Are you a Daddy Dom? Does a Little Girl long for your love in a Daddy Dom Little Girl (DDLG) relationship?
In 1960, in the movie Let’s Make Love, Marilyn Monroe launched a thousand, er, ships, with her coy rendition of “My Heart Belongs to Daddy.” In nylon stockings and a periwinkle cable knit sweater, with her little girl voice and blonde bouffant hair, she slinks and winks her way across the Hollywood screen.
It wasn’t the first time she played to the DDLG flavor of the era. More than a decade before, she was the dazzle in a fizzle of a film, Ladies of the Chorus, when she showed off her gams in a stunning gown while warbling “Every Baby Needs a Da-Da-Daddy.”
These memorable performances capture perfectly the playful sweetness of the Daddy Dom Little Girl kink relationship.
The Daddy Dom and DDLG kink is a variety of dominant and submissive relationship within BDSM. It frequently intersects with or includes a number of kinks from BDSM and more, such as BDSM brat, age play, little space, bondage, and discipline.
Read: Age Play Fetishes and Kinks
Of course, adult baby kinks and incest kinks come to mind, and sometimes are part of the DDLG thing, but not as often as it would seem. For the most part, the Daddy Dom Little Girl kink is a consensual psychological exchange that is playful, nurturing, and affectionate.
What Is a Daddy Dom?
A Daddy Dom is a dominant personality in the BDSM world of dominance and submission.
The Daddy is a subset character of the dominant. He is a caregiver, an authority, and willing to punish and discipline his submissive. He is an affectionate figure.
The Daddy Dom is also very nurturing. He is a protector figure. He adores his Little Girl submissive (or “his girl” or “Daddy’s girl.”) He takes delight in her clothing, hairstyles, and conversational accounts of her day. He is her teacher and helps guide her through decisions. He compliments and flatters her and spoils her. He snuggles her and cares for her every need. He is also willing to be a disciplinarian and knows what is best for his girl.
The Daddy Dom may be turned on by more intense or rigorous BDSM and S&M, but sometimes psychological dominance is more than enough. A good old-fashioned spanking kink might be the only kind of punishment the role players enjoy.
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However, if both Daddy Dom and his submissive Little Girl are into more severe punishments and enjoy sadomasochism in bed, the Daddy Dom may play with the repertoire of bondage and discipline kinks from spanking to restraint bondage to leather and more.
Daddy Dom Relationships
A Daddy Dom has an intimate domination and submission relationship with a consenting adult roleplaying a Little Girl, a consenting adult roleplaying a Little Boy, or a transgender submissive playing at any little person they choose.
The common thread is the Daddy Dom is the caregiver and holds control and authority over the submissive person.
Some Daddy Dom relationships are only acted out in the bedroom as a sexual kink. Like other BDSM relationships, some dominant-submissive relationships are enacted in daily life outside of the bedroom, not just as sexual role play.
There are Daddy Dom relationships that are not sexual in nature. They are platonic and friendly, or stand-ins for actual Daddy/Little Girl relationships to serve a psychological need, rather than sexual need. A facsimile of the Daddy Dom Little Girl or other Daddy Dom relationship is sometimes used in psychology or in therapy for therapeutic purposes and can be part of psychological age-regression therapy.
Read: Age Regression & Little Space Kinks
Daddy Dom Little Girl (DDLG)
Some sites and some BDSM communities equate ABDL (Adult Baby Diaper Lover) relationships with DDLG fetishes, and there may be some crossover. But the psychology and expression of Daddy Dom kink life is usually very different—DDLG is about a dominant Daddy figure in a nurturing, caregiving role. Daddy has control of his submissive little girl, who may be playful, bratty, or sweet, and enjoy dressing up in little girl clothes. She does not usually wear diapers for kinky reasons or use kinky adult baby equipment or paraphernalia.
Generally speaking, the LG in DDLG relationships is interested in pleasing an authority figure who she loves. Her dominant (her Daddy Dom) is a caregiver to her and fulfills psychological needs for discipline, affection, decision making, snuggling, and telling her she’s pretty.
The Little Girl may enjoy playing with toys or wearing cute outfits and hairstyles. She wants to hear that she is a good girl and please her Daddy Dom. She wants to adore him and to be adored, to chatter about her day. She wants her Daddy’s full attention and doesn’t want to share him. She may need to be instructed or disciplined if she is too jealous when Daddy goes to work.
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A DDLG may want to be showered with special presents like teddy bears, sleep with her stuffed animals, wear sweet pajamas to bed, snuggle with Daddy while she is sleeping, play with Daddy, watch cartoons, wear her hair in ponytails, do homework with Daddy or play on the swings with him, own a Hello Kitty collection or other cute toys, and enter a psychological little space through play and activities that have a little girl feel.
She understands and expects her Daddy Dom to discipline her when she is out of line, help her with decisions and mistakes, protect her from harm, and give her all the affection and adoration she wants and needs.
Read: How to Be a Good Dom
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