So, you’re exploring your kinky submissive side? It doesn’t matter if you feel like you’re late to your own kink party, or if you’ve been doing this since you were fifteen years old and piercing your scrotum for puberty pleasure, there is always more to learn in this realm of sexual exploration.
There is never any judgement in the speed of progress or need for rest that a submissive or a dominant might need to take on this tantalizing trip into the unknown, yet oddly safe and comforting space, called BDSM.
There is a lot of attention put on to being the one in control of any and all sexual situations. Life is full of all manner of environments where non-consensual pseudo-fraud-doms exert unwanted power and control over people who are unwillingly forced to become submissive to their weakling whims. I feel for you all!
There is always a need for subs, because we live in a world that loves to pretend that being the boss is the best, and being on top is all that matters. Well, if there was never anyone on the bottom, how could anyone ever be on top?
This post is dedicated to the kinky submissives out there who like to make the grand sacrifice.
4 Kinks for Submissives to Explore
1. Spanking
Spanking is basic fun that can be had by everyone! You can spank with what you were born with, or a dozen other things found around the house. Spanking with the hand is fun, easy to control, needs no real instructions (hopefully not), and easy to change power intensity with. Spanking can also be done with paddles, spoons, other hard-surface objects, and many other pervertables that only you can come up with in your own time and space!
Spanking is always possible, whether going up an escalator in a mall or going deep into a leather-dyke dungeon for a hardcore kink orgy!
2. Tickling and Teasing
Tickle fetish and tickle torture is an acquired taste, but you never know how you’ll feel about any submissive kink until you actually try it!
Alternatively, you could do something soft and playful, and take a feather and tease someone with it gently. They may not like it, but that might be a fun bratty game you play with them.
Your submissive might be tied down to a bench and have no choice in what they are receiving, so try to see what soft spots on their body can’t take the opposite of impact play. One of the truly fun aspects of kink is exploring the entire breadth and depth of light and dark energy expression. Can you turn a feather into something as harsh as a whip?
Read:Â 4 Tickle Torture Tips for Kinky Couples
3. St. Andrew’s Cross
Jumping up a few levels in experience, St. Andrew’s Cross is a classic submissive prop found in well-stocked BDSM dungeons everywhere. It’s a large X-shaped cross with chains on the wall, where anybody can get locked up for some consensual impact play.
Exposing the back, ass, legs, and/or stomach and arms in tantalizing new ways and means, the Cross is for those who want to step their submissive kink game up, and sub on a higher level of sacrificial offering.
Usually a perfect setting for a long flogging sessions or some cropping or caning or whatever else you can dream up, it’s a lovely day to get some smacking action on a St. Andrews Cross, please believe it! (If you’ve got no space for a huge wooden cross, you can tie someone to the bed with silk neckties that are easy to cut if the game gets to its intensity limit, or use a light sheet. But get your lover bound and then do sexxxy stuff to their damn body!
4. Nipple Torture
How does she want her nipples tortured today? Clamped? Pinched? Bitten? Smacked? Flogged or whipped? Or maybe ice cubes circling around her erect nubs? Perhaps a bit of electric-wand play?
If you’re the Dom, it may be your decision! The nipples are a hilarious and happy place to focus impact play, and hopefully your sub is able to accept any awesome amount of attention on their nipples for super-specific sexy time games.
Read: Guide to Nipple and Breast Torture
Some nipples are able to take extreme pain while others respond beautifully to extreme pleasure. There’s only one way to find out how your sub responds. Let us know your nipple play tips or other submissive kinks in the comments!
With dominant love,
Addi “Malcolm Lovejoy” Stewart
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