone and everyone.
People with a group sex fetish may participate in orgies. Inclusive, and anything goes, many orgies are secretive and very exclusive and selective, with hosts choosing specific guests to elite tastes and attractions.
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4. Gang Bangs
The official definition of a gang bang is the forcible rape of a woman by multiple men. In modern usage, we usually mean a woman getting fucked by multiple men one after another, with her eager consent.
For some women with a group sex fetish, being desired by many men is the ultimate aphrodisiac, and experiencing multiple cocks in the same session is incredible. Other women fantasize about the original context of the gang bang. Rape is a common female fantasy, a fact better understood when we see that in fantasy, she can still direct and control the action such as who, what and when, making her fantasy a safe space even in danger.
The gang bang fantasy in this context makes sense, too—all lust and no real pain or violence or STIs. For some, the gang bang is the ultimate in BDSM submission and humiliation.
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5. Bukkake
Bukkake is a common group sex fetish in fantasy and porn, and sometimes for real. It involves three or more men jerking off and ejaculating on a naked female. Its origins were in Japanese porn and is used frequently now in many porn scenes.
It’s not common for a woman to genuinely crave and love male cum and want it all over her. Of course, some women do have this fantasy or seek it out in reality, but it is mainly a male fantasy. It is very common for men to get incredibly turned on by the idea of ejaculating on, in, or over the female. Hence all the cream pie and facial videos, complete with the fantasy of her desperate and thirsting for it.
In some situations, ejaculating on a female is about asserting dominance and about her humiliation. A submissive woman into BDSM may crave this kind of group sex fetish as a kind of punishment or degradation play.
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6. Swinging
Swinging involves heterosexual couples in a relationship choosing to date and play with other couples socially and sexually, swapping partners at swinger parties or events, sometimes in the same room as their main partner and sometimes in private rooms.
Swinging couples go home together and stay together, and they participate in group sex or partner exchanges together.
Read: How to Bring Swinging into Your Relationship
7. Cuckolding
Cuckolding is an experience or a lifestyle that is a very common male fantasy. For many, the fantasy is necessary and primary to their excitement and enjoyment of sex that is definitely a fetish.
Cuckolding is a kind of group sex fetish because it involves the male’s wife seeking other men to satisfy her sexually. The male gets off when his wife or lover seeks out other men. It is generally a humiliation kink, where part of the thrill for him is the idea that another male has attributes such as good looks, a hard body, a massive cock or sexual stamina that he lacks.
Often, the cuckold participates in the play between his wife and her bull. He might be “forced” to watch, hear details about the encounters, or be part of the play that humiliates and degrades him, such as cleaning the sheets, comparing dick size, submission to both his wife and her lover.
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How to Satisfy Your Group Sex Kink
1. Group Sex Dating Sites
You can use your online dating profile to let others know about your group sex kink. Look for other people who are open to connecting with multiple people at once. Use niche dating sites that are specifically for connecting many lovers with a group sex fetish for play.
Read: How To Find Group Sex: Dating Sites That Deliver
2. Fetish Clubs
Check out local sex clubs for a variety of sex events that may include threesomes, orgies or partner swapping. Sex clubs usually have different events, social meetings, and more. You can dip your toes in the water by participating in all kinds of events, mingling, talking to people, and getting to know others with a group sex kink.
Read: Fetish Clubs and Parties: 10 Types of Events
3. Group Sex Roleplay
It can take a lot of imagination to feel like there’s more than the two of you, but lots of people with a group sex fetish or people who fantasize about threesomes find the idea hot and don’t necessarily need more than that.
You can amp up the atmosphere with semi-darkness, a blindfold, erotic audio, various dildos, or even by dressing like another character or personality. For many, just dirty talk about watching her with another man or playing with two women at once can take you there.
Read: How to Roleplay a Group Sex Scene
4. Arrange Your Own Group Sex Fetish Scene
Why wait for a threesome to come to you? You won’t magically walk into an orgy. But you can arrange your group sex kink scenario. Decide to host an orgy or sex party. It can take some effort to find and screen participants, so you might start with a threesome, or connect with horny people to find potential participants.
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5. Porn and Fantasy
Some folks with a group sex fetish don’t want or need to dive into the pool for real. Or maybe they did try threesomes, orgies, swinging and other kinds of group sex, and found the experience did not compare to their dreams. Some people are shy or socially anxious or just find getting up close and personal with the gang naked doesn’t work out the way it does in the movies.
This means the group sex fetish is no different from any other kind of kink or sexual fantasy—some fantasies are more enjoyable in our minds. Watching porn, private group sex kinky fantasies, or reading or listening to group sex fetish erotica are all common and easy ways to indulge your tastes for more than one at a time.
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6. Swingers Parties and Cruises
There are all kinds of niche sites, vacations, parties, house events, club nights and more with swinging in mind. If you and your partner have a group sex fetish, you can start out by swinging and you’ll naturally meet other couples who are into group play as well as partner exchanges.
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